Ok..How do you tell the difference

[sara_also]

The last two days have been very nice..My wonderful wife and I have been out two evenings in a row...Thursday night we went out for fast food and then did a little casino trip... Friday we went to one of the local casinos that have movie theaters to see Flicka.(the new movie version).

So here is the question. After parking the car in the parking garage, we had to take the elevator down to the casino level. Being Friday evening they were quite busy. Upon entering the elevator, several other patrons also were in the elevator, and one gentelman seemed to be looking at me the whole time. After exiting to the casino floor I mentioned to my wife that he had read me. My wife disagreed, and said that he was checking me out as any male does when they find a female attractive.
So...how can you tell the difference between being read or being admired?

I guess I still have some things to learn about being a lady....

A couple of pics to show what we were wearing..

[Tina Dixon]

I think he was checking you because of your height maybe, if you ask me its our main give away, but you terrific and must have had a great time.

[sara_also]

Thanks Tina, But I am not really that tall..My wife is only 5 ft. tall. So that makes me look a little taller in the pic. Prob only about 5ft. 4in.. I suppose it is possible though.

[Kristen Kelly]

Dont worry you look great, he was just checking you out, in male mode I am attracted to taller women.

[CaptLex]

I'd say you pass very well, Sara, so I agree that the guy was probably checking you out - as in, he was interested in you. How to tell the difference? It's in the eyes - there's either a bit of lust in there or an unmistakeable, "what's wrong with this picture?" look. You look great, by the way.

[princessmichelle]

Sara,
I don't think you were read. I thought you were read when I just read your post, until I saw your picture, then I said oh my goddess, she is totally passable. I'm sure a lot of work went in to developing this femme self. Congratulations.

"Princess" michelle

[Joyce1702]

Yep, he was definitely checking you out. And your picture is a perfect illustration of a very tasteful outfit that blends in almost anywhere.

Good for you!

Joyce

[Penny]

From you picture, it does'nt appear that you were read. However, just remember if you read, what happens in LV stays in LV.:heehee:

[Kate Simmons]

I dunno Hon. As Ericka, any looks I get by a guy are just interpreted by me as a compliment. I feel I was worth the look whether he was checking me out as a girl or trying to figure if I'm "real". Makes me feel a little special.:happy: Ericka/Rich

[AprilMae]

Maybe it was both. You were being read and admired at the same time. Maybe he was a fellow traveller.

[Patty]

I think he was admiring you-you look great

[Katelyn]

You do look great. He was probabley admiring you.

[Rachel Morley]

Upon entering the elevator, several other patrons also were in the elevator, and one gentelman seemed to be looking at me the whole time. After exiting to the casino floor I mentioned to my wife that he had read me. My wife disagreed, and said that he was checking me out as any male does when they find a female attractive.
This has happened to me too....the last time was in the Hilton in San Francisco a couple of months ago. I sometimes get nervous in elevators because people are very close to me and they can get a real good look, so I'm wary of outing myself because I look quilty about something. My wife was just like yours, she was convinced that I had not been read and was just being "checked out" ..like men do.

Going on your pictures alone, I'd say that I agree with your wife. I think you look very attractive and the guy was checking you out too. Your question....how can we tell the difference between being read and being admired? I guess we can't...or at least I know I can't tell, unless they make it obvious to me what they're thinking.

[Josephine Bonne]

Sara,

You looked great in the pictures and should expect to have men give you a little side glance! I would spend days/nights on end out if I could pass as well as you do. Keep having fun and being yourself.
Hugs,
Josephine

[Eileen]

Sara I can only imagine him looking at you and thinking to himself, now there is a actractive woman! Then he thought if only I was single! You had a great time! Do not give it a second thought. You are going to be checked out a lot!

Eileen

[Nigella]

If he was checking you out, great you "passed"

If he had "clocked" you, why worry, it's not as if you'll meet him again.

[flatlander_48]

After dating for 3 years or so, my 2nd wife and I have been married for about a year and a half. Early on I noticed that people responded to us very positively when we were out (but not dressed, just being regular folks). People smiled, they engaged us in conversation, seemed pleased at the interaction, etc. That never happened with my first wife. What I concluded is that people notice how you present yourself (for the lack of a better term). If you're feeling good and feeling good about who you are with, it radiates. Folks may not understand why they notice you or what they are senseing, but it's "something".

[MJ]

hi girls well you look great i think it's your height. keep on doing what you are doing you are fine

[Angie G]

Hi Sara the man was looking at a lady just checking you out babe :hugs:
Angie

[Amy Hepker]

You do look great and I think you have a very wonderful Lady to enjoy being yourself with. Just have fun and don't worry about what others think. Don't look back to much or you may get more than expected. Don't let him think that you are interested in him. Just stay in your world and be yourself with your wonderful wife.
GOD BLESS US ALL!!!
AMY

[sara_also]

I want to thank all of you who responded to my question...I guess from the majority of your responses that he was checking me out. A great ego boost.

DON'T YOU JUST HATE IT WHEN YOUR WIFE IS RIGHT!!!.....Just kidding dear.

And thank you all for the compliments.
Hugs
Sara

[Stephenie S]

Dear Sara,

I agree with your wife, hun. Welcome to the club.

Girls get stared at ALL THE TIME. If you are going to present to the world as a girl, you had better get used to it.

Can you tell WHY they are staring at you? Nope. And neither can a GG. Of course a GG doesn't have to worry about being "clocked", but there are a hundred other things that you or a GG can worry about. Is my makeup OK? Is my hair a mess? Is my skirt crooked? Is my blouse untucked? Am I too fat? etc., etc. Suck it up dear. You look fine.

Lovies,
Steph

[Billijo49504]

If he pinches your touch, then you can be sure, but from looking at your pics, I'd say he was interested in you...BJ

[ColleenCD]

Sara,

You were being scoped out, not read. This guy was probably just being a guy. You didn't sing in a low tone in his presence, or hear any comment from him, then he's seeing two available ladies!

Colleen