Iniquity Blonde GG
10-28-2006, 03:34 AM
sorry about new thread, but i carnt seem to answer the origianal thread on "giving up c/d". :(
from a partners point-of-view on c/d, he did continuely say to me he wouldnt do it infront of me, and keep it just to himself , like he used to. but, when he told me about his dressing, and how hed surrpressed it for so long, ( waited till ex-wife went away, or did it when it was dark, and he felt it was disgusting), i just broke down and cried. :sad:
how could i tell the person i love to stop doing something that obviously he wanted to share it with, and be part of it. he told me he felt "****ty" and just bought tarty stuff, because thats how he felt dirty and cheap. thats when i took over lol :D .
i may him experiment with new colours/looks, no way was i having him feeling tacky etc with it. that would have continued to a nasty downward spirral for him, and i couldnt do that to anybody i loved.
yes, i have to be honest, sometimes i do get alittle wary of it, and fed-up with it, but then i stop myself and think how selfish iam being. i have no rights to tell him how to live his life, like nobody has the right to tell me, so...... giving up ur c/d because u feel u have to do to make ur wife happy is just really living a lie. im no expert etc, but maybe just sitting down with her talking @ length might help.
i hope and pray that you find what you truely want for u both xxx
tc for now xx wicked blonde GG xx :love:
from a partners point-of-view on c/d, he did continuely say to me he wouldnt do it infront of me, and keep it just to himself , like he used to. but, when he told me about his dressing, and how hed surrpressed it for so long, ( waited till ex-wife went away, or did it when it was dark, and he felt it was disgusting), i just broke down and cried. :sad:
how could i tell the person i love to stop doing something that obviously he wanted to share it with, and be part of it. he told me he felt "****ty" and just bought tarty stuff, because thats how he felt dirty and cheap. thats when i took over lol :D .
i may him experiment with new colours/looks, no way was i having him feeling tacky etc with it. that would have continued to a nasty downward spirral for him, and i couldnt do that to anybody i loved.
yes, i have to be honest, sometimes i do get alittle wary of it, and fed-up with it, but then i stop myself and think how selfish iam being. i have no rights to tell him how to live his life, like nobody has the right to tell me, so...... giving up ur c/d because u feel u have to do to make ur wife happy is just really living a lie. im no expert etc, but maybe just sitting down with her talking @ length might help.
i hope and pray that you find what you truely want for u both xxx
tc for now xx wicked blonde GG xx :love: