Are you torpedoing your male atire on purpose??

[Karren H]

Just wondering if we don't dress like crap when in male mode on purpose....or at least our subconsious is doing it for us? Male atire is soooo boreing and maybe we don't put the effort into it like we do our female wardrobe?

Friday when I got home from work my wife says to me..."You look like hell". Grrrrrrr. I always try to look good so I thing, in either mode...but she says "your shirt doesn't go with your pants or your sports coat and your tie......yuk!! Well all I could think of is that I get plenty of compliments on my female atire, from friends and sales associates.... Am I dressing up my male side to look bad because I'm trying to make "him" look bad, don't want to be dressed as a male or just don't care? I don't know, how do you feel about the way you dress your male side vs your fem side?

Love Karren

[DAVIDA]

Yeah, I have the same problem. I don't really care about my male look that much. Jean says she wants me to look good, so I try. I just got new jeans to replace the ones Jean says "share croppers" live in the butt!:heehee:

[Kelsy]

I don't know Karren but I sure am neglecting my male wardrobe! I haven't bought a piece of male clothing since early last summer and my jeans and stuff are looking ratty! My boy undies are getting lonely too! Somehow I can't justify spending money on drab!!:D

Jennifer:be:

[Angie G]

I try to look my best in drab but it don't always work :hugs:
Angie

[AprilMae]

Nope, I've always enjoyed putting together my male wardrobe, I find elements leaking from one side to another. I soften my male side with colors or softer fabrics, and as strange as it may seem, I don't go for overly frilly girl's stuff, at least on me. I was in target the other day and bought a couple of men's silk shirts, after pondering whether they would go with some of my skirts as well.

[Tracy Lynn]

My wife recently made me buy a couple new male outfits as I usually just wear crappy jeans and tees. I rarely buy any clothes male or female but when I do I prefer womens clothes. I think I am the same though in that I am really not into looking good as a male, hell I've been doing that for 40 + years. I'm feeling more feminine all the time so I'd rather work on that side of myself. Plus there is so much more to choose from than boring male clothes.

[JEANNE63]

Karren, You said you had kids? Some days are diamonds, some days are rust. I suspect Fri. was just a little rusty. I gotta hang on to some of this stuff cause I gotta clean the garage!.

[Kate Simmons]

Actually, I look better as Richard than I do as Ericka, even in work clothes. I seem to have the knack to color co-ordinate them. Never had anyone say I looked like hell either way though. As Ericka, I have a GAF attitude as far as my outfits but seem to dress okay by default. Hmm, must be my male side coming through in that respect!:heehee: Ericka/Rich

[ReginaK]

There is a good reason they call it drab. That's because it is.

I don't dress like crap per say, but I put minimal effort into it unless i'm trying to impress someone.

[AprilMae]

There is a good reason they call it drab. That's because it is.

I don't dress like crap per say, but I put minimal effort into it unless i'm trying to impress someone.

Does that mean it's called drag , because tt's what it is to do?:p

[Tina Dixon]

When in male mode, I look like a well dressed home less man:D

[Karren H]

My wife recently made me buy a couple new male outfits as I usually just wear crappy jeans and tees. I rarely buy any clothes male or female but when I do I prefer womens clothes. I think I am the same though in that I am really not into looking good as a male, hell .

Funny, friday night after we dropped the son off at the theater, my wife drug me to the new Bosco's and made me buy new dress shirts and ties! She picked out some nice bright dark colors and all I could think of was "cool, my bra won't show through those". Hehehe. $175 worth. Then Saturday during the parade my daughter ended up in the Tall Girls shop, so I taged along with her and my wife!! Wow. Nice things and I need to go back there and pickup a few things. But then again my daughter spent $350 so I probably can't afford to buy anything for Karren for a while. Lol

Love Karren

[AprilMae]

My shoe fetish has spilled over to my male side for sure. Used to be 1 pair of sneakers ,1 pair of black dress shoes, and maybe 1 or 2 pair of casualy shoes. Now I have about 10 pair ranging from various shades of brown and tan in different textures, to even several pair of sneakers. Same thing with socks. Used to be black ,white, navy blue. Now it's all sorts of colors and patterns.

[tekla west]

Most of my male stuff is in fact girl stuff.

[michele_t39]

Hi all ~

Now that I think about it I think subconsciously Michele uses her influence on her guy counterpart and makes him dress not so spiffy. I tend to not put the effort I should in dressing when in guy mode, other than trying to incorporate Michele into him. I push the envelope a but too far at times by wearing some not so masculine attire.

My wife and I went out shopping the other day too for male wardrobe for me. I have a hard time not steering toward the womens section. And is is hard to stick with the blah when the WOW is in the next row. I too will have to get back to that store and pic up a few items.

Thanks for the Post Karren

[Joy Carter]

I dress nice all the time even at work my boss complimented me about my attire. He often sends me to difficult customers just so I we a good impression. Only wish he would "trans-fer" me to sales and I could be his "gurl" to the customers." I'd knock em dead on sales. If they didn't buy then I'd kick em in the knees with my pumps.:heehee:

[Maggie Kay]

I totally agree, I haven't bought any men's clothes in years but continue to wear my old drab stuff even though it is falling into rags. I can't bring myself to go into the men's departments anymore. So I am replacing the old drab stuff with masculine looking or at least ambiguous women's clothes. Fortunately, I don't need a suit anymore or need to wear a tie.

Kay

[Amy Hepker]

Well in my work as a truck driver I find it hard not to try to look good, although good is a pair of jeans and western style snap denim shirts. I do have a Black snap western shirt that the ladies really like. I can tell I will go someplace and see Ladies checking me out. Yes, I do want to turn on the Ladies not the men. I don't want a man in anyway even dressed as a Female. I do want you all as friends though. I do dress high style when I dress as a Female. I just love the soft satiny clothes the feel is just to much, I can't stop loving the feel and the way it makes me feel inside. I do not wear male underware (Gross). I do find myself buying way more Female attire than male, even dressed in drab. It does not bother me at all to go in and scout out the Ladies department at Walmart or anyplace else. No one has ever said anything to me about it, and anymore if they did I would just say it is for me.

[Eugenie]

I also hate my male clothes... If I was left to myself I would always look shabby... I really don't care what I wear. But I have to pay some attention as I'm doing a lot of advocacy work and there I have to look rather decent, if not elegant...

However, a GG friend to whom I've been coming out told me that I should pay more attention to my male style, that if I looked more carefully I could find male clothes that are nice to wear and that suit me, even some that are sufficiently "unisex" as to make me feel less miserable when I have to be in DRAB...

I admit that this has helped me a lot.

:hugs:
Eugenie

[AmberTG]

You know, for years I hated to dress up in men's stuff, I used to wear jeans and sweat shirts, didn't care how my hair looked, etc. I look at some of my pictures from the 80s and 90s and think, wow do I look crappy! I've been trying to look better in drab when I go somewhere now, even though I'd rather wear my girl's jeans due to the fit. They are not "girlie" so I can wear them either way. I've been trying to wear something other then sweat shirts lately just so I dont look like crap. Maybe it's my fem side coming over to my guy side, helping me to improve my appearance. I hope that's it, anyway.

[MJ]

sorry Karen haven't dressed as a guy for two years don't have a clue :eek:
and i doubt i would be able to pass as one ether

[Scotty]

I had a business function the other night and had to put slacks on, a pair I paid dearly for and they were custom tailored.
They barely fit since going on hormones, and while I looked good in guy mode I did not prefer it.

I have noticed that I started dressing like crap in guy mode - it bothers me so I went shopping for some gender neutral clothes this weekend and now I feel better, except my breasts are poking through - so I will always keep a light jacket on I suppose.

Yep, I think you are correct :)

[suzy]

Don't believe that's my problem... I try to dress nice in either mode.....The biggest difference is in femme mode I take time to put on make nicely...but as far as clothes, I dress the part equally drab or enfemme...:D

[tall_brianna]

But is it a subconscious attempt to cover up the feminine side or a result of compartmentalizing the two personalities?

I've actually noticed that as I've let the rabbit out of the hat, I hate my drab clothes. Since I still have to appear in public where I am compelled to dress in masculine attire, I've been getting and wearing much nicer male clothes. I use to be baggy jeans, tee shirt (possibly with a stain), fleece and ratty sandals. Now it's nice fitting jeans (possibly women’s), alfani shirt, dress shoes and sport coat - with a day of jeans and tee every blue moon.

[Rachel Morley]

Apart from a couple of t-shirts and one pair of pants, I don't own any male clothes anymore. Over the last four years every time a piece of male clothing got old or I didn't wear it anymore my wife through it out and replaced it with a woman's version. Add to this for birthdays and Christmas Marla would always buy me girl's clothes to wear...often to wear in boy mode, and so as you can see for me, my "male attire" is decidedly feminine in nature as a consequence isn't neglected.

[Sherlyn]

My male wardrobe is what its always been ....jeans tees or sweatshirt ..ball cap ...canuck typical guy ...can't really wear femmy stuff ...screwing drywall up all day ...however it does keep my girly figure.. working it out all day ..lol ..sooo no complaints ..save the sexy and dressy clothes for the grrly me :)keeping the guy stuff as long as there are houses being built ...for sure!!!!

[Glenda58]

About a tear ago the XGF complained about my male cloths she knew about CDing didn't approve. So I went shopping at Penny's bought pants, shirt, sweater, and shoes. Also knee highs, panties and a tank top. The next night we went out and she said how nice I looked that I should dress like that more offend. What she didn't know was it was all female cloths plus the belt. Since then thats all I buy If I look good why change. As my male cloths get old I shop for new female cloths to replace them:thumbsup:

[SherriePall]

Karren -- Don't you know guys don't have any sense of style or color or coordination? My male friend lets his underwear go to shreds. Sherrie replaces at the first sign of wear. She also can put an outfit together. He needs help picking out a tie to match his shirt. One pair of shoes and one pair of sneakers is all he needs. Everything else is extra. She believes shoes are to die for and all are needed. Need I go on?

[Bridget]

Although my female clothing outnumbers the male clothing, I have to say it's because there is in general less selection available for men in clothing overall.

My wardrobe contains lots of cargo pants, camoflage, brown and so on, along with some jeans. I have lots of t-shirts, sweaters and a few jackets (like a brown track jacket, and a camo jacket which set me back 80 bucks). Crossdressing has helped me to accept my body more, and as a result, I no longer wear large clothes, and mostly wear medium and small. I often shop for mens clothes at the same time as buying womens clothing.

...resulting in a wallet and bank account twice as quickly drained.

I like looking good either way. It feels just as good when I can turn heads in male from girls, as I do when in female. (And as a plus, you know that the girls appreciate your style, and it's not just your boobs. ^^)

[Teresa Amina]

A few years ago I started dressing up slightly for family functions in guy mode, a nice jacket and tie, slacks instead of jeans. No one else bothered, showing up in jeans and t-shirts, ugly space shoes instead of good traditional styles. I was asked where I had come from or what was going on later that I dressed up for. Conclusion- why bother? I really should at least get some new jeans but I'm downsizing and wearing out the innumerable shirts and sweaters that plague X-mas gatherings and have accumulated over the years. Functional for the necessary activities is good enough, the wedding-and-funeral suit will do for all else. My Teresa-ness needs far more investment than the obsolete guy-side.

[Kimkandy]

Just wondering if we don't dress like crap when in male mode on purpose....or at least our subconsious is doing it for us? Male atire is soooo boreing and maybe we don't put the effort into it like we do our female wardrobe?


As a guy I wear leather jackets, jeans, tee shirts, underware comando...

Always gone for comfortable stuff that I like, hate shirt or suits. I have worn same stuff to gigs and bars for years.

I guess I'm supposed to have grown up and worn business suits, but as I get older my taste hasn't changed.

Most guys, me included are lazy when it comes to buying clothes.

Just really getting into female clothes. I like rock chic look or too young for me look. I like lingerie, boots, high heels, short skirts and bright colours.

I'm also spending way too much, even though my guy jeans are falling apart...

Kim

[KateW]

When the occasion calls for it I can dress smart enough, but as for male clothing in general goes, I really don't care. I am very much a jeans and tshirt kind of person, and up until it got really cold last month, you could find me in shorts the whole time (they are as close to a skirt as a guy can get!). I don't think I have purchased a single item of male clothing in the past year, but got some new eyeshadow only today! :-)

[Bernadina]

I don't dress in crap in male mode. Any male clothes I have look good and are stylish.

A lot of the time I'm wearing some female clothes in male mode because they fit me and look good. This can include pants, shirts, sweaters, socks, shoes and boots, jackets, coats and gloves. And of course I only wear panties and when it get cooler, stockings.

[Jenna1561]

Sometimes in male mode my clothing looks like a typical sloppy guy. When working, I have to maintain a better appearance, no tie necessary, but business casual. I alternate 50-50 men's and women's slacks, but I can't find any women's tops that reasonably pass for men's attire. The few tops I find usually have darts that are a dead giveaway. The buttons on the "wrong" side aren't a big deal; but darts, well, I'm certain they'd raise a question or 200.


Jenna