Do you SO's wish it would go away?

[StayceeCD]

I was wondering. How many of you SO's if given the option, would make the CD'ing go away? For the SO's that have always known, and for the ones that were told or found out. I can only imagine just how frustrating it must be. We shake your world with the fact that we like to wear womens clothing, have taken a female name, and we want you to accept us cause we were born like this. Whew! It must be a mindblower! Here's to you SO's that love, accept and understand us unconditionally! But! If given the option..A big red button to push.. Would you like it to go away?
Just wondering?
Staycee+?

[Joy Carter]

Staycee if that were possible I wouldn't be the man I am today. She is most happy with me because I'm caring, sensitive, protective and a hard worker. The two of me are intertwined it's just not the clothes it's who I am.

[Phyliss]

Don't let my wife see that "big red button" she'd mash it with both hands in an instant.

Having said that, I'm ever so slowly showing her that I haven't really changed at all, and that I'm still the same parson, I just am now allowing her to see that I like to wear pretty clothes and skirts also.

She knows it won't "go away" but if she could make it "go away" she would.

[Nikki Dee]

I guess some years ago, had I asked my wife that question, the answer would have been a resounding YES.!!!..Press the button.!!!..but not any more...now she accepts and supports me for what/who I really am..and sees the positives that it gives us...She's very happy now to have a TG husband...her words..not mine.!!
Nikki. x

[Karren H]

Ohhhh Yesss!! I'd say that 100% of the nonaccepting and 99% of the accepting and 50% of the crossdressers wished it would go away!! Hmmmmm if it did I wonder if the 50% of us that were still here could divy up their clothes??

:D

Dibbs on the first size 10 wedding gown!!! Hehehe

Love Karren

[SherriePall]

My wife would press the button. She's still looking for a cure for all this.

[AngGG]

Mostly I am ok with cding but there are times when I would knock people out of my way to get to that button. But I also know that if you took the cding out of my dh it would totally change the person I love...maybe not for the better either:eek: :D

[Iniquity Blonde GG]

sometimes i do feel like that button could be pushed :sad: but thats just when im really tired/down and i want "normal". but, the situation as it is, i dont live with my b/f c/d, and its very rare @ mo he does it, as he doesnt have his own "freedom" to dress, so it is restricted. :straightface: and wev learnt lately to reach a comprimise, so..the red-button hasnt come into play really . :rolleyes:

[Tree GG]

This really shocks me, but no I wouldn't push the go away & never return button. I would like to have a pause, rewind & resume feature. "See that, don't do that again..... WTF was that?" OK, resume.

[GG Vanya]

Absolutely without a doubt...no deal!

With the acceptance of crossdressing comes the understanding and knowledge that to "kill off" Trudi would be to lose so very many of the attributes of the Man I Love.

My husband is giving, loving, attentive and kind because of his gender duality.
Would I give up half of my husband just so I could gain more closet space? No way!

The day I realized that I not only love, but *need* Trudi in my life was when I knew I was totally "ok" with all this.

Besides, when my husband is enfemme, he's *still* more of a man than any other male I've ever known.

[Stephenie S]

Well, my wife DOES wish that it would all just "go away".

She realizes, however, that that isn't me so she is very supportive. I think she knows how much this means to me and that I am really still the same person she married, just with another aspect to my peronality that she did not know at first. (although she did know about this before we were married, she thought I was just "over it"). I do question her occaisionally to ensure that she is not getting lost in all of this. Given her druthers, though, I know she would just as soon it was not a part of our relationship. i can understand this. I do spend a good deal of time and money on this. (I try to work extra to make up the personal expenses). And she did think she was marrying a "man", and not another woman.

So let's say she is supportive but reluctant. She does understand and recognise the joy that her acceptance brings to my heart, and she does know how much more I love her for this. I could not ask for more.

Stephenie

[Maggie Kay]

My wife says that she understands that the femme part of me is connected to much of what makes me, ME. When I suppress it, my creativity just about disappears and my mood becomes very dark. I'm a designer and depend on creativity for my living. Yet, the side of CD that opens me up to public ridicule or persecution gives her pause as she is very protective of me. In that sense, she would like it to go away. If we weren't living in a such a hypocritical puritanical society, I think the issue would be... a non-issue.

Kay

[Lacey's other half]

I'm new to all of this only having known for about a month, but I don't think that I would push the button. I love my SO for ALL that he is and since CDing is such a part of him I wouldn't want to change him. But also since this is so new to me, I don't really know what the future will hold, but I promised him to always be open and honest and to talk about my feelings with him.


LOH

[kathy gg]

Well since I looked to date a cd, that whole conept of it not being in our life is not an option! he better never quit or there will be some hell to pay! :devil:

There is never a moment I dont' want this in my life. But my guy does not do anything to ever tick me off, so that is why I am so very content.

Glad he also has no desire to stop being who he is fully....that would totally suck.

[Iniquity Blonde GG]

just read thru all the posts again, and feel pretty stupid. NO i wouldnt push the button. how could i +? i love him, plain and simple. c/d was there be4 me, and i couldnt seriously imagin my life without him init :sad: even when its hard going, i wont give in to the probs it comes with sometimes. ive been thru worse with him, and stood standing, not budging !! ( he will know what i mean ) , so NO NO NO i wouldnt :happy:

[Sandra]

In the begining yes I would have pushed it, now I would just walk right on past it. It is a natural part of everyday for me and maybe that is why I except it fully.

[KateW]

I think if my wife had the techical know-how, she would make the button herself!!!

I commend her for tollerating it, but I think deep down she is still somewhat uncomfortable about it. The funny thing is that I now wear more feminine clothes then she does. I think our roles may have somewhat reversed!

[celeste26]

Then if we weren't CD they would still be part of us wouldn't they? OR are they learned because of who we are and not part of us. OR could we learn them without our CD activities?

Most of what I've learned has been inspite of my CD activities. I would push that proverbial button in a heartbeat.

[Di]

I also looked for a relationship with a cd/tg...........but that being said......I'd want Sher to be however she wants to be.........I love both sides..........my only wish is that she/he is happy.so to whatever degree of it makes her happy...makes me happy:D

[janedoe311]

and so would I.

[StayceeCD]

I'm sure my wife would want to push the button. I however LOVE being CD. Being dressed is the ultimate thrill for me. When I get all made up and dressed from head to toe, it just feels so right!:happy: I hope someday she'll enjoy it as well. It should be fun!

[Calliope]

The funny thing is that I now wear more feminine clothes then she does. I think our roles may have somewhat reversed!

I can certainly relate to this. My SO is very 'high-testosterone' (likes to assemble furniture, competitive breadwinner, drives the car - and dresses like her slob father). Push the button - for sure! The situation is complicated by the fact that, when I dressed (and attempted to act) like a guy, she would have pushed that button, too. Essentially, she doesn't much care for any of me. She needs me to look after the kids, I need her to support me - how's that for the 'fem fantasy life'? Sigh.

[Kimberley]

My wife would hit that button with a hammer just to make sure she got it. :sad:

Kimberley

[LindaMarie]

My wife would love that button.

I think she tries to be understanding, but the whole thing is just so weird for her. Most of our lives are pretty complicated and cding certainly adds to the complexity.

We're at a point in our lives where it seems we're always racing around somewhere and don't have much time for each other. Besides my dressing just seeming so weird to her (she's used the word "creepy"), I know she resents that the time I spend dressing (and online) takes away from our time. I understand that. I do. I also don't know how I can go without dressing.

I think if things weren't so crazy with us (aside from my dressing), it would be easier for her to accept it, but I still think she'd push the button.

[JenniferR771]

My wife would push the button. She calls all my cd support group friends "freaks"--and the wives, "If they support this, they are freaks, too!"
Claims I should have told her before marriage. She would have broke it off. ( but i thought it was just a temporary thing--didn't consider myself a cd until 20 years later).

[Tamara Croft]

Me?? no way :D I have the best of both worlds ;) It's not always a bed of roses, but I have a safe life, my children are safe, they have a loving dad, not one that is an abusive a-hole.... a drunk..... etc... I'm lucky to have Tammy.

[Danielle2]

My wife would not only push the button, she would jump up and down on it just to make sure. Even then she would not believe it worked. I AM QUIT SURE IT WOULD NOT WORK!

Danielle2

[AprilMae]

I'm sure some wish their SO's would go away......

[paulaN]

Oh Ya my wife would push the button and in a real hurry too. As for me, it's only been a few years that I have learned to accept myself as I am. I wish there was no need for the button in the first place.

[Michellebej]

Mine (ex) decided one day to start a new life. She went into NA and got a new religion, a new family and a new Boyfriend ( we were married at the time). She decided that she was done with the CDing thing. The Role Reversal thing. And; expressing her inner feelings vicariously through me durring role play.

Now she is married to the guy she left me for and is absolutely miserable. He is soooooooo straight laced it isn't even funny. He thinks foreplay is turning off the lights......

That was 10 years ago. I am sure that if there was such a button that she would be trying some way to rewire it!! LOL

Love

Michelle

[Stacy GG]

I would absolutely not push that button! elly was sooo miserable before she came out I couldn't imagine making her go back to being a "guy". I'm much happier as well, and as the other accepting GG's have said it wouldn't be the same person if you made the CD part "go away". :love:

[Calliope]

I am sure that if there was such a button that she would be trying some way to rewire it!!

[Big smile.] Whew - that line totally made my day.

[Kristen Kelly]

This really shocks me, but no I wouldn't push the go away & never return button. I would like to have a pause, rewind & resume feature. "See that, don't do that again..... WTF was that?" OK, resume.

There are times I would love those controls, on life. I have said dozen of times in the last year "If I only knew 30 years ago what I know now my life would not have been riddled with guilt"

[donna h]

My wife woukd surely press it, probably a few times to be sure it worked. We had some good conversations about dressing months ago and agreed on some things together. Then she failed to live up to some of her own suggestions, which led to a complete communication breakdown. Maybe its better that way. But she would press the button quickly and repeatedly.

[Jenn2716]

Part of me says she would, and another part says she wouldn't. In all honesty, I think it would totally depend on the situation or what was going on with us at the time she was presented with the button.

[JennaKnots]

makes me sad, but we do plan to see my therapist together again after the new baby is born. at least she's willing to try.

[sheena]

I hope at this point she would think hard about hitting that button. She would like for it to just all go away but on the other hand she has seen how much it's me.

[lisa92268]

Mine would push the button in a snap!

[kittypw GG]

I would absolutly push the button but I too would like the undo button. I would undo it maybe two or three times a year. Anyway I would not have to deal with it daily would be a God send. It is not so much about the cd'ing but its the unrealistic expectations and unbalance in a lot of cd's lives that I hate. AND THE VANITY OMG THE VANITY. I could really do without that. Maybe the button would have an option button instead of getting rid of the cding you could add quality characteristics like patients, balance, realistic priorities and acceptance of your man side. Male/female should be equally nurtured. Kitty

[Ronda_B]

My wife would press the button in a heart beat....She hates the compatiton.

[Janailene]

Inspite of knowing Janice for 5 decades, she would push that button so fast your head would spin. Recently I've had a medical problem and the result is Janice has come back into our lives. She has realised that I am partially female and seems more open to Janice. But she would still push the button.

[KimberlyS]

Yes, my wife would push the button. But she may hesitate and ask if I would be keeping my many feminine attributes and characteristics and just the dressing would go away. She likes the fact that I can bounce between outside manly things and inside womanly things and help around the house. She would be ok with my cding if it were not for the clothes.

KimberlyS - CD

[Eva Marie]

Well, Staycee, you asked. Hope you're not disillusioned with the response; it's quite interesting.

For my answer, my wife was a perpetrator involved in getting me started in this in the first place. It all happened at "Burning Man" (www.burningman.com) several years ago. Prior to that I can honestly say the idea of crossdressing never consciously occurred to me. Now she helps me shop, etc., but everything has to be kept in proper perspective (her's) regarding the when's and where's.

Push the button? Probably, yes; but then probably want to change her mind (naturally) and undo the action. How do we win?

[Tiana]

my wife 'accepts' my cding but wished i did not have the need to do it so she would press that button x

[Bluebird GG]

for me Teriann's dressing is just part of the landscape i see it as a everyday thing, i always ask her are u getting dressed tonite its like a everyday question in fact if i dont help her with photo shoots and makeup and shopping it gets hum drum too me so i have to keep it exciting for me and her, so i guess the answer to your question is i have gotten so used to it would not have it any other way.:D

[SatinSarah]

good question. Seems we all share a fialry common experience. Even when our wives tolerate us most would prefer if it went away. I have just reemerged after a 2 year gap. She is now finding an acceptable level where we can share Sarah. She is not prepared to see me fully dressed at the moment. But she is ok with lingerie. Last week she asked me to dress and offered me her silky nightie. She allowed me to wear her new shoes to jump into bed. She enjoyed bed time but I agreed only to wear what she is comfortable with. Hopefully this way Sarah will be allowed to stay out and play

[Patsy Stone GG]

Nope.

[Sheila]

nope is the answer I would give the majority of the time at the moment but, just occasionally I suppose I would be at least a little tempted to head for it --- but i am still at the newbie stage so I suppose it just gets confusing at times still

Jess

[Marcie Sexton]

Not only would she, she did...but after almost a year later, whith all my things turned over to her to dispose of as she wished, she seen how I had with drawn and become moody, spending more time at work, and NO not an affair either. Just total want and need to be away from the house that held Marcie.
Then this past November, on my bithday I was presented with a huge box gift wrapped and told to enjoy. Needless to say it was all my things along with some new Mary Kay makeup. Our agreement wa tokeep it between us two. I had revealed to m neice several years ago, to her agast, but gradual acceptance my dressing. Needless to say "V" was not a happy camper. I never ask why she had the change in heart, but one of the agreed stipulations was we keep it atleast for now in house and out of town when we went shopping.
For me it was like being delivered from the hottest pits of hell and a revitialized relationship with my wife. Her being a former RN, I think now she sees that perhaps there is more to dressing, than dressing...Perhaps something in our genetic makeup that tells us we are women, but are learning to live with it the best possible way.

[Sweet Jane]

I'm not quite sure how this button pushing would work, and I'm not sure what my wife might do...I really think she would leave it alone, because if pushing it meant she got the "normal man" about the house and lost the (in her words) "great wife" who does most of the cooking and cleaning, as well as the man things around the place, then she would in essense lose the "me" she knows and loves.

Now me on the other hand...I'd push it.....

[Sage GG]

I would not push the button I would not change one thing about my hubby, silly and unfashionable as it is I absolutely adore him, I'm good friends with her. Why mess with a good thing?