Somethimes I feel Discusted With Myself...

[jenny_cheerleader]

There are days when I feel very discusted with myself because of the fact that I am TG and a Crossdresser. Why is this and how can I get over it.

[Roxie_31]

Honey, I understand. Refer to my post under depression in response to Quidam. Dont be too hard on yourself. Be honest with yourself and always remember we love you.

[sherri]

Social conditioning, dear, pure and simple. That and the isolation it is all too easy for us to fall prey to.

[Noel Chimes]

Jenny:
You have to accept yourself , just as we all have to. There were times when I was younger, I would avoid looking at myself in the mirror when I was dressed, because I could not face myself. I did not want to see or acknowledge who I was. Then one day I slipped up and caught my reflection in the mirror. I wanted to tear the mirror down and destroy it. I felt ashamed and hated what i saw.
It took me a long time to realize that what I saw in the mirror was me! And I came to realize that if I don't love me how can anyone else love me. To quote Popeye, " I am what I am and that's all that I am". And I LOVE ME!
We do not live in a perfect world, but you can make your corner of it as perfect as you want it to be. Don't judge yourself by worldly standards. Look at yourself in the mirror, (full length mirror if possible). Do you like what you see? That is the only opinion that matters.
If at the end of the day, you can say to yourself, " I was the best me I could be today", that's all that matters.
Hugs and kisses, Noel

[ChristineRenee]

There are days when I feel very discusted with myself because of the fact that I am TG and a Crossdresser. Why is this and how can I get over it.It's a by-product of negative conditioning by society jenny. Years and years of telling people like us that we are wrong, sick, perverted, etc. Society sees us as the bottom feeders of the species. How can anyone who is like us and subject to this negativity on a day-to-day basis NOT have periods of self-loathing.

Until the inevitable change in societal thinking eventually takes place, it is up to all of us to continue to stay positive and maintain our self-esteem. We are NOT wrong! Societal thinking and conditioning is. Education of the masses is going to be paramount to turn things around. Some people however, will NEVER get it, largely in part, because it would require understanding, empathy, and seeing it from the other person's perspective. For those myopic bigots...and that's exactly what they are...bigots...it is much simpler for them to just hate and belittle us. That way they don't have to think about it too much or make any effort to understand us as human beings.

You are very special...more than you realize jenny...and God made you special because he loves you, just like we love you. Never forget that as you continue on your journey through life. You are not alone and when you are here you will always be among friends.

Love,
Christine Renee

[Stephanie Brooks]

There are days when I feel very discusted with myself because of the fact that I am TG and a Crossdresser. Why is this and how can I get over it.
For what it's worth, there's no need to be disgusted with what you are. I do it myself, but I try not to feel that way. We're somehow wired that way, and it doesn't make sense, but it is how we are.

This is a place where you can be yourself safely. You can learn more about what's happening to you, and how others have dealt with similar things. You could perhaps seek counseling if it becomes too much for you, but I'd guess you can get much out of learning from the people here, and either getting books from the library or spending a bit of money in a bookstore.

*HUGS*

[jhnjks]

We live in a society that pushes "norms" to an unbelievable level. You, as an individual are not accepted if you fall out of the center of the bell curve. This starts as a small child and peaks in puberty. We as a group are the fringe of this society. This makes for a magnification of the non-acceptance by many of our peers.

You are probably an individual who is sensitive by nature and more attuned to the world around you. Sometimes this can cause you to want to be in the mainstream and we are not.

Enjoy your differences and talk to this group and any of your peers you are comfortable with. You are not alone nor should you ever be ashamed of who you are. You are you and that is great.

[AnnaMaria]

I have come to the decision that I really don't care what society thinks of me as long as I am taking care of my family that is all that matters. I do think that God chose to make us the way that we are for a reason. Maybe it is because he knew that we would be strong enough to deal with it or maybe it was because he wanted to see if we would be true to our own feelings. Who knows.

What I do know is that no matter what other people think I have to do what is best for me and my family and I have noticed that since I have started to open up to my wife I have been a lot easier to deal with and a lot more loving toward those around me instead of having pms year round. And to tell you the truth I really think that pms is about the best way to describe the way I acted toward everyone around me regardless of who they were.

The biggest thing to remember is that you have to accept who you are and learn to be who you are instead of rejecting it and you will be happier in the long run.

huggs
anna

[joaniebartlett]

The realality of our persona is often very hard to justify with others that have no problem with whom they themselves are. There is only one person we need to justify ourselves with and that is ourselves, although a little acknowlegement from someone out side our relm is a wonderful peaceful moment in life and should carry us, by letting us know that there are others that can accept us.

My excuse, rational, justifacation for myself is that I am an artist who's expression is in the opposite gender as I fade in years and loose that babe look of my 20's and 30's I hold onto the fact that my gender expression is my way of saying hello world this is me and I'm making my mark. Through my many trials and tibulations in life I have learned two things. Keep your friends close (tell them) and know yourself (don't keep yourself in a lie).

Joanie

[crispy]

I often felt disgusted with myself until I came here.
Now I feel I'm at home.

thank you girls, for that :)

[Rikki]

I, like Crispy, have had trouble accepting untill I found this site. Now I am dealing with it much better, thanks to the girls here that have been down the same road as you and I have been. Love yourself girl.

Rikki

[CD WANNAB]

Hey girl,

Diversity is this planet's greatest strength

Your only responsibility to the world is to be the best YOU you can be. Only YOU can be YOU so DON'T deny the world of your unique point of view

You only go around once, so be true to YOUrself
:D

[Tristen Cox]

Until finding others like myself, and understood we are just people who are different from those I have known, I felt very much the same(discusted and confused). Most of the time I was truely afraid I was some kind of freak and many times this put me into quite the state of depression. I agree with Crispy thank you all for helping me realise I was not alone. Without you I may never have known the truth.


Love
Tristen

[Elinor]

We all know how you feel.
But at least you have found that you are NOT the only one who desires to crossdress.
There is a great many of us Janegirls around which makes you normal and NOT abnormal.
No one can hurt you except yourself. {Okay you could get beaten-up}
You are hurting no one else in life.
Lets understand that you could be a drug addict: wife beater; pervert, drunk, criminal. What is it that you do? Steal, murder? No you wear clothes! BIG DEAL its womens clothes, so what? Forgive yourself, you may as well beat yourself up for being lefthanded. If we could all play football, the players would never be paid very much. You are not evil are not great at sport {I suppose} but have a strong feminine side. Except it come to terms with it and enjoy it. For everyman that can fix the plumbing: Play football; Box there are many many more who don't. Most call the plumber, watch football on TV or boxing on TV. More women are not great mothers or look like Cathrine Zeta-Jones or can cook, or make a dress out of nothing in five minutes.
Those style-cooking-sports TV shows are watched by the rest of us normal people. But hey your NOT boring; your special, your a janegirl. Enjoy it.
Hope this has been a little help.

[Julie York]

There are days when I feel very discusted with myself because of the fact that I am TG and a Crossdresser. Why is this and how can I get over it.

Disgust comes from feeling you are doing something very wrong, but are driven to do it.
This causes a conflict, because you want to do something you see as 'bad' and can't stop. Which causes depression and self loathing.

CURE?
Chat on this forum. Realise you aren't bad, or a perve or a freak or any negative thing like that. You are just someone with a wider gender identity than your average Joe (or Jane). Some things give you pleasure that society frowns on. Big deal. If they don't know about it they can't frown. The only person who needs to know is you.

Next time you watch a football match with 50,000 male spectators, just bear in mind that there are very likely to be at least a couple of hundred CDs there. Which means when Man United play Liverpool, about 10 people in the audience are wearing lacy panties and aren't women!

Haha.