Phyliss
11-22-2006, 04:01 AM
Been after the wife for the past few months about getting rid of old clothes that no longer fit or she just doesn't wear anymore.
Last night I finally got her to sit still long enough to clean out her side of our closet. By sit still i mean she sat on the bed while I went through everything and had her make "the choice" of stay or go.
The fun part was every so often I'd spot a nice looking set that I'd like to have as my own. O.K. I says to myself here goes another step. Holding up a skirt and top I casually say, "wonder if this will fit me?" as I begin to pull on the top, (too big for me, 28-30W) tried on the skirt and it fell right off me. She sorta snickered in a cute way that says "TOO bad no freebies for you". As I continued on after that little attempt I tried on some more articles and much to my dismay they were all too big for me. The only thing I found in all of it was a cute shell in light lilac and a nice, light blue cowl neck sweater, that, while a bit baggy, will work for me. pair it with some jeans or a black skirt and it has possibilities, for at least around the house.
What made it all the more fun is that she didn't give me any look of scorn or hatered. Offered some constructive comments about some of the items being too big for me or that the style didn't suit me.
After we were done, (she had four large plastic bags full, all going to the Salvation Army box) I commented, "All that work and all I get is one sweater and one shell, hardly seems worth the effort"
Her answer was a simple smile.
THIS, my wonderful friends, is the "Holy Grail" I've been looking for. To be able to have that sort of freedom to openly voice my desires and thoughts, without having to feel any sort of embarrassment or fear.
Last night I finally got her to sit still long enough to clean out her side of our closet. By sit still i mean she sat on the bed while I went through everything and had her make "the choice" of stay or go.
The fun part was every so often I'd spot a nice looking set that I'd like to have as my own. O.K. I says to myself here goes another step. Holding up a skirt and top I casually say, "wonder if this will fit me?" as I begin to pull on the top, (too big for me, 28-30W) tried on the skirt and it fell right off me. She sorta snickered in a cute way that says "TOO bad no freebies for you". As I continued on after that little attempt I tried on some more articles and much to my dismay they were all too big for me. The only thing I found in all of it was a cute shell in light lilac and a nice, light blue cowl neck sweater, that, while a bit baggy, will work for me. pair it with some jeans or a black skirt and it has possibilities, for at least around the house.
What made it all the more fun is that she didn't give me any look of scorn or hatered. Offered some constructive comments about some of the items being too big for me or that the style didn't suit me.
After we were done, (she had four large plastic bags full, all going to the Salvation Army box) I commented, "All that work and all I get is one sweater and one shell, hardly seems worth the effort"
Her answer was a simple smile.
THIS, my wonderful friends, is the "Holy Grail" I've been looking for. To be able to have that sort of freedom to openly voice my desires and thoughts, without having to feel any sort of embarrassment or fear.