Does your wife/SO prefer you enfemme?

[Bethanygirl]

I was wondering, my wife met me after I was enfemme all the time, and so it was what she expected from who she loved, but from the day we met, she never asked to see me in drab. She always encouraged and assisted me in seeking a more feminine appearance, and helped me make arrangements as they became available over the years to enhance myself. So the question is, does anyone else on this board have a wife or SO that prefers their femme side? +?

[Felica_ann_lendy]

well i am not to sure but she has always help me and never wanted me to not do it:2c:

[Tiffy]

My wife prefers me dressed due to the change in attitude. She says I am much more level headed dressed.

Tiffy

[Patricia Danielle]

It depends on the wife's mood and what we're doing. If I'm playing I'm in the guy mode, I don't do make up, wife wears very little. I can't wear heels being I'm as graceful as a MACK truck! Do wear alot of nightgowns. Wear s dress from time to time with a slip and panties. but most time wife prefers to see me in the guy mode.. Patricia..

[Eugenie]

Well, one can easily understand your SO attitude, your avatar says it all: you're simply a gorgeous woman... :happy:

Since that's the way she has met you and liked you, it seems natural that she would want to be with the person she loved from day one: Bethany.

I wish my SO would be like that with me... But since she met me as a young man, that's the person she likes... She has known about my X-Dressing very early, only a couple of years after we married, but this side of me doesn't turn her on (Enormous euphemism :D )...

All the best for the wonderful couple you are.
:hugs:
Eugenie

[Bethanygirl]

You are sweet Eugenie, but I think my nose is too big...:p

[Eugenie]

You are sweet Eugenie, but I think my nose is too big...:p

Why, oh why is it that beautiful ladies almost always find themselves not so beautiful... :D

Trust your beloved SO... She's your best judge as far as beauty is concerned and she seems to love you so much...
:hugs:
Eugenie

[Sharon86]

my wife wouldn't want me dressed enfemme 24/7, however she does encourage me to dress as and when the opportunities arise.LOL. Sharon.xxx

[Sheila]

Bethanygirl,
can sO's reply to this or are you just looking for the cdr responses?

[Nikki Dee]

As said before....depends on the mood.!!!..whilst she is always supportive there are times when she wants/needs to see the guy rather than the girl.
Nikki. x

[Cyndie]

My wife does not even like to see me in fem. She knows that I dress, but would prefer that it didn't. I guess that my life is the other side of the coin.

TTFN
CYndie:hugs:

[PatriciaCD]

my so prefers me dressed, whether relaxing at home or going out.

[TeriAnn]

my wife wouldn't want me dressed enfemme 24/7, however she does encourage me to dress as and when the opportunities arise.LOL. Sharon.xxx

This is what my wife tells me, she doesn't mind my dressing as often as I can but she still wants to see me in guy mode. Which I do without remorse:2c:

[Kate Simmons]

Yeah, right! That's like asking if a cat likes bananas. My wife has absolutely no use for Ericka. That's the reason she's in Florida and I'm here. Even so, she told me once I looked pretty good as a woman but other than putting Ericka on the "shelf" for good, she'll have no part of it. Oh well, that's life I guess.:straightface: Ericka Kay

[brandi64a]

I have a wonderful S.O. She supports me in every way. She loves me dressed and actually encourages me to dress almost daily. To me there is not anything better than to hear her say "Why don't you put something pretty on?" She does rather me dressed.

[DAVIDA]

Yeah, right! That's like asking if a cat likes bananas. My wife has absolutely no use for Ericka. That's the reason she's in Florida and I'm here. Even so, she told me once I looked pretty good as a woman but other than putting Ericka on the "shelf" for good, she'll have no part of it. Oh well, that's life I guess.:straightface: Ericka Kay

What? Cats don't like bananas?:heehee:
Jean is the one who helped me see who I am, and not ask why I am. She likes to see me as a guy, but she also will tell me at times to go "change", because she wants me to be me.

[Bethanygirl]

Bethanygirl,
can sO's reply to this or are you just looking for the cdr responses?

I always want to hear anyones viewpoint Jess, the more points of view that you assemble, the more complete opinion you get.

[Katrina]

While my SO is quite supportive, accepting, and open-minded, she definately prefers me as a guy.

[Tammietoo]

My wife does not even like to see me in fem. She knows that I dress, but would prefer that it didn't. I guess that my life is the other side of the coin.

TTFN
CYndie:hugs:

Mine too...sigh. We've painted each other's toe nails and such, and accepts that it's part of me--sometimes is even encouraging (i.e. she will sometimes buy make up for me) but doesn't really want to see me dressed. I think its a little conflicting for her, she wants to be supportive of me, but deep down I know she really rather I didn't dress.

[RikkiOfLA]

My wife of 28 years passed away not too long ago. She preferred me dressed male, but understood that I was more comfortable dressed female and accepted it.

My new girlfriend is someone I've known for many years. She definitely prefers me dressed as a woman and has asked me not to dress male! I love it (and her!).:D

Rikki

[Sheila]

I would be happy for Claire to be around whenever, unfortunately due to family circumstances she is unable to be here more than a couple of times a week if we are lucky.

However I would also like him in guy mode a couple of times a week if the situation changed to allow Claire to be here whenever she wanted to be ----------- I love him in either dress mode.

Hope that helps

Jess

[EricaCD]

Not at all. She prefers me as a guy.

[ubokvt]

My so likes and acepts both, but on more than one occassion has asked me to dress as she likes the difference in my attitudes and behavior when dressed. Says I'm softer and less conflict with some of her life views less effort to relate to.

[suzy]

Nope.. can't say that my wife wants me to be anything but what I am... she was happy with all man and she is happy with me in both drab and enfemm...:love:

[Joy Carter]

I just wish she would look beyond the clothes and see that there is a woman and a man occupying the same space. But it's with her wishes that she gets her man 24/7.:o

[Karren H]

No she doesn't!! And she's never seen me enfemme! And I'm glad since one, I look better as a woman than she does and two, she tells me how to dress as a male and at least as a female I can choose my own clothing!! Hehehe

Love Karren

[Amy Hepker]

In My Dreams! I could only dream of being enfemme all the time and having my GLady want me that way. I do LOVE her very much and respect her! Besides I wouldn't pass as a Female, well maybe with some help.

[Rachel Morley]

My wife finds me attractive as a feminine guy but she doesn't prefer my en femme version over the others. I have three modes of dress, "guy wearing girly clothes" "fully en femme" and "unisex". The order I've listed them is the order my wife prefers to see me in. Manly man isn't even there, (it's not me at all) if it was, she'd hate that the most, because "girly guy" is what she likes best. That said she has no issues with being affectionate towards me when I'm en femme and we mix our lipstick regularly :D

[Paula G]

My wife feels much more comfortable when I'm dressed as a woman, but she also likes to see me dressed as a male at times. I don't think she wants to give up the "man" in her life just yet.

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

My wife likes me dressed as a girl. I think I have said on other threads here that I simply never dress as a guy at home anymore. It would feel very odd now. We just live together together as two women. Feels very natural.

[DeniseNJ]

My wife hates my feminine side and doesn't want to accept Denise. I truely think she is jealous of my Feminine side. She will never even tell me I look nice or cute. She don't even want to look at me dressed up!!! It is so sad , If my wife accepted me and encouraged me I would be a much happier girl and smile more!!!

[Larissa]

I wish... :(

[Michellebej]

My ex-wife and both of my ex-SO's preferred me in femm mode.

Marriage broke up because of her drug use.

I left my first SO because she liked it a little toooooo much.

Second, one because of family issues.

I think, though, that I have a tendency to screen the women I date. I don't date anyone that has seen me in "ultra guy" mode. Don't want them dating "
him" lol. I date women that are openly bi, and that like feminine clothes. It is amazing after that how many of them are ok, and even enthusiastic about CDing.

Love

Michelle

[Cheryl T]

my wife wouldn't want me dressed enfemme 24/7, however she does encourage me to dress as and when the opportunities arise.LOL. Sharon.xxx

Same for me....

[JenniferR771]

My wife is still angry, after 5 years. . Said i am online too much--self-centered and doing "this" against her wishes and then...said, "Admit it ...you are a transvestite!"
What should I do?

[Rebeca]

I have been reading through the threads looking for the best way to tell my SO. I have been closet dressing for 20+ years and I am positive she has no clue and I know it's going to be a very large shock (lucky for me we are the same size). I have no idea how she will take it or if I should tell her at all. I am afraid she will get the wrong idea and assume it is all sexual and perverted....that's just not why and I am not sure she will ever understand....for that matter I am not sure I will ever understand myself.

Any ideas or advice here?

Thanks,

Rebeca

[Billijo49504]

Hmmm, my wife supports me as BJ, but doesn't want to be to make love to me in girl mode. But she buys me clothes and makeup. And helps me dress. As a matter of fact, we both have matching bra and panties on today...BJ

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Rebeca,

Here's a link to some threads my wife wrote. The first one is called "how to tell your partner" it's taken from a GGs perspective. The second link is something else she wrote called "Now I like it now I like it now I don't, Understanding the Acceptance Pendulum". Other members have said they found these passages helpful, I hope you do too.

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13841

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=12890

[ColleenCD]

My wife prefers the don't ask, don't tell policy. She has never seen me dressed completely, or pictures thereof. She doesn't want to talk about it or deal with it. Sooo, I guess the answer is she prefers only the guy mode.

Colleen

[Penny]

You are sweet Eugenie, but I think my nose is too big...:p
Mine too, even though I try to keep it out other peoples business! :heehee:

[suchacutie]

My wife enjoys Tina as her girlfriend, but she enjoys him as her husband and I like that arrangement just fine :).

[bianncats]

she hates the fact i cd

[Sandra]

Seeing as my SO CDs 24/7 the answer is yes I prefer her fem all the time.

[kathy gg]

I honestly don't have a preference. I find both versions of my sweetie attractive and beautiful. Which ever one is presented to me...I am down with that!

Since work and such sometimes get in the way of more Amanda time I suppose I look forward to the times he is chicked out...but it does not take anything away from the cute boy he is every day.

It seems obvious though to me, if your wife met you as a girl...and fell in love with what she saw...well that is what she is into....she needs to join my secret soceity! haaahaa!

[janet p]

Bethanygirl, I wish I could find someone like your SO, my ex knew of my CDing and would help with it until she didn't get her way then it was how she had to put up with it as if she didn't know from the start. As far as your nose, I think it makes you look like Natalie Wood the movie star!!!:love:

[kyte]

im the girlfriend of a CD....i have no problem with them dressing up( granted, when they first told me, i bought ran off the road...LOL), but they are aware some things disturb me a bit, but if it disturbs me, i tell them :)

i will admit though, they have the legs for hose, and i sure DONT! (im a rather large BBW)....and they look better in a dress than i do, even though it tends to be "guy wearing femme stuff"

i see things this way, you are who you are, and i have no right to judge....if youre a guy who likes wearing womens clothing, so be it...its a part of you :)

and yes, i love him/her and see them for who they are :)