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[Kate Simmons]

Years ago when I first started "officially" crossdressing, I was a dopy looking guy in a dress and wig who was "borrowing" my wife's makeup and stumbling around in high heels. I LOOKED like a guy in a dress. I've made several improvements over the years and today I "pass" pretty well for an old guy. I'm always getting compliments on how nice I look by both guys and girls.I just put it all in perspective though as I've never claimed to be a woman, I just like dressing like one. I've improved my makeup techniques over the years, have my own wardrobe and have a smoother manner overall. The biggest change has been my personality. I interact with people and am interested in them. I've come to have a new level of tolerance and understanding and pretty much accept everyone for who they are.Being in touch with my feminine side has made me more empathetic and caring.(Maybe playing the role does rub off?) I love things the way they are and wouldn't change them for anything. I was wondering what changes some of you gals have noticed and how does that compare to when you first started out?:happy: Ericka Kay

[JoAnnDallas]

Since I started going out last year, I have never had and bad experience. I am beginning to wonder if people tend to look at us and think "Ugly Woman" or "That is a Transsexual", for the reason that most of the time we get no reaction from those that we interact with while out en fem. There has been enough public exposer to the TS world over last few years, that when someone sees one of us, that is the first thing that comes to their mine and that is how they respond to us. I once read an article many people would accept a TS more so than a CD.

[JeanneF]

Since I started going out last year, I have never had and bad experience. I am beginning to wonder if people tend to look at us and think "Ugly Woman" or "That is a Transsexual", for the reason that most of the time we get no reaction from those that we interact with while out en fem. There has been enough public exposer to the TS world over last few years, that when someone sees one of us, that is the first thing that comes to their mine and that is how they respond to us. I once read an article many people would accept a TS more so than a CD.

I think it's a combination of the two. Most people are polite, they're not going to laugh and point and say "ew, that's a man in a dress!". Plus, if you're under 6' tall, and not built like a linebacker or have blatantly masculine features, people are going to give you the benefit of the doubt if you're a boy or a girl. Think about it...would you run the risk of insulting a woman by assuming that she was a guy? Do you stare and make comments at a really butch looking Lesbian? Most people don't.

Also, I think most people just don't pay that close of attention to others. I know I've seen a few girls out where I've thought "that might be a guy", but I didn't want to stare just so I could determine for sure.

[Karren H]

I've noticed I smile more, in either mode.....and and I'm more chatty with strangers, in either mode.....I'm more complimentary, in either mode..... And best of all...........

I'm having more fun, in either mode!! Doesn't get any better than this!!

:)

Love Karren

[Kate Simmons]

I've noticed I smile more, in either mode.....and and I'm more chatty with strangers, in either mode.....I'm more complimentary, in either mode..... And best of all...........

I'm having more fun, in either mode!! Doesn't get any better than this!!

:)

Love KarrenWell, Sounds like you are more "bubbly" for sure girlfriend.:happy: Ericka Kay

[ColleenCD]

I'm already a fairly sensitive person, but in the last year I have become even more perseptive of concerns of women. I see things a little more clearly. My photo ability has improved and I learned how to e-mail the pictures to myself from a camera phone. Look at me now, I'm a big girl!

Colleen

[ronnie06]

chuckle grin wink

wellll?

I know it is damn near impossible to fight in heels and a skirt vs being my male self in jeans and boots........................................

being a gal, definitely changes your views on how to react to the outside world.

good wishes to you
veronica in wisconsin

[Brianna Lovely]

Though it's taken years to come forward, my fem side is here, in all her glory. I feel that some of my male characteristics are fading into the background and the best parts of both genders are forming one unique personality, the new me.
To say that there have been huge changes in my life, would be an understatement. Every day I go through little changes, but most importantly, after many years, I'm enjoying life.

[ubokvt]

First, nice thoughtful thread, thank you.

Changes, In some ways I'm to close to the important subtle changes, but my SO coments I softer, easier to talk to and seem to afford her sister time. I notice the sexual overtones are quickly fading and that in many ways is a relief. Dressing is becoming a doorway for me to explore feelings and emotions that were denied and so I cry easier am better able to snuggle and recieve nuturing. I don't feel I have to be in charge or control as much any more, I listen better and most of all I feel things deeper. I for some reason am becomeing more aware of and more alligned with feminist thought. Dressing has become far more about exploring me and far less about the clothes.

[Calliope]

A week or so ago, the apartment maintenance man came to fix the twisted frame of my sliding back door. Grunting, hammering, heaving and wrenching, the dude put an hour's sweat into the endeavor.

When he announced his eventual success, I surprised myself - and him - by clapping my hands and exclaiming, 'Splendid - yay, you!'

Back in the old boy days, I would have met his remark by simply intoning 'Cool, seeya.'

Anyway, the maintenance man was so buzzed by my enthusiastic praise, he introduced himself and shook my hand. Went to the next job in better mood, I bet.

Myself, I looked into myself and noted, 'You're changing, sweetie.'

[Sierra Evon]

Ever since Ive became the girl I am now "Sierra Michelle Evon,," I used to be just another Ya, WAZ-UP, DUDE, type of guy, most of my old guy friendz , back when I used to work as a road construction laborer, for the county , it used to always be the " HEY-DOG" !!!, with a head bobing motion,,,but now I use a very sweet cutesy wave, and sometimes a little golf clap, with a sweet pose smile , it all seems to come very naturally for me now..., so kinda ditto,
with ya,,,,DAY-TRIPPER....I live in an APT. also......:happy:

[Lauren Richards]

Hi Sis,
For me, there has not been much change from the original me. It could be the I have been doing this for most of my life and just don't have a good reference point, or maybe being a crossdresser is a particular expression of the fundamental feminine side of me which I have always felt to be a part of who I have always been. I am very much the same on the inside, wearing a skirt or pair of leather gloves while working the welder in the workshop. And, don't ya know..girls make really great welders.

I was never into the "typical macho" stuff like drinking at the bar and acting wacko crazy, but I have done my share of guy stuff too, and enjoy that side of who I am. It's all in there, and lots of fun being able to express a fuller range of what life has to offer than those with a more narrow bandwidth on the continuium.

I understand what you mean about being more understanding, and I have thru experience gained some of that as well. I guess I started out at a little different place, and even if we are not all playing the same game, it seems like we are playing in the same playground.

Lauren

[Lauren Richards]

I forgot to mention how great you new avatar looks!

[noname]

I'm not certain how people see me, as I never try to pass. I'm not certain if they think I'm a cd/ts or just a very eccentric guy. Probably depends who sees me. One thing for sure is that I'm caring less and less what people think.

[Kate Simmons]

I forgot to mention how great you new avatar looks!Thanks Lauren, I simply adore your outfit and hat as well. Ericka Kay

[Debb]

I think that I am not as far along as a lot of the CDs here.

I have grown, that is for sure. I was always privately empathetic, and now I feel a little better about actually expressing my empathy to others.

I wouldn't say that I'm very much more friendly or outgoing; frankly I don't expect that to change much, I've always been sorta introspective and keep-to-myself-ish. But look out when you've got me started talking... you can't shut me up anymore.

All in all, realizing that I am a CD, and developing my tolerance for myself, is hugely positive.

Outwardly, I am still that "guy trying to look like a girl". ... and not necessarily succeeding, but not necessarily caring either.

[Kate Simmons]

You've got a good start Bethany. The main thing is to enjoy being yourself and being comfortable and happy with that. Sometimes we tend to over analyze ourselves and worry too much. Just relaxing and realizing it's who you are goes a long way.:happy: Ericka Kay

[Audry]

Ericka; All I can say is you look Marvelous to say the least,
Audry:be:

[Kate Simmons]

Ericka; All I can say is you look Marvelous to say the least,
Audry:be:Thanks Audry, This gal can use all the compliments she can get.:hugs: Ericka Kay