Does Any of This Ring a Bell?

[Peggy55]

Here's an exerpt from an article written by Karen Murphy. When I read the common CD character traits I said OMG that's me! A lot of it rang very true.
There are a couple more links on the page. Let me know girls......does any of it ring true for you?

http://www.jenellerose.com/htmlpostings/darkside/Temperament.htm

Peggy

[Bobbie cd]

I have to say that I found most of the personality traits to hit
very close to home. I would say that I fit the common personality "profile" almost exactly, but I don't know that I see that as a bad thing. :D

[AmandaM]

uh-oh, that's me too!

[Delila]

I found most of those things to hit close to home with the exception of creativity. I kind of wonder if there are many people out there that share many of these traits that are not CDers. At least a couple of those traits could easily be attributed to other people, it is a nice theory but I have to think that these things are definately not exclusive meaning it could just be chance. I could be very wrong I would love to see an actual study on this but sadly it seems that the only studys on cders are related to if we are gay so it seems like a lot to hope for. Sorry if I sound critical.

[Peggy55]

Well it sounds like from the few replies so far that these traits maybe a common thread. Not exclusive to crossdressers and not an indicator to be predisposed to crossdressing but I found it to hit close to home. I am 51 yo and just started crossdressing. Another article I read talked about people seeking out their fem side after having a series of tramatic things happen in their life. You are seeking out your feminine side for comfort and reassurance. This in part is what happened to me......

Peggy

[Jammie Lyann]

The only point that I found that did not fit me was the part about being shy around women, when I was in high shcool I never hung out with the guys( only had 1 male friend) alway sat with the girls, almost always had a girl friend
an lost the BIG V when I was 16 :D

[Leslie Foxx]

Yes, the bells toll for me. A lot of paralells.

[KatrinaAshley]

Wowie. For sure. While the occasional team sport (recreational, not leagues) is something I enjoy, solitary hobbies are the most frequently chosen option. Well, that is if you consider going online as being alone or not. Physically, yes. Socially, not really.

[Delila]

I read the article to my wife and she said that everything listed fits me which came as a bit of a shock but apparently it fits me to a t.

[Beckii_aCDInOz]

Nice find megan!

:clap:

Fits like a glove, not to sure what type of glove (maybe spandex or a fine soft leather) ;)

lol



hugs

x

beckii

[JenniferMint]

Intelligence: My IQ is 130+.

Creativity: Does computer programming count?

Intellectual Curiosity and Eclecticism: I'm into learning Japanese, computer programming, and recently... crossdressing. :P

Collectors/Hobbyists: Collectors, not so much. As for hobbies, does playing computer games count?

Perfectionism: I have such a tendency.

Imagination: I've been told I'm imaginative.

Loners: Definitely.

[Chiana]

I kind of view this like reading your horoscope. Some of those things will fit a large portion of society. IMHO. Yes many of those traits match me. But some are way off base. I don't consider myself a computer geek. I know enough to get by and find the stuff I want to know about on the Internet. I do not like to read books at all. A trait she keeps going back to. I can remember only one book in my life that I actually read, cover to cover. I have never shyed away from competitive situations. I am EXTREMELY competitive in almost everything. Always have been. Yes, I would say I am a loner but my lifestyle is the reason I am not a social butterfly. Not the other way around. I don't dress because of these traits. I dress because I want to. I enjoy it. I think she may have the cart before the horse, so to speak.

[Kate Simmons]

I agree with you Chiana. We don't need a reason to be who we are and do what we do. This is totally my choice from the get go. Despite my theory, I do not need a reason to be Ericka and I call the shots rather than being a "victim" of a compulsion. It's right to be who I am--period!:happy: Ericka Kay

[sterling12]

I'm kind of thinking in the same vein as Chiana. What I see is a profile that fits about 95% of the humans in the world....at least some of the aspects apply to just about everyone.

It's a common ploy for fortune tellers to throw out a lot of "qualifying information" and then they key in on those aspects of behavior that their "victim" responds to. It's a fairly common ploy, for cops, for teachers, and for others.

It will usually be a person's tendancy to remember aspects that they believe they match and convienently forget about the one's that don't match. The real trick is to disguise how broad the profile is, disguised enough so that you don't notice that fact.

So yes, I'm artistic. (Who among us hasn't had that very thought at some time.) Yes, I'm intelligent. (ditto for this one too). Yes, I'm a loner. (And, who hasn't felt like they were alone at some time, or a lot of the time). Etc., Etc.

However, I am also a social animal and I do join groups a lot, (Oh gosh, there's one of those inconvenient "not trueisms" again.) I know maybe three or 400 CDS, TS Sista's, Drag Queens. You know what I find we share in common, just about nothin'! The only commonality I see, is that we are all human beings and we are all traveling along the Road of Life.

I really believe we waste too much emotion, go through too much angst, trying to figure ourselves out. If I took a million CD's and tried to figure out "Why", I'd get a million stories and each would be different, and none of those million CD's would know "The Why" either. Sorry folks, I don't think we can characterize ourselves in any conventional way, a character profile won't work either. Our Character profile is not homogeneous and that won't help us to figure it out.

I think we should learn how to accept what is, and to enjoy our unique lifestyle. That's plenty for any of us to work on.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Helen MC]

Me to a T! I am actualy borderline Schitziod. Hate anything competitive be that work or games, hate team activities. Father a bit player in my life, far more affection for older sister and mother. Prefer lone activities, hobbies etc, not given to suffering fools gladly.

[Angela E.]

My God,this is me totally,and the links were dead-on too.I disagree that you can find these traits in a majority of people,buy I`ll bet you can find them in a majority of CD,TV,TS,and TG.-Angela.:hugs: :doll: :hugs:

[crossing-the-rain]

I don't see any shadow of me ,may be only a small piece.
Rain.

[Bethanygirl]

I kind of view this like reading your horoscope. Some of those things will fit a large portion of society. IMHO. Yes many of those traits match me. But some are way off base. I don't consider myself a computer geek. I know enough to get by and find the stuff I want to know about on the Internet. I do not like to read books at all. A trait she keeps going back to. I can remember only one book in my life that I actually read, cover to cover. I have never shyed away from competitive situations. I am EXTREMELY competitive in almost everything. Always have been. Yes, I would say I am a loner but my lifestyle is the reason I am not a social butterfly. Not the other way around. I don't dress because of these traits. I dress because I want to. I enjoy it. I think she may have the cart before the horse, so to speak.

I agree with the horoscope thing, if you stay complimentary and general, then it will fit most. I do believe that most,(actually all) crossdressers are above average intelligence, you must have a good imagination and diversity of thought to be able to project yourself into another archtype. Possibly it requires some form of empathy as well.

[gennee]

Most of it is true with me.

Gennee

[Karren H]

Nope.....not even close to being a perfectionist...not very creative....semi-loner but only when crossdressing.....dumber than a stump....don't mind all those fancy degrees on my wall...lol

Love Karren

[tootall452]

I would have to say lot of what is in the article is me as well.

[Shannon CD]

Ok, after reading the article and the subsiquent links I have to admit that I saw alot of myself in there.

Parental relationships: My dad was around until the time I was 8, but he worked and mom stayed home. He was also a cheater and after catching him with his girlfriend one night...in the living room...while my mother was sleeping in their bedroom... I DEFINATELY lost respect for him and developed a protective relationship with my mother. Found out later about other issues regarding my father that further affected my negative perception of him. (Valid reasons, I might add)

Intelligence: At some point in elementary school I was tested with an I.Q. of 130. Now, since I know quite a few people who have tested much higher, I don't necessarily consider myself as "highly intelligent". Above average, maybe, so if that is what the criteria was than I will accept that.

Creativity: Well, I'm a musician. Not the most talented or affluent, but I can play several instruments have always considered that to be my creative side. I also like to write when I am inspired, but have difficulty completing that which I have started (which does reflect a bit on her theory that we get bored easilyy).

Sibling position: You guessed it, 1st born male child. It was in the mid 60's and my mother was the last of a dying breed... a stay-at-home-mom. (BTW, after I was born my folks had a daughter. When my father remarried he had 5 more girls. 6 sisters and not a single biological brother in the group. What do you suppose that means?)

First childhood crossdressing experience: I remember it as being a positive enough feeling that I did look for a second opportunity. I cannot, for the life of me, remember if my sister was present or not at the time. I was probably 6or 7 and tried on her tights and a plaid dress. The tights were put on first, giving creedence to the idea that the first item worn is what you are most attracted to (pantyhose for me).

I could take each of these catagories and explain how they compare to my life, but I feel I may have already bored most readers here, so I will suffice to say that I did see myself in this article, but as has been posted here, they may indeed just be generalities that just about anyone could identify with. But that may possibly be just a bit of denial. (I think I offered quite a bit more than my 2 cents on this one)

[Julie York]

"CDs are highly intelligent. I don't think that I have ever met a CD whom I would classify as stupid."


Whoever wrote that should join a CD forum.


:D

Present company excepted....Well except the stupid ones.

[psdibe]

It rings very true with me. The other links which I read before but not for a while are nice every once in a while to go over again. It is ggod to keep it balanced.
Hugs PD

[MJ]

hmmm well that's me to a tee. explains why i try to get the perfect look.. and i am a s/f nut.. and read way too much. good find there ..

[Leslie Foxx]

explains why i try to get the perfect look...

You have succeeded!

[vbcdgrl]

Yes, a LOT of it.I found this very intersting. Thanks for sharing it, Peggy.
By the way, for some reason, I just got a blank page when I opened the "The truth about crossdressing" link.

Vikki

[Kathryn Philips]

Karen's article describes me. I consider myself intelligent, very creative and a perfectionist in the things that I do. I am very "industrious" at work (though not a workaholic) and have a handfull of very specialised hobbies including computer programming. My mind is always engaged in something and I absolutely detest superficial topics. For example, at work, I can't stand my male colleagues discussing sporting events and results. I am definitely a loner but do tend to establish strong temporary frienships. My desire to dress as a girl started at the age of 4 or 5 and I was the first child my parents had.

[Jodi]

I can not agree with much of it. The one that especially stands out is her quote that she has not ever met a stupid cd. I disagree. I have seen many of them. Maybe I should say bad judgment instead of stupidity, but stupidity is right up in there. I have seen many cd's drive after drinking, and then complain when things went really bad with the police. I have seen cd's pass out from over drinking and then complain that noone would help them. I have known of cd's that went brazenly into a bad place or neighborhood, and then could not understand why one or two were assaulted. I have seen cd's get loud, boisterous, and rude in a nice restaurant, and then complain that the place was unfriendly to cd's when they were not welcome back. I could go on and on. Stupidity is not limited to anyone one group.

Jodi

[Peggy55]

Is this the one?

Peggy

http://www.jenellerose.com/htmlpostings/darkside/Temperament.htm



Yes, a LOT of it.I found this very intersting. Thanks for sharing it, Peggy.
By the way, for some reason, I just got a blank page when I opened the "The truth about crossdressing" link.

Vikki

[Adrienne Heels]

That profile is me !

[Peggy55]

Hi Girls,

Here's one last link. It's lenghtly but has a lot of good observations I think.

Enjoy, Ponder, Comment!

Peggy

http://www.mindspring.com/~karen.anne.taylor/obsrvtg.html

[Joy Carter]

Mostly true except I'm social to a point. I don't do new people very well but old friends whom I'm comfortable with I enjoy. Smart ? Dumb as a box of rocks. Intelligent ? Yup ! I love reading about old technology and the way things were done in the past. I have many skills but do not master any of them particularly. I have had four careers in my work life and only stuck to one. I have had several hobbies but never stick to them for long. My three brothers are the same and none of them CD. I think you will find we are diverse as any group. Just more aware of our hidden self and keep people at arms reach so not to out our selves.
:2c:

[TVStevie]

I'm kind of thinking in the same vein as Chiana. What I see is a profile that fits about 95% of the humans in the world....at least some of the aspects apply to just about everyone.

It's a common ploy for fortune tellers to throw out a lot of "qualifying information" and then they key in on those aspects of behavior that their "victim" responds to. It's a fairly common ploy, for cops, for teachers, and for others.

It will usually be a person's tendancy to remember aspects that they believe they match and convienently forget about the one's that don't match. The real trick is to disguise how broad the profile is, disguised enough so that you don't notice that fact.

So yes, I'm artistic. (Who among us hasn't had that very thought at some time.) Yes, I'm intelligent. (ditto for this one too). Yes, I'm a loner. (And, who hasn't felt like they were alone at some time, or a lot of the time). Etc., Etc.Dead right. It's like if you ask anyone if they have a good sense of humour - I guarantee you that the vast majority will say yes, 'cause who's going to say "no, I'm a miserable b*stard"? However, I've spoken to people who claim to have a good sense of humour, who then qualify it by telling me how funny Mr Bean is. Isn't that the true definition of an oxymoron? :D

[Audry]

HI Peggy :It seems to hit home on a big portion of the artical. it was an intresting read

[donnapink]

OMG that article is scary it is so dead on about me!
Thanks for sharing it.
Merry Christmas and Best Wishes