Work and coworkers

[joanlynn28]

Today at lunch I got so frustrated with the comments made by one of my longtime coworker who I used to think of as a friend. Gene was commenting how once he had a supervisor who came to work early one morning apparently missing removing all of his lipstick and nail polish from the night before. The supervisor comment was that he and his wife were playing around the night before. I took his comments as an attack against me, I was so tempted to show my nails right in front of his face and tell him he doesn't care how others feel. And then he goes on to making fun of a couple of my female coworkers how you woman always go off to the bathroom together and probable go and check out each others bra. And then he talks how some of the guys at work blow their noses into the sink in the restroom. I am so disgusted with the behavoure and bathroom humor of men. I am feed up with this crap, so much that I finally went and called my human resources representative to go and have the needed talk I need to do regarding coming out at work. The time is right for me to go full time, I just have to do it. It is going to be the only way for me to have the rumors stop concerning me, and to bring it to the company's attention about the visual and sexual harassment I have been experiencing over the past nine months at work. My good girlfriend is right when I told her that I am not one of the guys at work, her comment to me was that is because you are not one of the guys, your a girl. She's right I have been a girl all of my life, I just been hiding it for nearly 35 years and I don't want to hide anymore.:Angry3:

[CaptLex]

Congrats on taking that step - I know it's a big one. I hope HR will do the right thing in reminding people about anti-harassment policies and everyone will treat you with respect. Good luck. :hugs:

[joanlynn28]

Thanks CaptLex, I have been planning to go full time when we get back from our Christmas break at work. We shut down completely from Christmas through New Years. I hope that it is not too late to notify work about it. We only work for another week and a half. I might have to push it back a week or so. I have been in contact with the Transgender Law Center and they volenteer to come down form the Bay Area to talk with my HR department to educate them about gender transition and to talk and prepare my coworkers for my transition at work. They suggest that I take some time off while this is going on. I mean half of the plant knows about me already, it is time to make it official.:yrtw:

[CaptLex]

Sounds like you've done the homework, JoanLynn. Please let us know how it goes. :happy:

[Calliope]

And then he goes on to making fun of a couple of my female coworkers how you woman always go off to the bathroom together and probable go and check out each others bra.


Damn, is it still 1965? I thought remarks like that got the pink-slip these days.

You're brave to face a bozo like that.

I believe you will prevail.

[tncdjennifer]

Joan Lynn, you are taking the right steps. A former employee and friend of mine has been transitioning and came out through our HR rep at work. It was interesting because when the HR rep, a frequent lunch partner told me about this person coming out i asked where had he been, i had known from observation for about a year. Some people, men and women, where shocked, others were like me, i have know him for a few years so it is hard to think of him as her, especially since she dresses to various degrees of femininity depending on her mood, but have accepted the name change and respect her abilities and still love her as a friend.

[lacyinsd]

I LOVED your "Gone Femme Wild" note but it has been a rather up and down process with the impact on your mate and now co-workers being jerks.

My thoughts seem to be that one has to be strong wether it is a gender struggle, work struggle or just climbing that mountain.

They make Mt. Everest look so easy on TV, but it isn't, is it ?

You have made the decision to be yourself and that is the biggest strength to lean on.

There is no icon of success that has not struggled to gain that title.

San Diego is home to me too and I feel that the right people are here to get us through anything...we just have to find them.

You have found that support group you mentioned....any one else trying to judge you in the negative is rather just struggling to understand and THAT is not your concern.

You'll be grrreat !

Lacy

[princessmichelle]

Joanlynn,

Good luck.

Michelle

[Shellybean]

Well the fella that was hitting me when he walked by my chair at work was only suspended for a week. However he got upset that he would be suspended for hitting someone with no apparent rights in society and therefore quit. Thank the lord and lady he did.
hugz to all the T-gurls out there
michelle