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Katie_
12-15-2006, 10:37 PM
In my earlier post today "met her in a bar" I talked about telling a complete stranger (GG) that I met in the bar last night that I was a crossdresser. I want to share some other experiences that I have had to help those of you who are nervous, shy, scared, etc. This applies to shopping, telling your wife, girlfriend, parents, etc.

I have been dressing for 30 years, since I was 10, didnt get into the makeup, etc until a few years back. We all have our own level, which is totally irrelevant.

I have had many good, positive fun experiences, and well tell a few. I was once in Dallas and saw a pair of shoes in a mall, went in the store and took a look, they were on sale for $7.00, what a steal. Asked the SA for a pair in size 10, she got them and a the cash register she asked me if I wanted to try them on, I turned beet red, and said no. Took a look around the store and decided I wasnt going to try them on right in the middle of the store (which i have done since), but then said, well, if we can go to the back by the fitting room or something, sure, i would like to try them on. She took me to the break room in the back of the store. I was wearing hose under my dress pants, no socks and slip on shoes. They were 5" heels with a buckle, put them on and she said she wished she could get her hubby to dress, she digged it! Thought about trying to pick her up then and there... point being, the SA's have seen it before, some wont like it, but hey, they wont remember you...all they want is your money. Go to Walmart, the mall, MAC counter, makeup counter at the local drug store, etc. If they look cool, dont be shy.

The girl in the bar was not the first GG that I have confessed to about being a CD, dated one gal for a long time after I told her the first night we met. Just be cool about it, and dont force it, if they are cold to it drop it, change the subject, If they like it dont take it to far at first...just be honest. People like honest people.

Everyone has their own quirk, and most people have a fetish, what ever it is, might not be extreme, but may be more extreme than crossdressing. Told one girl that I was a CD, then asked her about her fetish......wont go into it, but it shocked me! And I thought that was impossible.

Last story, I was in SF, at a Ross Dress for Less right across the street from the Holiday Inn I was staying at. It was real close to closing time. On my way out of the hotel I noticed a GG setting in the lobby, she was wearing a tight short skirt, black hose and knee high boots with high heels. Anyway, was in the store, looking at dresses and look up and she is right beside me. She asked if I was shopping for my wife, said no. Girlfriend? no. Hmm she says, looking for you and I say yes and ask her how she thought the dress I was looking at would look on me. To make a long story short, we each bought some dresses, had dinner together, tried our clothes on together...then she got dolled up, me in drab with hose on, went across the street to the gay bar and watched the drag show, came back, she did my makeup and went from there. Had incredible "fun" if you know what I mean.

Anyway, dont be shy or scared, shop someplace where people dont know you. I have bought lots of womens things in many places, only had one time where the SA was cold about it, and I just left laughing to myself

Merry Xmas, hope you get that new pair of heels you want!

Calliope
12-15-2006, 11:54 PM
Now, now - all the closet CDs are gonna feel haunted tonight.

Serves 'em right.

Yay you, babe!

cdeeko
12-15-2006, 11:59 PM
Now, now - all the closet CDs are gonna feel haunted tonight.

Serves 'em right.

Yay you, babe!

I guess she is our Ghost of Cross Dress Present.

Please excuse my Dickens reference but even if I do not feel like it this year Tis the season.:heehee:

Calliope
12-16-2006, 12:03 AM
Tis the season.

You're telling me. Daughter #1 has her birthday on December 23, daughter #2 the first week of January.

What's a Marxist-Leninist to do?

cdeeko
12-16-2006, 12:22 AM
What's a Marxist-Leninist to do?

Convert them to Marxism/Lenninism????:happy:

tekla west
12-16-2006, 12:27 AM
Nothing happens untill you get up, get out, tell the truth and get on with it. After that, the sky is the limit.

Bethanygirl
12-16-2006, 01:57 AM
The price of freedom may seem high, but the cost of living without it is even higher. I hope you all get what you want out of life, whatever it may be.

RachelDenise
12-16-2006, 07:54 AM
Well, makes my feeble attempts at disclosure a joke. Never got enough courage to do it. That's whhy I'm here to talk avbout myself! Way to go Katie. You're on my all-star list!

marie354
12-16-2006, 09:51 AM
...To boldly go where no man has gone before.... I'm working up the nerve:love:

Angie G
12-16-2006, 10:12 AM
Katie nice story you go girl :hugs:
Angie

melissaK
12-16-2006, 11:26 AM
You know, if you tell people, do what you want, and live without fear, like Katie suggests, you miss all the fun of driving yourself crazy, of intensely myopic rationalizations and the certainty of needing to spend copious amounts of money on either drugs, counsellors or divorce lawyers, or the trifecta of all three! But hey, if you wanna give all that up . . .

Penny
12-16-2006, 11:53 AM
I'm with you Katie, I even go out dressed in my community and visit the same stores drab or dressed. Most of whether you go out in public is all in the mind!

:hugs:

Penny

MsJanessa
12-16-2006, 01:30 PM
To all those pretty T-Girls too afraid to step out of the closet and take a public outing, it is definity more fun out of the closet then in. Take the word of someone who knows.

tekla west
12-16-2006, 01:52 PM
I think that for people in the closet its not only better than they imagine, its better than they can imagine.

Lisa Maren
12-16-2006, 07:49 PM
Thanks for posting, Katie!

I'm slowly working my way up. As I told my therapist yesterday, I know why I'm always so anxious now. It's because of things that happened in grade school and how teachers mishandled it and parents inadvertently made things worse. It's why I'm afraid to tell them and why I have only been out en femme a few times (at night so far).

It's also why I'm having trouble getting past my gender confusion, although I am now pretty confident that I don't identify as male. I have a couple of male traits, but that's it. I was developmentally behind and that kept me disconnected from masculinity (on top of whatever geneology predisposed me -- I always was the sweet and sensitive type).

Now I just need to determine how feminine I am. Half or more? :shrug: Onward, I guess!

Kudos to those who go out and have fun being themselves. The good news is that I absolutely believe you when you say it's so much better. One day I'll be out, too.

Hugs,
Lisa

Jodi
12-16-2006, 07:52 PM
For those of us who coach scholastic athletes, we have many locker room phrases. One of these is "the only difference between a champ and a chump is "U". In simplear words, we are all responsible for our own destiny. If one's decision is to remain in the closet, so be it, but we hear so many on this board just wishing they could do something, ie go out, shop, come out, etc. They are constantly asking for advice. Anyone can spend his/her life as a scared rabbit, or he/she can take the bull by the horns and "just do it".

It is totally up to each individual as to how much courage he/she has.

Jodi