The 'settlement'

[Calliope]

The SO (big bad breadwinner) and I will split.

Although she nixes HRT on her nickle, she will provide electroysis as a parting gift. Deciding the kids should continue to have a father, she will assist me getting set up on my own - perhaps SF and I hope I can find some guidance there for leads on jobs and housing.

Hormones or not, I have already started on my life as a female. I don't really mind being a flat-chested old broad, kinda fits my personality, anyway.

All in all, not bad.



Thanks to everyone for the kind words.

[Marla S]

WOW:sad:
Seems that we all have to draw the shortest straw sooner or later.

I am very sorry to hear.

But if it has to be, respecting one another is better than fighting one another.

What I don't get is the father argument.
You seem to be a very caring momdad, and your kids seem to like you from what you have told. I would consider two moms by far better for the kids than a breakup and no or a new dad, considering their age.

My best wishes for you and the kids.:hugs:

Jobs, housing.
Maybe we should found our own union, business, industries, and build a headquarter with one pink and one blue tower.

[Teresa Amina]

Why is it such things happen around the X-mas season?:( Though it seems you were expecting it it's still a shock to read of your misfortune.

[sara_also]

So sorry for you, It may be difficult for a while. I know with my x it was. But in the long run I have a better life than ever expected. I hope the same for you. Take care .....Hugs
Sara

[Kimberley]

DT, sorry to hear it, especially at this time of year. I hope the kids will be okay. With you, I am sure they will be.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[michelle19845]

wish ya the best of luck,hope it all turns better.

[Maggie Kay]

I'm also wishing the best for all of you. We did not ask for or chose the TG condition. It seems that transitioning an entire family is about the hardest part of TG. It is so hard on all involved. I hope your transition is as peaceful as possible. Take care.

Kay

[Sejd]

Hi Day Tripper
I am sad to read about you splittin up with your SO. I don't know how many years you have been together, but a split up is serious business, especially with kids envolved. The trauma, can cause health problems and what have you. I was separated from my wife for half a year some three years ago, and I only look back at that time with gratitude, because it made us a better marriage. Through hard work and lots of therapy. I hope for you that you will have the chance to find your beloved again, and maybe get even stronger.
hugs
Sejd :love:

[joanlynn28]

Day Tripper I am with there with you, I went though the same thing. I knew last year about this time that my marraige was basically over with, just did not want it to end so close to the holidays. Anyway my divorce was final back in November, just have to deal with selling the house now. Yeah when I told my wife a couple of weeks ago that I started HRT about a month ago she was upset. Your not using our home equity loan to go and pay for hormones are you. Told her that the insurance was paying for it, not I went and bit the bullet for the first prescriptions paying out of my own pocket, that should be purse until I get my new insurance cards. Anyway if you need someone to relate to I am here for you down here in San Diego.

[AmberTG]

Well,I know what you're going through, been through one divorce, though it wasn't really bitter and tramatic for either of us, Michigan allows for no-fault divorce, and you can file your own paperwork without a lawyer if you can come to agreement on everything. I'm probably going to be going through another one next year. The first lasted 22 years, this one lasted about 5 years so far, but she's been seeing other men for most of that time and it's gotten to difficult for me to deal with, I have enough depression already from my gender issues. It's the depression that causes most of my marital problems, I become withdrawn and not fun to be around. I'm doing better now with my anti-depressant, but it's too late for the relationship. I hope your settlement doesn't get complicated, that's really no fun. Christmas tends to suck when things like this are happening, we're supposed to be happy this time of the year, but that's difficult with all the relationship stress.
Amber
PS-don't be dumb and marry a substantially younger woman, it's a difficult journey.

[Calliope]

Christmas tends to suck when things like this are happening, we're supposed to be happy this time of the year, but that's difficult with all the relationship stress.


And a lot of companies choose December to pink-slip workers. Got zapped once myself, they saved their X-Mas bonus, the creeps.



PS-don't be dumb and marry a substantially younger woman, it's a difficult journey.


Oh no no, I've been married twice - and that's it for me.

[Scotty]

I've been going through a similiar issue since september and it's coming to fruition in about 3 weeks or so.....which is why you have not seen me here and why I won't post in a public viewable forum for now.......

I'll be back in full force, but the three huge issues from august were a vehicle wreck - got my vehicle back, this court thing - it's still going, and a death in the family.
I emailed Daytripper to express my condolences.

I was married once 15 years ago and never ever again.

That's just me, I'd love to have a loving wife and maybe some day that may happen, but I don't see it in my immediate future :D

Merry Christmas all :)

[Bethanygirl]

Oh Daytripper, I am so sorry for what you are going through, I hope you can find something positive in this holiday season despite what is happenning in your life! I think you can if you try, because even though you get a little negative about some social issues, you seem to be a generally upbeat person. I hope so anyway, but remember, people do feel for you, and wish you well. Good luck, and good future girl!
:love: