Family Ties

[Natty_W]

I know this probably comes up a lot but I'm struggling and I would appreciate some input...

I'm pretty open about myself, I dress openly in front of my partner and the majority of my friends, and I'm lucky enough to have been accepted by all.

However...

I want to go official in 2007. It's my goal to be on oestreogen by July. The only thing that holds me back is my brother.

We're 15 months apart and have been as close as close can be our entire lives. I know that he has "issues" with TGirls and it's held me back for years. But my sanity depends on me rectifying my problems so I need to start considering the next step.

What can I do... the highly valued love of my brother over the answer to all my prayers...

Can anyone offer me any advice?

[marie354]

I've just opened up to my brother and he seemed to get a little uneasy, so to answer your question is to do what I have to do too.... Talk to him more about it. Tell him about this site where he can ask lots of questions and get some real answers from people in all walks of life that are doin' it.
:hugs: :love: :hugs:
I hope that helps some. I'm just starting to come out though. I'm just a CD and don't plan on doin' the hormone thing.

[Sharon]

If your brother places his ""issues" with TGirls," above his feelings for you, then I think you're not as close as close can be.

Sorry.

[MJ]

oh boy here we go again .as in all of us here . you must live your life Hun if you live for others. then when are you going to live for yourself ?. you be who you are and if your loved ones and friends are true they will be there for you no matter what you look like. your brother has to deal with his feelings. if he loves you then he will get use to your fem side. the real you.
natty
you must follow your heart. what do you want in life ?
good luck
Marissa

[Calliope]

Sounds like you're gonna have to choose. Chances are, your brother will eventually deal. If not, maybe he can be someone else's brother.

[finacarina]

Its funny how we are so open and we do this and we do that and we are accepted and everyone thinks we are a gg, but then in our profile we cant even post a picture. Makes me say hhhhmmmmm. Oh and by the way maybe your brother has issues because he is trying to mask the fact that he is a "cd" too!

[Kate Simmons]

You have to be yourself Hon. Only you know what that means to you. Don't let someone else hold you back because these feelings can sometimes be hell to live with if we don't get them resolved. I didn't transition but lost most of my family and friends for being who I am. As a result, I'm more or less on my own. It's a choice I choose to live with though as the alternative is living a lie and I can no longer deal with that. Being true to myself and who I am is just as important to me as life itself. You have to decide what is best for you however and only you know yourself well enough to do that.:happy: Ericka Kay

[Bethanygirl]

oh boy here we go again .as in all of us here . you must live your life Hun if you live for others. then when are you going to live for yourself ?. you be who you are and if your loved ones and friends are true they will be there for you no matter what you look like. your brother has to deal with his feelings. if he loves you then he will get use to your fem side. the real you.
natty
you must follow your heart. what do you want in life ?
good luck
Marissa

Right on Marissa!

[Delila]

I wish there was some good advice I could offer. But sadly my family is highly unaccepting of anything even remotely different particularly cders. The only thing to say is if you think that you have a good enough relationship with your brother to tell him do it. If not I would recommend working your way to it slowly.