a sincere apology and a question for those of us with children

[MJ]

first of all i would like to say sorry. i got home after a 14 hour day and unwind at the computer and i posted a reply here that was for f2m and gg i read the thread but posted by mistake Tamara gg got it and kicked me in the arse. again sorry i almost had a clean record here for 2 hours oh well :o

now a question for those of us with children. forgive me for being slow on this one but it hit me today that there might be some here that maybe mums once upon a time. how do your children deal with your change ?
the reason is my children know. but have not seen me en femme nor do they want to for fear of upsetting there mom
and because of my support payment i can no longer live in my apartment so i am moving over Christmas " some Christmas " but i hope things pick up for me in the new year. it can't get worse ... can it.

[pocoyo]

Awww MJ I hope that the move goes smoothly and that you're feeling all happy and settled soon. Perhaps you'll love your new place! Hey... it could be a new happy start! :D
I'm sure your children love you very much. If my Dad wanted to be a woman/felt he was one I would still love him and the same if my Mum wanted to be a man... I think they'd actually feel like the same loving person to me...just looking a little different, and though it would take time to adjust I think it would all be cool after a while. Perhaps it's a shock to your children but they could well get used to the idea in time! (Roughly how old are they if you don't mind me asking? I don't mind if you don't want to tell!) I just wanted to say that if they are very young of course things could be a bit confusing, so naturally tread carefully (sometimes kids can seem to cope wonderfully but actually things can affect them deeply.. particularly where their parents are concerned.. I speak as being one such kid!), but if they are a bit older & more secure in themselves it's a bit of a different matter.
Good luck and keep smiling like in your lovely pictures :hugs:
Xxx

[MJ]

hi Pocoyo
thank you. my children are Becky 21 , john 17 , and Isobel 15, and they are great kids i love and miss them but i hope in time they will see me.
Becky is expecting in February.. hmmmm so what would that make me t-Nana ?. and none of them see me..

[CaptLex]

Apology accepted, Marissa - we all make mistakes.

As for your question . . . in my case, my son has taken it very well (he's 25), although he still calls me "Ma". But I'm okay with that. I tend to think of myself more of a trans-parent than a Mom or a Dad, and what matters to both of us is that we continue to communicate and spend time together, the rest is not that important. We kid around about it all the time and he's always giving me tips on shaving, grooming, etc. He even gets a kick out of any new wardrobe items I get - checks out my new ties, shoes, shirts, etc. I know I'm lucky, but he acknowledged that I've never been a "normal" person in his eyes, so it didn't really surprise him.

I'm sorry that you don't get to see your kids and I hope you'll get to see your upcoming grandchild. I also hope your kids will be okay with it, although I'm sure it will take a while to adjust. The bottom line is the kind of person you are inside, and if they're okay with that, I hope they come to see that you'll always be that to them. Good luck.

[Felix]

Hi MJ sorry to hear about ya lack of contact with ya kids, I too can empathize here as I haven't seen my eldest who has just turned 17 for 5.5 yrs. It's hard I know and ppl say to ya It gets easier but in reality for me it's gettin harder do ya know what I mean??
My youngest son and step son are used to me dressin like a boy and I'm sure my son has and idea cos he refered to me yesterday as a man/woman lol funny he put the man bit first so he must see me more in that role already.
He's never asked me out right and I don't know what I would say if he did but I'm sure I'd think of somethin. He did ask me a couple of months back if I was a tomboy to which I said yes ya could say that that was that really.
I hope ya kids have a change of heart someday, they say blood is thicker than water so ya never know. I just keep on hoping, it keeps me going. Good luck with ya move hun and try to have a good xmas and New Year xx Felix :hugs:

[crossing-the-rain]

I hope every thing will be OK for you and have a wonderful 2007
Rain

[Marcie Sexton]

Remember it always gets darkest just before dawn...:happy:

Good luck & god bless:hugs: