Frustration of an elderly crossdresser.

[Edwina]

It is a beautiful day here in Cape Town with a light breeze and the temperature is a very comfortable 25C. I am barefoot and wearing a thin white lacy top and a flared summer skirt which billows out nicely in the breeze from the open back door. :happy:
So what is the problem I hear you ask. The problem is that I can see our letter box in the front has lots of post sticking out and I cannot go out in the bright sun to walk the 15m to fetch it. The house opposite has one way glass windows and it is impossible to see if anyone is home, my next door neighbour comes and goes throughout the day and then there is the chance that a car will suddenly turn the corner leaving me totally exposed without any cover at all. :eek:
Ah well! back to some houshold chores I guess. :sad:

:love:

Edwina

[Marla S]

I see the dilemma, but why you don't just slip on a shirt and some pants, take the post, and take off the shirt and pants again. Less than 5 min all in all.

[Kate Simmons]

Yeah, like Marla said, I was gonna say just go in "stealth mode".:happy: Ericka

[Marla S]

"stealth mode".:happy: Ericka
:lol: just great.

Now I have my modes completed.

ME-mode and stealth mode:D :happy:

[Kate Simmons]

:lol: just great.

Now I have my modes completed.

ME-mode and stealth mode:D :happy:Well, as Ericka/Eric/Rich (and whoever else), I'm used to it by now Marla. I just gotta remember who I am sometimes.:heehee: :alien: :shocked: ;)

[Joyciecd]

Let me see if I understand Edwina's consternation: Iam not so sure that being elderly is the moving factor for Edwina. It seems to me she shares the frustration of so many that dress femmy then just can't take that first step outside for fear of being 'exposed'. I am a girl that cares less who sees what, but I know that so many of my sisters, due to family or other social situations, either can't or won't emulate me and others here like me. So to Edwina, I feel your pain dear, and hope that someday soon your situation will change to permit you to come and go as you please. In the meantime, know that I for one are so envious of that climate as we freeze our heinies off here in the frigid NE USA!

[Suzie Green]

How far away are the neighbors? Perhaps they'd never even notice, or maybe they'd think you have a visitor? I sympathize with you, I don't know if I'd have the courage to do it either, but maybe someday we both will take that next step. Whether you ever do it or not, it's OK. :hugs: to you from another "older" CD! :happy:

Christine

[Teresa Amina]

That 15m to the mailbox is the most stress-filled distance. My mailbox is about 20 meters down the driveway and while in the cold weather its no biggy (bulky coat covers whatever nicely) there's still no way I'd go get my mail in daylight while 'dressed. But I'll drive 200 miles enfemme and be out all day without worrying at all. Go figure!

[JoAnnDallas]

You can do what I have done. That is get yourself a ladies T-Shirt, slacks, and tennis shoes or lofers. Wear this to get the mail. No one will notice that your dressed fem. I have gone out shopping with my sister dressed this way and she never knew. I even wore flesh colored lipstick and she nor anyone else noticed.

There are ways to dress fem and still look drab.

[Angie G]

Edwina I get dressed in drab get the post then change back but I do know what your saying hun:hugs:
Angie

[Diana West]

Get the mail at night.

[Billijo49504]

Like JoAnn said, wear a cute t shirt and a pair of womens shorts, and go bare foot to get the mail. And just for good measure, don't forget to wear panties and a bra...:heehee: ...BJ

[Samantha B L]

Hi Edwina,I can sympathize that you don't want to get exposed,read,caught. And you never know what kind of crap is going to follow with that.I know it sounds cynical but many people would probably not be able to figure out that it was you on the walkway to get the mail en fem.If it occured to them at all they could just dismiss it as part of some practicle joke or ruse that they're not in on.But if in doubt,throw on a shirt and pants to get the mail. Merry Christmas,Edwina,Yours,Samantha

[carla smith]

That just says it all, Edwina! I know that you really want to....but. I know the feeling.


Neighbors are the worst ones to find out first!

Behind those one way windows they are waiting for you to get the mail....why else would they have them.:heehee: :hugs:

You must weigh the consequences of your neighbor seeing that you are wearing a skirt. If that weight is too heavy, change your clothes and get the mail.

It might be fun to go out there! :happy:

[MsJanessa]

Go get your mail dressed head to toe en femme---chances are nobody will notice but if they do it will enliven the neighbor hood for months---get your courage up and start living.

[rickie121x]

Someone mentioned the "stealth" mode. Ha, ha, that is what I do so often! I wear my female, long length, jeans so that the 1 1/2 heel height women's shoes won't be so noticeable. For most of the year, sweatshirts hide my chest pretty well - and I put my ponytail up under a baseball cap. The result is that I feel very female, and yet am pretty well camouflaged.

Then when I am walking the 100 feet out to the box, I vary my stride from straight male, to the wonderful wavy and flowing feminine walk with my palms forward, and butt out, and allowing my hips to softly flex with my balance.... Ummmm! It has been a couple of years now, and no one seems to have noticed anything - at least when I stop to chat with neighbors, in my male mode, all seems to be in order....

Hugs, Rickie :doll:

[Karren H]

Probably just bills anyway!! So its better you don't get then any sooner than you need to...you know...time value of money and everything!! Hehehe

On the other hand (besides 5 fingers) maybe you could set the new South African record for the 15 Meter dash!!

Love Karren

[Maggie Kay]

When I go out to get the mail it is a trip to a shared set of boxes for the neighborhood. It is such a pain to hide everything just to get a bunch of junk mail. SO sometimes, I forget and leave the house with my hair done up all nice with barrettes etc. Then I nearly panic when a car drives by or even worse a neighbor checks his mail at the same time. Recently, I just said "screw it" and went out to lunch with the wife with them in. No one said anything or indicated anything to me that they took offense or notice. Not even in a crowd. One small step toward freedom.

[susie evans]

i used to worry about those details but since i started viewing this forum my attitude has changed and i'm feeling the only person that i'am hurting is my self soo i'am going to enjoy going out when i want

[Bethanygirl]

I am not sure what is involved here, maybe some more info? Like, why is your neighbour's opinion that important to you? Are you sure it would be bad? What is your situation in the community in general that might blow all of this out of porportion?

[Sierra Evon]

I feel you on that , but if it was me !!!, I'd just simply go out and get it !!!

[Julie York]

You might die soon. Then you'll feel silly.








(They make you dress as a girl in Heaven. I know cos I saw the pictures in Sunday School.)


:D

Joking aside I know what you mean. Conflict is caused by trying to do one thing and wanting to do another. Either stop 'wanting' to do it, or DO it.

Good luck.

[krisinpink]

I sure understand! I've 'thrown caution to the wind' and walked the 20m to the mailbox while dressed, but haven't for a while...neighbors, drivers-by, but mostly the BIG possibility that one of my SO's teenage daughters would pull in the drive! I've had close calls here recently, to get busted at the mailbox would be one that you just couldn't come up with a good enough reason for doing it -other than just telling them that I LOVE DRESSING LIKE THIS!!:D

[Bethanygirl]

I sure understand! I've 'thrown caution to the wind' and walked the 20m to the mailbox while dressed, but haven't for a while...neighbors, drivers-by, but mostly the BIG possibility that one of my SO's teenage daughters would pull in the drive! I've had close calls here recently, to get busted at the mailbox would be one that you just couldn't come up with a good enough reason for doing it -other than just telling them that I LOVE DRESSING LIKE THIS!!:D

Seems like a pretty good reason to me...

[Edwina]

Goodness, I never expected so many warm replies and humour to my little vent.
Point was I could not pass in the dark with a bag on my head so there is no way I could venture outside. It was just that I was so happy in what I was wearing that I got frustrated knowing that to actually carry through would be disastrous. The mail itself was not an issue.

The suburb in which we live is very much like Small Town USA. The neighbour I mentioned went to school with my wife’s nephew and niece and they see each other frequently. Their parents, in turn, are not CD friendly and so on.

Karren honey, if I looked like you I would be tempted to start a rumour that I was having an affaire with a gorgeous stranger but sadly, if I were to try breaking a record I would probably end up with a broken leg. :D
Again thank you all for your friendship
Happy Holidays to you all
Love
Edwina

[Amy Hepker]

Sounds like the sealth mode is the way to go unless you don't care what everyone else thinks. I one time opened the door to the pizza delivery, luckily it was a girl delivering. I think I would have been more embarrassed if it would have been a guy or even someone we knew.

[Bernadina]

From the useless suggestion department.

Mail is overrated anyway. Flyers, junk mail, bills. Why bother collecting it. I'd get rid of the mail box and subsitute a garbage can. Then just let the mail rot. Voila. Problem solved. No need to make the trip anymore.

Or you could wait until dark and then go and get it.