GRRRR Seriously!!!!!!!

[Luscious Star]

Current mood: rejected


Ok when I got home to femme up in my bedroom. I found my leggings (pantyhose), bra, fishnets, wig, lipstick, and pink cami sole to be missing!!!!! This is the second time that my aunt has gone through my femme things: confiscated them, threw them away, or kept them upstairs. I don't go through my aunt and uncle's things and take what I want, throw it away, confiscate it! That would be theft in a way or stealing. I am not doing any harm crossdressing. It helps me understand women. If I want to understand something I have that right! She takes my stuff again and I'm going to the police. I know my rights as a citizen and I have had those rights taken away!
I might be living in their house. but those are things I paid for with my own money. Taking away something I worked hard to pay for is like hate in another form. be it temporary or permanent. I don't hate my aunt and uncle. I Just hate this action my aunt has done. Because she has no right to go through my stuff unless it causes me harm. Crossdressing at age 16 up to now has never caused me harm. and she's full of it when she says NO WOMAN will ever accept a guy that crossdresses. That's like saying no guy will accept a woman that dresses in guys things. This society at times is so biased and one sided. If I could wake up my aunt more then my uncle to prove to her that crossdressing is helpless I would. In fact I'll say it again. Crossdressing is nothing to be ashamed of. it's from inside and a way of self expression.
It's just like getting a piercing or tattoo. it never takes away from the person. just adds to their character. If more men and I mean more then 88% of the men in this world crossdressed. they'd appreciate women as much as I do (In an understanding manner or way) I'll always appreciate women. I just never understood them from young on. Having fun expressing a side of themselves society forces us to believe has no right to exist to express. and so on. I don't hate my aunt. I just hate that she can't understand something so simple. I give up talking to her about simple things like this. Next time she takes my femme things. I am going to the police and she will see that my rights have been violated and that she has no right to go through my things. In fact she taught me something young on that even she can't follow with my own things. You do not take what is someone elses. You ask or you buy it yourself. You allow people their privacy and don't violate their well being. She has done both and so help me to life I will have the police ask her questions as to why she did this and she will see in the end that she was wrong, I was right about it being harmless and she will have to apologize for taking my things. etc. I will get justice one way or another. and my aunt will finally have something we used to have as family: understanding and love. not this biased judgmental, somewhat hateful talk she gives me when we talked about dressing femme. I will say this blunt and truthfully

if the Lord himself did not love me for dressing femme
he would of struck me with lightning at age 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, or now at 22
he has not done so
So no one can tell me that God or Jesus hates me
if he or they did
I wouldn't be here talking to you
This country at times needs to stop being biased and start being understanding
that's what I want first from people
understanding then love
they're both important when making friends
and if anyone that thinks friendship is just based on trust and nothing else
then they need to open their eyes wider
and see the world as it is
not how their mind says it is
When we see with our eyes
we see what is real
when we see with our mind
we're temporarily envisioning what will be seen
People need to learn the difference between perception and reality
My aunt can't tell the difference between perceptions of crossdressing and reality

and another thing
The verses in the bible talk about crossdressing
male dressing femme
or female dressing male like
It's talking about the man being the house wife
or the housewife being the man of the house
Also God was condemning people that dress femme to commit crimes
some small amount of crooks
have crossdressed to get a thrill out of hurting someone while portraying the opposite sex
People need to learn that ********, ggs, hermaphrodites, drag queens, female impersonators, cds, tvs, ts women of all kinds etc
are all harmless and just want what everyone wants: love and understanding
I find all of these women to be beautiful. no one can tell me I don't know true beauty in a woman that I feel in my heart first and mind second.
the only people that cause harm in this world
are the rapists
pedophiles
child molesters
arsonists
bank robbers
thieves
murderers and so forth
they exist with the purpose not which to embrace life but to destroy it whatever way possible
the rest of us are not those
exist to create life, help life and so on
You close minded people out there reading this please be quiet, stop judging that which should be loved ,and grow up

to those reading this that are mature and understand
thank you and I appreciate your thoughts

Close minded people make me sick because they never see through reality
they only see through perception and bias judging and that is all

That makes me sick to my stomach

good night to everyone I have friended, will friended. always friended

muahhhhhhhh muahhhhs Luscious Star loves you ladies and everyone she has friended/is friends with/will be friends with

with all the heart and care and content that a heart can contain in caring for others before itself. night! and sweet dreams and best wishes to all always!

I would love to date any of the females I have mentioned above as people. If you are interested ladies I will post my profile for dating in the area on here that is the right area. thank you for your time, patience and beauty you convey truthfully and beautifully ladies. I couldn't ask for a more safer place then this. Thank you for making this home to me. The friends I have made on here are miraculous. so much bonding on here :)
Merry Christmas to all
If anyone on here doesn't like Christmas
then I hope you enjoy yourself somehow over this last part of December. I'll see when I can post new pics up. Bear with me everyone and ladies.

[Kate Simmons]

There is nothing I hate more than meddling relatives. I was wondering if they stated any "ground rules" when you came there? Even so, invasion of privacy is no small issue. It seems most of our problems come from relatives who think they know what is "best" for us. If possible I'd look for another place. I detest walking on "eggshells" and had my fill of it with my in-laws in the past. I just hope you are okay, Hon.:happy: Ericka

[kittypw GG]

Star,
I understand that you are upset at your aunt for invading your privacy but getting a third party involved will do no good what so ever. you will be just taking the police away from helping someone with a serious problem.

What you need Star is to establish boundries with people. It is a choice that you stay with your aunt. If you can't set these boundries then move out. plain and simple.

Good luck Kitty

[Wendy me]

star you have been here with just abought the same complaint before ... well sorry to tell you this if you are looking for things to be your way and not to have any one going through your things then a move is in order..your own place your own things your own way.... under their roof well you got little or no controll......

[Raychel]

Sorry I have to be with everyone elso one this. Sure your Aunt should have talked to you before just taking your things. But if you are living in her house you have to play by her rules.

[bredalee25]

No matter what your living arangements are. Nobody has the right to take what doesn't belong to them. That would be like your landlord coming in the home you rent and taking your belongings while you're away. This is the same issue and as far as taking the police away from a more serious problem thats not right everyone has the right to call the police when they've been violated or a theft has occured. Star is a legal adult and has a right to her privacy so i think you doubters should take a moment and apologize for your comments and have a little sympathy towards star. I mean what if you were the one who had your things taken wouldn't you be upset too!!!!!!

Star let me be the first to take your side i'm with you on this one. What your aunt did was theft and very wrong I don't care if it's her house you've got your rights too!!

ttfn

[Chiana]

Wow that was certainly passionate and spontaneous. I hope getting that off of your chest helped. But now it is a new day and reason and control need to take over. If you are paying rent then you should be able to have a certain degree of privacy, like any other boarder. If you are living under their roof in the position of a dependant then that is a different situation all together. Either way you need to talk to your aunt to establish some clear house rules. Good luck.

[Shadeauxmarie]

Star,

Perhaps you could buy a suitcase, put a lock on it and keep the suitcase under the bed?

Just a thought hon.

[Calliope]

Yeh, a locked suitcase is your best short-term solution - but you gotta get your own space. I'd abandon the struggle with these folks - certainly I wouldn't call the cops, that's like asking them to mediate over who ate the last cookie. I can appreciate you're hopping mad, no doubt.

[occdresser]

Yeh, a locked suitcase is your best short-term solution - but you gotta get your own space. I'd abandon the struggle with these folks - certainly I wouldn't call the cops, that's like asking them to mediate over who ate the last cookie. I can appreciate you're hopping mad, no doubt.

This girl has the perfect answer:thumbsup:

[Kristen Kelly]

Sorry I have to be with everyone elso one this. Sure your Aunt should have talked to you before just taking your things. But if you are living in her house you have to play by her rules.

I'm in agreement here, 2 wrongs won't make it right, or will the police.

[Rachel Morley]

Crossdressing at age 16 up to now has never caused me harm. and she's full of it when she says NO WOMAN will ever accept a guy that crossdresses.
I guess some people really have no idea about the diversification of society. Just because they wouldn't want something for themselves doesn't mean it's the same for everyone else. My wife married me (in part) because I like to dress in women's clothes, not despite it.

Perhaps you should have a talk with your Aunt. She needs to understand that confiscating your stuff, trying to wish it away, or simply demanding that it stop is not going to change anything. Does she think that if she refuses to tolerate it, it will disappear? I think not. Try to help her see that expressing your femininity makes you feel relaxed, happy, and fulfilled, while suppressing it causes stress, anxiety, and irritability. Somehow she has to make some sort of connection that for you (unlike her) "crossdressing and happiness" go together and are inextricably linked.

That said, I do agree with the others, you have to tread carefully, whitest you are a minor and living in her house she does have some rights.

[TxKimberly]

Well, there are many things to be considered here. Let's start off by agreeing that often what is morally wrong and what is illegal are often two different things. I am NOT a lawyer, but I think that as long as you live in their home, she DOES have the legal right to go through your stuff. It may be MORALLY wrong, but I think it is legal (unless your a paying tenant). I'm sure someone in here can tell you for sure. Calling the police would make your life worse, not better. Presumably your aunt and uncle are allowing you to stay with them. How likely are you to remain welcome there after you have brought the police into their home, thus sharing what is to them a shame-full thing, with the community?
There is only one dependable resolution that I can think of. Get your feet under yourself, become self sufficient, and get a place of your own or with room mates you can tolerate.

Kim

[Iniquity Blonde GG]

wrong or right, i think the police wouldnt really be able to do much :rolleyes: and, like others have said maybe storing your things away , where they carnt be found seems a good idea. what they eye doesnt see, the eye doesnt grieve !! :straightface:

[Stephenie S]

I have a couple of points to make here about this issue.

One: As has been said earlier, you are living under their roof. If you are paying rent, you can have some expectation of privacy. If they are suporting you, then you have to play be their rules until you can get a place of your own. I doubt if the police would respond to this compaint, anyway. I think they would veiw it as frivolous and you might end up getting in trouble yourself.

Definately this calls for a serious talk with your aunt about wanting your privacy. I do feel you have a right not to feel violated by having someone go through your things when you are not there.

This leads me to my second point: This is directed not at you, Star, but at the forum in general. Do you all see why I keep making the point in my past posts that going through someone elses underwear drawer and taking their things is wrong. Gross, and wrong. and sometimes could be called stealing. This includes your wife, your cousin, your neighbor, your friends. I know that sometimes we feel that there is just no other source and gee, it's so tempting, all those frillies just sitting there. But NO, NO, NO. Pawing through someone else's underwear drawer is a GROSS invasion of their privacy. Don't do it. Get your own stuff. Even just "borrowing" something is a no no. Especially if it's for some sexual purpose. Get your own!!! We all erupt with righteous indignation when Star's drawer is invaded and her stuff is taken. Do you see what an afront it is when you do it to someone else?

Ok, I will calm down now. Have to go to work anyway.

Lovies to all
Steph

[Sweet Jane]

Hi

I'd move, maybe you should too.

[Wendy48088]

I think what your Aunt did was wrong, but the reason Aunts (and Uncles and Fathers and Mothers) go through the kid's stuff is to look for drugs. There are stories on the Internet about the police SWAT teams raiding houses at 3 am because the kid was in possession of drugs (kid's friend gets arrested and rats out your kid to make him look bad).

Since you are over 21, I would think stuff like Playboy magazine and women's clothing would be overlooked, but that's just me.

At 22 years old hon, you've got to be focused on getting your own place or moving in with someone else to share an apt. with (another CD perhaps).

Definitely DO NOT get the police involved or they will be escorting you out of the house - It is your Aunt's house and they will see you as someone who is living off your aunt and taking advantage of her and then trying to cause her trouble.