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SusanTL
12-28-2006, 06:46 AM
Hi all.
I am not sure whether to be insulted or excited. I was at the mall the other day returning some christmas gifts, and as always the stores were packed. As I was standing in a very crowed and large line. I felt a hand rub my butt. I turned around and saw no one special. The people around me were just regular looking women and men. No one looked out of sorts, and no one was looking at me. I said nothing and just went about my business.
As I thought about it. At first I felt violated, then I thought, hey, maybe no one can read me any more and some guy (I am guessing its a guy), thought I was just anothe girl in the line, and he got his jollys this way.
The more I thought about it, and spoke to my gender doctor about what happend. She told me it was wrong of this person to do that. Which I already knew. Then she also told me. Consider this part of the passage you are making into womenhood. She told me that its very hard to me a women and you need to learn how to deal with all aspects of life as a woman now.
So, this creep may have been wrong in grabbing my butt. It a strange way he did me a favor. I have now experanced part of life that many women have learned how to deal with very early on. Life training girls like us have missed out on. As my doctor told me. There will be more female life lessons to come.
Hugs to all - Susan
ToyGirl
12-28-2006, 07:28 AM
Yup , creepy but grats. I dont live in a high enough population area for this to happen to me (ok thats my excuse and im sticking to it).
The good and the bad , its nice to have men let you go infront of them at que's in stores etc (even if it is only so they can stare at your butt while they wait).
Though at the end of the day no one wants to get raped or assaulted , be carefull out there !
p.s is TGIF in you sig , coincidence or le tigre fan ?
CaptLex
12-28-2006, 10:51 AM
Here's one thread I probably shouldn't answer, but it's just bugging me. While it's true that being treated like a piece of meat is very much a female experience, it's not one anyone should hope for in order to feel validated as a female. Please forgive me if I'm not getting the point here, but this is what it sounds like to me. Yeah, women get groped and worse, but it's not something that has to happen in order for them to know they're women. Again, maybe I'm misunderstanding this, in which case . . . never mind.
Calliope
12-28-2006, 12:54 PM
Can I ever relate.
When I was living in Portland, there was this great dancing lounge place I frequented on Friday nights. Half straight, half lesbian & gay. One midnight, there was this woman, she was really big I add, came into my dancing space, that was fun enough - she started playing with my hair - flattering for sure - then started grabbing me - I could tell she was drunk - aggressively dancing with me, holding me - I started to feel trapped. Started off great and ended up - well, uncomfortable.
Of course, it's got to me much more uncomfortable when the contact is unseen.
SusanTL
12-28-2006, 02:38 PM
Hi Capt.
My point is. By having a guy do what he did. Tells me that maybe just maybe I have reached a point in my transistion that I totally pass. That I am accepted as a female in public. Maybe I can start to stop thinking every second I am out, What if I am read. Maybe I can start to use the ladies room with out fear that some other women would start yelling at me, or go to the manager and say. There is a guy in dress in the ladies room.
All I meant ot express is maybe I reaced a point of being able to just blend in as just another woman. Not a TS woman. Just another woman in general.
Its so tireing have to worry all the time I am out and about. Will I be read today. I have lived with feeling for so long now. I am just so excited its maybe its gone. All want is to be, just another girl.
Hugs - Susan
CaptLex
12-28-2006, 03:11 PM
Okay, Susan, I get your point - it's about passing. And I know how important that is - trust me, I've been having big issues with this myself. So, it's the same as if some guy had held your seat or your coat, right? Just about being treated like a female - even if it means being treated badly like a female. I guess I would equate that with a guy asking me to "Let's take it outside, buddy" if we got into an argument during happy hour. Maybe not the best example, but I hope you get the point. It's not something I would enjoy, but at least he'd treat me like the correct gender, and I'd at least know that I passed. Or something like that . . .
Lisa Golightly
12-28-2006, 03:14 PM
A vile creature that touches me uninvited lives to regret it.
Sierra Evon
12-28-2006, 04:06 PM
I think just some prev, saw an opportunity to cop a feel and did that , but by the same token , you must have been looking hott to him. I've had a guy's in the stores brush by me like really close , but not enoughf to be a cop a feel like thing , one guy about 5 months ago , in line at the store smelled my hair, my pony-tail, an commented " You-smell good babe "", ya and he stunk like booze.....you decide!!!!!!:thumbsup: :thumbsdn: :eek: :happy:
SusanTL
12-28-2006, 04:14 PM
Hi Capt.
Yes that is correct. All I was referring to was passing. Whether its good or bad - I passed.
Thank you all.
Susan
joanlynn28
12-28-2006, 08:43 PM
Your headed in the right direction getting read as a real women. Yes unfornately there are people out there that like to infringe on others personal space. But I share with you the feeling that is being accepted as we truely are. For me I got greater satisfaction being accepted as a female when I have been in the drab mode. It's just not looking like a woman but also radiating outward as a woman too. That's when I know that I have no problem passing. Yes my avator is really me.:hugs:
ToyGirl
12-28-2006, 11:25 PM
if your constantly worrying about being read than you will be easier to read.
And theres no advantage in worrying about it.
cindianna_jones
12-29-2006, 08:12 PM
Susan, I totally understand where you are coming from. It is a validation in a perverted sort of way. And it can feel good in that sense. In fact, it can feel very good.
Now you need to develop the slap in the face that sends him on his way. That, my dear, is even more gratifying!
Cindi
Caitlintgsd
12-29-2006, 11:06 PM
It can be nasty getting groped. I've had uninvited hands wander up my hemline in the past. I was out last night (in drab) after work. This bozo bumped into my chest. He immediately turned around and grabbed me with both hands while stating "Nice pair". All I did was respond thanks and continued on my way.
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