Acceptance from GGSO

[marie354]

I know that there are a lot of understanding women here that try, very hard to understand their man and why he wants to look like a woman.
My GF and I have a very open and honest relationship and we do talk a lot about everything. We've never lost that spark that excites us both.
I'm too trying to understand her point of view, and understand that it's very hard for her as well to understand me and my girly ways.
I think that communication is the key here to understanding. We talk to each other constantly every day even if it's just about... would you like peas or corn with the pork chops that I'm baking tonight. Even just ideas that pop into our heads, whether comical or serious.
Even when we disagree, there is still the calm, well most of the time, adult conversation and reasoning that is needed in any relationship. And we always work something out.
I guess what I'm saying is... Guys, when you're wearing her shoes, put yourself there mentally too and think... If I was a GG, how would I really feel about MY MAN dressing as a woman. If you look at this honestly, it's easy to see things from her perspective and understand why she sets her level the way she does... As the expression goes... This far and no farther. When she sets a limit, it's OK.
My SO and I have talked at length, and she doesn't have a problem with it at all, but there are limits in what she expects from it and I adhere to them. After all SHE IS the love of my life and I won't let anything interfere with our relationship.
My SO had already heard roumers about me when we met, and she waited for me to open up about it. She has told me that if I hadn't opened up in that first week of dating and been honest, it never would have worked for us.

Well these are just a few of my thoughts, as my mind never stops wondering, not even when I'm asleep. I know that a lot will read this, some won't get this far, but for those who do... I welcome all and any comments, critisisms, etc.
I gotta stop here as I could rattle on for hours on end and use up all of the forum's space.
:hugs:
Sandy... or Sam as my SO always calls me.
:hugs:

[Sandra]

Sounds like you two have got it sorted really pleased for you. :hugs:

[kerrianna]

I think it's hard for couples who aren't really best friends to start with - you know, married for looks, money, etc.
If you're good friends you tend to want to talk about stuff and that helps when you HAVE to talk about stuff. Communication can be worked on though. But that's what it takes - WORK - and some people seem to think that because they work so hard in the rest of their lives they should just be able to come home and have everything flow along easily. Some days it does, but some days you got HOMEwork. :hugs:

I was thinking this morning about how I would feel if my SO came home dressed in a suit and tie with her hair cut short, no make-up etc. and declared she always wanted to be a guy and wanted to start dressing like that all the time. Maybe in my case it might be ok cuz I could just start being the girl :heehee: (check out Evert's cartoon in the Forum), but I don't know. I think I would have a hard time dealing with that. I like her as a female. It would change a lot of our relationship structure depending on how serious she...er...he was about it.

At least you two entered into it together and have been keeping pace. That's a real key. You gotta stick with your friends when you're walking together, make sure they can keep up, you're not walking too fast, keeping an eye out for each other. Can't see how it works any other way. :hugs: