Question asking for your opinion

[rocval2001]

If this is the wrong place for this thread I apologize a head of time. Today, my wife and I are getting intimate and during the act something goes soft on me. I have been having some major questions about wheter or not may be I am really a women inside. Is it possible that this is a result of that doubt ? Has this happened to any of you ? I would be interested in your thoughts.
Thank you in advance, all you you are great in this web site.
Valeri

[Holly]

There are a number of things that could cause the issue you describe. Rather than guess, it would be much better for you to see a medical pprofessional to eliminate any organic cause of the dysfunction... my :2c:

[Amy Hepker]

If you are taking Hormones that could be the cause otherwise it is probably just ED ask your doctor for sure.

[Cherry Lynn]

A lot of things can cause erection loss. According to your profile you are 46 and age certainly can as I well know, which is usually attributed to erectile dysfunction. Also stress for any number of reasons, overwork or if you are worried about something such as CD'ing causing problems. See a MD if it persists to be safe as prostrate problems also contribute to dysfunction.

[Sharon]

If this is the first time this has happened, then I wouldn't worry too much about it -- it's not unusual. If this is a regular occurrance, then you should see a doctor and find out if the cause is organic -- there are many health and physical reasons why this could be happening. If you check out fine, then you may do well to speak with a therapist.

Meanwhile, try to relax -- stress and worry only makes it worse.

[rocval2001]

I am not too worried about it becasue it works ok when we are not "doing it" maybe it is a bit of stress from thinking too much.
Thanks Girls Like said everyone in here is so kind
Love
Val

[Kimberley]

It happens. The older we get the more it happens. :eek:

Stress can be a big factor. Cut yourself some slack.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[Stephenie S]

Viagra?

[SusanTL]

Hi.

I agree with all the other girls in there thoughts. However there is one more that I would like to add. Your original thought of "Maybe I'm a woman inside", may be close to home.

Before I realized that I was a true ts and not just a gay male. That happend to me. I could never get it going when I was out on dates with pretty girls trying to do the male thing. I was more interested in there clothes and hair then the actural girl. Then I tried the gay thing. Again I could not get going. Its true I like the men just fine. But something was wrong with it. I just could not put my finger on it. I just knew something was wrong. It did not feel right being with a man, as a man. I hated being a man. Nothing personal to my ftm friends.

Then one night when I was totally dressed to the nines and I was out with a friend of mine. She and I were at this CD TS friendly club. I met this really nice guy and we hit it off. I went back to his place and he treated me like a beautiful woman. That night everything fell in place and everything felt right for the first time. I was so hot and YES! it got going and going and going, like never before.

You must find your true feelings. Just remember, it could very well be many other things. Just do not rule out the posssablty that you might like men.

Hugs Susan

[Siobhan Marie]

Val, its probably nothing to worry about but like Holly said you might want to go and get it checked. If its any comfort, I've tried to go with women in the past and it doesn't want to know, but I now put that down to being TS.

:hugs: Anna Marie x

[Julie York]

Given that the function is about 95% mental activity and 5% friction......it is pretty much all about how you feel (allowing for lack of any chemicals, booze etc which can take its toll.).

The human body is very basic. It puts personal survival before procreation. The last thing you need when running away from a saber toothed tiger is an erection. So if you are worried, depressed, nervous or simply tired it can have an effect on other less 'important' areas of your physiology.

[Sejd]

On my computer screen, up in the very left corner, it reads: Cross Dressers.com, and you are asking this question in this forum? Off course there is an issue here, a good one too. You want to perhaps feel how it is not to be the dominant force in your relationship and you have not worked it out in you mind yet, but your second in comand has!!!! (as in Mr.Penis) Think about it? get yourself to a therapist and get some good ol' professional help with your issues, and tell your therapist that Sejd sent you.
hugs
Sejd