crossdresser or transexual

[Jessicafem]

I've been fantasizing about being a woman since I was 7 years old, and it always had and still has a very erotic side to it. I've had rare occasions where I've dreamed of being a woman and wish I'd have them more often. Once I've pleased myslef I'm in most cases able to pull myself back together and move on with the day with the thought that if I could of been born a woman that would of been great but althought I'd like (think about it often) transitioning I don't think I could be passible and at 44 and a business owner I can't see starting all over again. That the financial setback and social reajustment would not be worth it unless I win the lotto or meet some sugar moma that wants to take care of me and transform me into the girl of her dreams

[LindaG]

I will be the frst to admit 9 times out of ten I look at a women and I will want to be with her, but there is the one time that I will look at a woman and I will want to be her. What brings that on I don't know.

[Teresa Amina]

44 and a business owner

I would see this as an advantage. Being an employee is a less flexible situation and 44 is young when you look at it from being over 50. Maybe you even still have a full head of hair to work with :D

[diane59]

Just about in the same boat. If I had the chance to do it all over again while I was younger and the information available now was available then, I would most certainly be living as a full time woman.

[natasha]

I've been fantasizing about being a woman since I was 7 years old, and it always had and still has a very erotic side to it. I've had rare occasions where I've dreamed of being a woman and wish I'd have them more often. Once I've pleased myslef I'm in most cases able to pull myself back together and move on with the day with the thought that if I could of been born a woman that would of been great but althought I'd like (think about it often) transitioning I don't think I could be passible and at 44 and a business owner I can't see starting all over again. That the financial setback and social reajustment would not be worth it unless I win the lotto or meet some sugar moma that wants to take care of me and transform me into the girl of her dreams

Wow, I could have wrote that!!!

[helenr]

As I approach 60 in a few weeks and have been a transvestite/transgendered person since about age 6-7, I have been challenged by that self question. I think I have always dressed because, curiously, I associate with women,adore them, and wish to be one-yet I know realistically that very few women are truly attracted to transvestites. I see on some sites like ALT.com that there are women who claim to seek transvestites-when all they want is to get paid, I presume, to beat us and give us a sexual thrill-just a business. I am taking anti testosterone drugs in moderation to see the effects. I want to take some form of estrogen eventually but want to proceed cautiously-I think a number of transexuals die young by their overzealous use of hormones. best to all, helen

[cindianna_jones]

I believe that if you are transsexual, nothing will stop you from making the change. You may start late, but you will transition. There is no way to stop that freight train!

Cindi

[Scotty]

Interesting turn of events at work today, I wasn't going to post this but I'll do it in a post that has other posts in it.

I was tasked with doing something and we're in a meeting and my boss is telling the big boss that I was going to do something, something came up in that conversation and he points to me and tells the big boss "SHe's going to do that too".

I was flabbergasted LOL, it is true that my hair is starting to look very femme, and one guy knows I shave my legs but I felt pretty good, fruedian slip or not!!


As for transitioning, I would love to. I hope to get Electrolysis this summer and get rid of the facial hair once and for all........


Speaking of, Safeway sent me one of those 5 bladed razors as a sample (To lure me in and pay outrageous blade prices) - ran out of blades so I used it tonight and OMG - I have *NEVER* had a shave this close before!!!
My face feels like it did when I was 10!!!

[joanlynn28]

Crossdresser or transexual, I am the later I have always had these feelings being suppressed due to societal issues that I was born male and was expected to do what men do and I gave into that. But I have never been comfortable in the male role not wanting to be the leader but a follower. Thinking that I would never be able to transition that there is so many things that have to be done to be even considered for therapy. But being in my mid forties the need to change and transition only grows stronger with every passing year. So I finally was outed, secretly wanting to do so, so I could put my feelings in the open once and for all where I could address them openly. And the conclusion is yes, I am a bonified true transexual, the real thing and now that I know that I am able to transition and be the true person that I am. No longer having to present a false front to the world but to be truely the woman that I am. And it feels great, natural, what was meant for me from birth. I am just thankful to God that I was fortunate to be born at a time and in a country where I can take care of my little birth defect and be done with it.:2c:

[Siobhan Marie]

I believe that if you are transsexual, nothing will stop you from making the change. You may start late, but you will transition. There is no way to stop that freight train!

I so agree with you Cindi, I have only just started my journey, I know who and what I am and am now very comfortable and confident about what I want and how I'm going to get there.

:hugs: Anna Marie x

[ToyGirl]

I believe that if you are transsexual, nothing will stop you from making the change. You may start late, but you will transition. There is no way to stop that freight train!

Cindi

Quoted for truth

[Charleen]

Just about in the same boat. If I had the chance to do it all over again while I was younger and the information available now was available then, I would most certainly be living as a full time woman.



Me to a T.

[janedoe311]

Crossdressers is someone that wears the clothes of the opposite sex for what ever reason.

A transsexual is someone that is unhappy with their gender and wishes to be the opposite sex.

(Please do not correct these because everyone has their own opinions. This was generic.)

OK with that said. I had fantasies to be a girl since a kid. Number one for me is to have a family and a normal life that would not be possible with a “sex change” not to mention I do not like men and love women. I am 55 and the feelings are worse. I am a heterosexual and happily married with two kids and a house. My family comes first, my obsessions and delusions are irrelevant.

Because of the experience of this site and my being able to express my feelings for the first time in my life. I have come to the conclusion that I am a transsexual but can not do anything about it, Family comes first!

So it is up to you what you think you are.

[Lisa Maren]

I agree with Cindi and Anna Marie

If it's in there, it's in there and trying to stop it is like trying to stop Mozart from composing music or trying to stop Einstein from contemplating the universe.

Good luck with that!

Hugs,
Lisa

[Sejd]

When I first embraced Sejd I did it as a crossdresser, but now I know I am a transexual. There is no going back for me either. I love being a woman and that's what I am. I'm Sejd.
hugs
Sejd

[MarieTS]

So much of what you said, Joanlynn, could have been plagarized from my thoughts, dreams, and diary. :hugs:

[Calliope]

[...] althought I'd like (think about it often) transitioning I don't think I could be passible and at 44 and a business owner I can't see starting all over again. That the financial setback and social reajustment would not be worth it unless I win the lotto or meet some sugar moma that wants to take care of me and transform me into the girl of her dreams

Sounds like you are a CD.

Which is great!

[Kate Simmons]

Sounds like you are a CD.

Which is great!Everyone here is great DT because they share their feelings and what is in their hearts.:happy:

[janedoe311]

Not all can change. I am sure in a different life I would be a woman. I am stuck as a man in this one. But unfortunally CD'ing does not work for me. This site and Being a girl on Second Life is my only release.

[susan lewis]

always thought a crossdresser but now i believe transexual, if i wasnt nearing fifty i wish i could start the transformation so i could be some mans wife and maybe even adopt and be a mother. Susan

[danam]

I read the science news voraciously looking for hints of when technology will be able to make a 100% genuine transformation, like in an Ian Banks sci-fi novel. When that day comes, I'll sign right up.

But until then....you are so very right: family comes first. My kids need both a male and a female role model. For 23 hours a day, I'm pretty comfortable in my genetic role. My wife is more woman than I'll ever be...until science figures out a way to change that once and for all. What, in another 30 years??

[Kimberley]

Hi Martina, and Welcome
I think you will find that most of us who identify as TG/TS know what we are. Fantasizing is not even in the deck of cards and the sexual element is not a part of dressing. Dressing for us is just an external expression of who we are. No more, no less.

Having said that, some people dont come to this realization of being TG/TS until later in life and when they do, it is a horrible time of "awakening". It is not something any of us would wish on another but when it happens, we are all there for support in any way we can.

Dont let yourself get wrapped up in the labels. It will make you crazy. Listen and talk to people, you will quickly find many others like you.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[AmberTG]

Also, some of us are "stuck in the middle" between male and female. Most of the time now I lean toward the female side, it's always been there but I learned how to hide it when I was a kid. Now I'm 51 and starting on transition. I'll go as far as I can until choose to go no farther.

[Donnadcd]

Just about in the same boat. If I had the chance to do it all over again while I was younger and the information available now was available then, I would most certainly be living as a full time woman.

That's me too. Now I'm starting to feel the frustration setting in for NOT having done anything about it all this time. I would've, could've and should've done something a LONG time ago. Now what?

[AmberTG]

Donna, it's never too late to start doing something about transition. Start with electrolysis, that one thing, when finished, will do more to transform your face than anything else will. Even without HRT, that will make a big difference in your appearence. Most other things can be faked if necessary, but facial hair is hard to hide for any length of time.