"Who are you buying these for?" she asks...

[heelme]

I had some errands to run yesterday and was in full guy mode, except of course, for the thong panties and trouser socks (for trying on shoes). Levis, golf shirt and white tennies. First stop was a strip mall nearby with a Target, Mervyn's Avenue as the main stores and Famous Footwear and Payless. Target to start and work my way back to the car. Found nothing and went to FF. They stop pretty hard at size 10, but have a few 11 in women's shoes. Nice boots, but I need at least 12W. Payless is next. Slip off the tennies and cotton socks, find little in the lady bigfoot section, but a 12W clog fit and ony 11 bucks. Score! I decide to leave the cotton socks off. That's a new sensation, tennies with nylons. Maybe I don't need cotton socks any more... Move down the mall to Avenue. I had been there prior to Christmas to find something for my wife. This time, it's for me :) I found a nice Tunic top on sale for 19.00 and was looking at the jeans when the sales girl came up to ask if I needed any help. I said I was looking for jeans and she asked if I was buying for my wife, Mom, sister.... I said "for me". She didn't bat an eye and said, "Really, who are you buying for"? I said, "Really, for me. I'm a crossdresser". She looked me up and down as I am far from passing when dressed. I wish I could have heard what she was thinking. She kind of giggled but then turned to the jeans and proceeded to help me figure out size. Then she offered the changing room to see if they fit. I could see they were a very relaxed style and pretty baggy, so chose to just purchase the top.

That is the first person, outside my wife, that I have told that I am a crossdresser. I was not offeneded by the SA at all, in fact it was kind of funny as I was probably her "first". I'm sure it was conversation once I left. Still, it kind of surprised me that I said it to her. Glad I did though.

[TV Wannabe]

that was a brave thing that you did, I still have not told anyone, except for people on this forum.

[JAMIE2809]

Does your wife go with you some times mine can't stand it when i dress never been all out at one time.Glad you came out to the sa now you got the the whole store to help haha. I'm sure every noes now.Once you left. :2c:

[Emma England]

I was looking at the jeans when the sales girl came up to ask if I needed any help. I said I was looking for jeans and she asked if I was buying for my wife, Mom, sister.... I said "for me". She didn't bat an eye and said, "Really, who are you buying for"? I said, "Really, for me. I'm a crossdresser". She looked me up and down as I am far from passing when dressed. I wish I could have heard what she was thinking.

Why did she not believe you?

[sonalnarula]

that was a brave thing that you did, I still have not told anyone, except for people on this forum.

Me too. And yes, that was brave !

[Billijo49504]

Good for you. And if you go back, she will probably treat you as any other customer. As you said, you may have been her first CD, and she was surprised. But then it was on to business....BJ

[GACountrygal]

WOW!! Kudos to you girl!! And A+ on pullin it off so smoothly!!!

-Nic

[Lissa Stevens]

I have yet to visit an Avenue store But I have heard that they are very CD friendly.

[Ronda_B]

Good for you, now you have a friend in the clothing business. A SA that knows and will help.

[Lovely Rita]

All I can say is that I am proud of you!

hugs

[Toyah]

Depends on the situation but have had to tell a few shopkeepers buying a wedding off the shelf is a no no and I wanted one. My favorite store now gets a pile of stuff for me to try when I turn up I feel very pampered.

[kerrianna]

Feels liberating doesn't it heelme?

I did something like that last summer except I also admitted to having my Mistress make me buy the stuff. (even though she wasn't really my Mistress but just a friend and it was only a suggestion - I guess that was my way of 'forcing' myself to do what you did)

Once the SA got over the initial surprise, and let's face it they don't see it everyday and aren't usually expecting that kind of response, she was semi-helpful. More importantly I felt totally at ease in a part of the store where I had felt a bit nervous before.

So good for you - it's a big step. :hugs:

[Kristen Kelly]

Good for you, one more person that will be less shocked, the next time it will be easier to do. I had a SA do that for once, and when the top didnt fit right came bace with 2 in a different size and style and made 2 sales.

[heelme]

Wow, I appreciate all the kind words and encouragement. Thank you!

I guess it could be bravery, or maybe I'm just too old to worry too much about it any more, who knows. I may have been her first CD, but chances are her next one won't have to explain. Everybody wins!

>kerrianna: YES, it was liberating. That's it exactly.

>Emma England: I'm 6' 2", 240 and 50 years young. I'm in guy mode (outside). Heck, I wouldn't believe me, LOL. She is a young hispanic who probably had not encountered this before.

>JAIME2809: My wife was not up to shopping that day. I think she'd go though, especially if I was in drab. She's a great lady and understanding, but has apprehension about public dressing, though fine with it at home. I'm a very lucky person.

Thanks again, I expect support from this forum, but it's still a surprise when it comes. You ladies are terrific!

heelme

[Rebecca_Annette]

Very brave

I wish I had your courage.

The stupid thing is, I can go buy things but never confess they are for me.

Before Christmas I saw a pair of ankle strap shoes (God they are beautiful). I asked the assistant if they had them in the right (my) size.

She went away, another assistant came back, asked - "Are these for you sir?" I chickened out! I told her that, yes, I wanted to buy them, but they were for my partner.

I think she knew................

[susie evans]

i have had that happen a couple of times and they have all ways helped me find what i needed at my stage of the game what are they going to do take my birthday away i hope i could use a few years back i could dress more and shop more:heehee:

[Holly]

Heelme what a great outing. And you've added one more positive encounter with a trasnsendered person (you) with the general public (SA). It is these types of activities that have such an important impact on our community. I'm so proud of you!

[Kandi]

Great job! I have found the most fun I have when out walkin is when I interact with people. In atlanta for new years I went to an ulta cosmetics store in femme early just as they opened and was greeted by three sales girls who were a blast to talk to and desribe what the hell I actually was cause they had no clue. I matter of factly told them I was a married heterosexual male who enjoyed on ocassion the opportunity to dress in womens cloths. We cut up and laughed and I even got complemented on my get up. Later in the day I went back with no make up and got a complete makeover! Liberating yes! Invigorating yes! Cant wait to do it again!

[nicole22]

That sure was brave. I don't think I could do that.

Nicole

[trannie T]

I was paying for a skirt, the sales associate said what a nice thing it was that I was buying something for my wife. I replied that actually I was buying it for myself. The poor sales associate was highly embarassed, I don't think she was ready for that response.

[Helen MC]

I would have said "That's none of your business!" and gone to another store.

I shop on the Internet mostly as I do not like nosey shop assistants, even if they are trying to be helpful. if I need their assistance I will ask them, not the other way round. If I am shopping in a store my favourite is self service with the person on the checkout bored out of their skull and totally disinterested in me and what I have bought and who will happily scan the barcode on the item, take my money and bag the panties, bra, skirt, slip or whatever with no comment apart from the usual and formulaic "Have a nice day! or whatever meaningless phrase they have been told to utter by their management.

[Nikki A.]

Only place where I admit to shopping for myself is Payless. Never a problem in any store that I've been in. Some times with wife sometimes alone. it's easier to know that shoes fit rather than return them.

[bianncats]

As somebody who has been in retail for 25 years in various management positions, I have never told anybody what to say as a greating or a closing. I'm sorry you are one of those people who dislike sales associates.

Most people choose retail as a job, because they actually LIKE talking to people and assisting them with their purchase. They are being paid to sell the mechandise in the store, and provide the best customer service possible.

However, we all have lives outside of work and just like we didn't know for example, that you just learned you are being downsized, recently lost a close friend, failed a test, etc....you don't know what may have happened in the life of the sales associate. As retailers, we have to be able to read your mind, you want us to hover over you and show you everything in the store or maybe you're the person, like yourself, who wants to be left alone.

Because of low wages, lousy hours, so that we can be open when you want us to be including weekends and extended hours around the holidays, when everybody else is spending time with their families, we don't always get the cream of the crop. We also have a lot of things to do as far as merchandising the store, which has to be done while the store is open, because the company only allows our small market store 109 hours, plus 120 management hours and we always need two people in the store, because of loss prevention, but we can't stay past 9:30 each night the mall won't allow it.

I know this reply will cause an uproar, but you have to realize the people in most mall stores are doing this job because they are going to school, made some bad decisions in their life (got pregnant, didn't study hard enough in school, don't know what they want to do with their life, etc...) or need a job to pay the bills, etc...

Thats enough...:2c:

[Helen MC]

I have nothing against Lowly Paid Workers, we have plenty of them over here in the UK whilst their fat cat Bosses are paid grossly above their true worth. As an example a Shop Assistant makes some mistake, say sells an expensive item at too low a price, (I'm assuming no barcoding on the product) or has a till shortage through a genuine mistake, say giving change of a £20 note when a £10 was given and is sacked, but the CEO of some big Chain makes a far bigger goof possibly wiping millions off the share value of the company but is allowed to resign and takes away a fat cheque (check) as severance pay.

Some people like a chatty SA when shopping, but others such as myself know what we want, know our size and simply wish to be left alone to pick up the goods, take them to the checkout, pay and go away with the minimum of interaction or unwanted comment. Whether a pair of panties or a skirt is being bought for the purchaser's mother, wife, daughter, sister, a female friend is really of no concern to the SA. Goods are being bought, the prime purpose of the store, and they should simply take the cash or card, bag the item and hand it to the shopper with the minimum of fuss. Now if the shopper ASKS the Assistant for help, or wants their opinion on the purchase or has some special needs, that is a different ball game. I also accept that if a shopper is behaving is a suspicious manner which may look as is they are a shoplifter , or in a way that is disturbing to other shoppers then the SA has to act whether by themselves or by alerting the Store Security.

In all shopping whether by a male buying female clothing or alternatively a new alternator for his car, should be a pleasurable experience at best or neutral at worst but should not be made any more unpleasent by an intrusive SA. My advice to anyone in retail "if in doubt stay out" the customer will come to you if they want your assitance.

Of course Internet Shopping is totally passive. My PC has no interest in what I buy and the various websites will process my order for panties etc with no question as to who they are for etc, etc. Roll on the android Shop Assistant!

[Kahlan51]

I worked in retail and retail management when I was much younger and I agree with a lot said about SA's. The concern I have is the amount of times that I have seen the combination of requests for special treatment and tolerance for our cd activities and the corresponding lack of tolerance and forgiveness that we seem to exhibit for SA's and others we come in contact with. Well thats my rant for the day. Love Kahlan

[Girly Sara]

I had some errands to run yesterday and was in full guy mode, except of course, for the thong panties and trouser socks (for trying on shoes). Levis, golf shirt and white tennies. First stop was a strip mall nearby with a Target, Mervyn's Avenue as the main stores and Famous Footwear and Payless. Target to start and work my way back to the car. Found nothing and went to FF. They stop pretty hard at size 10, but have a few 11 in women's shoes. Nice boots, but I need at least 12W. Payless is next. Slip off the tennies and cotton socks, find little in the lady bigfoot section, but a 12W clog fit and ony 11 bucks. Score! I decide to leave the cotton socks off. That's a new sensation, tennies with nylons. Maybe I don't need cotton socks any more... Move down the mall to Avenue. I had been there prior to Christmas to find something for my wife. This time, it's for me :) I found a nice Tunic top on sale for 19.00 and was looking at the jeans when the sales girl came up to ask if I needed any help. I said I was looking for jeans and she asked if I was buying for my wife, Mom, sister.... I said "for me". She didn't bat an eye and said, "Really, who are you buying for"? I said, "Really, for me. I'm a crossdresser". She looked me up and down as I am far from passing when dressed. I wish I could have heard what she was thinking. She kind of giggled but then turned to the jeans and proceeded to help me figure out size. Then she offered the changing room to see if they fit. I could see they were a very relaxed style and pretty baggy, so chose to just purchase the top.

That is the first person, outside my wife, that I have told that I am a crossdresser. I was not offeneded by the SA at all, in fact it was kind of funny as I was probably her "first". I'm sure it was conversation once I left. Still, it kind of surprised me that I said it to her. Glad I did though.

Good for you, hun! It gets easier and easier the more you do it. I've never said i was a cross-dresser...just for 'me'. Most haven't bat an eyelid. I've also had several bra fittings in the past, too.

Have fun!

Sara xxxx

[Angie G]

Good for you I was buyin leggs french style the girl at the register told me (I don't think there your color) I told her there for my wife and she told me she was just kidding :hugs:
Angie

[Adrienne Heels]

I will usually tell the SA that I am shopping for myself. It makes it much easier for them to help me. And most don't really care, anyway

[Marcie Sexton]

I've had a few SA's make remarks to me about who I was buying certain articles of clothing...knowing full well they are being catty for one reason or another...my favorite reply is to hold them against the part of my bodyy they are intended to fit ask ask what they think...of course in my cattiest tone....but good for you, I just wonder if they were being the same as the ones I''ve dealth with...

[Karren H]

I've had a few SA's make remarks to me about who I was buying certain articles of clothing...knowing full well they are being catty for one reason or another...my favorite reply is to hold them against the part of my bodyy they are intended to fit ask ask what they think...of course in my cattiest tone....but good for you, I just wonder if they were being the same as the ones I''ve dealth with...

Well as I know well enough that in southern WV that can be very problematic.....

"Run git your gun out of the pickup, Bubba!!! That dress buying pervert is back"

:D

hehe

Love Karren

[Marcie Sexton]

Karren you are so not right...but I admit you do know the area

[Megan_Girl]

Heelme,

Bravo!! Three cheers to you for telling it like it is! :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
XXX
Megan

[cindychan]

Sometimes I'll just go in and buy in silent mode, when that happends the SA looks a bit uncomfortable. However when I'm up front about it and ask questions about the clothes and chatty the experience seems better (And I get a better rush out of it as well). Recently Ive had to build my collection back up, and during one night I stopped at a shoe store. The SA there saw me staring at some heels and asked if I would like to try them on. A bit shocked I said "sure". The SA then helped me pick pantyhose to go with the heels. That was awesome and rewarding. But the funny part was when I returned two weeks later to buy men's shoes the same SA seemingly forgot about my previous trip over, like we never met before.

[Amy Hepker]

I could see her at the dinner table that night, "I had this guy walk in today and tell me he was a crossdressser" That would be a good one to hear. There are a lot of people that don't know what a crossdresser is. You should have told her they are for me I wear girls clothes sometimes.

[Helen MC]

Perhaps as a middle aged Brit I am missing something but to me an SA asking such of a customer is violating their privacy and thus exceeding their authority. I might not complain as I would not wish to lose anyone their employment but I would not shop in that store again.

It is different perhaps in a specialised store, e.g. a Hi-Fi shop, where the customer may need the advice that trained staff can give but for something as commonplace as buying clothes,unless expensive and high fashion items, I feel that any unwanted interaction by the SA is intrusive. It should be of no concern to them who the purchaser is buying the clothing for. If a man is buying female items such as panties, bras, slips etc then he could be doing so for his wife or some other female relative or friend, or indeed it may well be that he is a CD and the items are for him to wear. That surely is his business alone and it is for him to keep that to himself or to share that information with the SA as he wishes and as circumstances may dictate.

Of course there can be times that some CDs bring upon themselves unwanted attention by their behaviour in a store. A man lurking furtively amongst the Bras and Panties on display and handling them but not placing any in his basket is likely to upset some female shoppers and attract the attention of the SA and probably the Security Staff of the store. Similarly if he is walking around the store repeatedly but not selecting anything , they may take him for a shoplifter and again intervene. I can well understand the reactions of an SA in such cases and feel that some CDs can be their own worst enemy.

Unless however a store has a stated CD friendly attitude, perhaps as part of its Diversity Policy, I feel that the minimum amount of interaction by the SA with a male customer who is purchasing female clothing is desirable unless the customer actually asks for such dialogue.

[heelme]

Perhaps as a middle aged Brit I am missing something but to me an SA asking such of a customer is violating their privacy and thus exceeding their authority. I might not complain as I would not wish to lose anyone their employment but I would not shop in that store again.

It is different perhaps in a specialised store, e.g. a Hi-Fi shop, where the customer may need the advice that trained staff can give but for something as commonplace as buying clothes,unless expensive and high fashion items, I feel that any unwanted interaction by the SA is intrusive. It should be of no concern to them who the purchaser is buying the clothing for. If a man is buying female items such as panties, bras, slips etc then he could be doing so for his wife or some other female relative or friend, or indeed it may well be that he is a CD and the items are for him to wear. That surely is his business alone and it is for him to keep that to himself or to share that information with the SA as he wishes and as circumstances may dictate.

Of course there can be times that some CDs bring upon themselves unwanted attention by their behaviour in a store. A man lurking furtively amongst the Bras and Panties on display and handling them but not placing any in his basket is likely to upset some female shoppers and attract the attention of the SA and probably the Security Staff of the store. Similarly if he is walking around the store repeatedly but not selecting anything , they may take him for a shoplifter and again intervene. I can well understand the reactions of an SA in such cases and feel that some CDs can be their own worst enemy.

Unless however a store has a stated CD friendly attitude, perhaps as part of its Diversity Policy, I feel that the minimum amount of interaction by the SA with a male customer who is purchasing female clothing is desirable unless the customer actually asks for such dialogue.

Helen, I understand your point better with this post than the previous one and I appreciate it. You don't want someone bothering you while you shop. Most of the time, I do. Heck, I have a hard time just finding the women's section in some of the department stores I've shopped, LOL. Women's sizing still is an unsolved mystery to me. Is an XL an 18? What waist size does that indicate? I'm far less capable than you to shop women's clothing for myself. In the trip I had to Avenue, I fully welcomed the assistance. I did not see the SA's questions as meddling or intrusive. I saw them as trying to help a guy buy clothing for someone else. I'm sure that is all she was thinking when she came to help me. Once it became clear that my intent was to buy for me and not some female family member, this young sales girl, to her credit, continued very professionally and with the same effort to help me. I have nothing but appreciation for that. I will go back to Avenue and to that store. In fact, now I'm curious if I'll be recognized by the staff when I return.

Actually, what gets my panties in a bunch is shopping someplace where SA's are all around and no one offers to help, or when they do it's with attitude. Just a simple "Can I help you find anything?" is all it takes. Taking it a bit further, I'm the kind of person who would delight in having an SA be my "personal shopper", get into it and have fun showing me stuff that they already know is in the store. Another pair of eyes can be a good thing.

I guess it's how you look at it.

[Ellisia_Lynch]

Perhaps as a middle aged Brit I am missing something but to me an SA asking such of a customer is violating their privacy and thus exceeding their authority. I might not complain as I would not wish to lose anyone their employment but I would not shop in that store again.

It is different perhaps in a specialised store, e.g. a Hi-Fi shop, where the customer may need the advice that trained staff can give but for something as commonplace as buying clothes,unless expensive and high fashion items, I feel that any unwanted interaction by the SA is intrusive.



Helen,

I lived the first 25 years or so of my life in the UK, and have since lived in Australia and Canada, and I think all it is is a cultural difference.

When I first moved to Sydney it took me quite a while to get used to being asked if I needed assistance when I walked into a clothes shop (in fact any shop for that matter). It's just what they do though - they're less reserved than the Brits, and you get used to not feeling uncomfortable and hassled when they approach you. Shopping in Canada is somewhere between the UK & Oz - sometimes they talk to you sometimes they don't.

Depending on my mood and confidence I do occasionally long for the days when I could be left alone to do my thing (especially if one after another assistant approaches you & you have to keep repeating 'No I'm just looking, thanks'), however on the whole it's good fun when you interact with the sales girls. I think I would have quite enjoyed the experience myself.

Ellisia

[Charolette time]

I had some errands to run yesterday and was in full guy mode, except of course, for the thong panties and trouser socks (for trying on shoes). Levis, golf shirt and white tennies. First stop was a strip mall nearby with a Target, Mervyn's Avenue as the main stores and Famous Footwear and Payless. Target to start and work my way back to the car. Found nothing and went to FF. They stop pretty hard at size 10, but have a few 11 in women's shoes. Nice boots, but I need at least 12W. Payless is next. Slip off the tennies and cotton socks, find little in the lady bigfoot section, but a 12W clog fit and ony 11 bucks. Score! I decide to leave the cotton socks off. That's a new sensation, tennies with nylons. Maybe I don't need cotton socks any more... Move down the mall to Avenue. I had been there prior to Christmas to find something for my wife. This time, it's for me :) I found a nice Tunic top on sale for 19.00 and was looking at the jeans when the sales girl came up to ask if I needed any help. I said I was looking for jeans and she asked if I was buying for my wife, Mom, sister.... I said "for me". She didn't bat an eye and said, "Really, who are you buying for"? I said, "Really, for me. I'm a crossdresser". She looked me up and down as I am far from passing when dressed. I wish I could have heard what she was thinking. She kind of giggled but then turned to the jeans and proceeded to help me figure out size. Then she offered the changing room to see if they fit. I could see they were a very relaxed style and pretty baggy, so chose to just purchase the top.

That is the first person, outside my wife, that I have told that I am a crossdresser. I was not offeneded by the SA at all, in fact it was kind of funny as I was probably her "first". I'm sure it was conversation once I left. Still, it kind of surprised me that I said it to her. Glad I did though.

:2c: I will let the sales girl know that they are for me before she asks, it stops any awkward questions later, and it usually puts them at ease, after all they want to make a sale, and my money is as good as a GG"s ,plus I love the look on there faces, like the TELEVISION commercial Its priceless, :devil: :love: Charolette

[Penny]

Most guys a hesitant about buying anything feminine so to go and also admit you are a CD takes courage. Way to go.
Incidently, it may not have been her first exposure to a CD but it may have been the first she knew about.:heehee:

:hugs:

Penny

[Stephanie-L]

One time I was purchasing a new lipstick in Walgreens (drug store) and the girl at the register jokingly asked if it was a good color for me. I replied "yes I think so, what do you think?" She was a bit surprised and asked me if it was really for me, and I said yes, I love to wear makeup. We chatted a bit about my makeup wearing (didn't get into CDing as such) and I left. She became my confidant about makeup and always was willing to give me advice etc. Sadly she quit working there about 8 months later, but only after I had made several purchases from her. I have always appreciated the help of SA's and actively seek it out....Stephanie

[Trinni]

Congrats on having the guts to say that.

[suchacutie]

I was in a Payless 1500 miles from home, shopping with my wife, but was alone in the aisle trying on a pair of mules (4"heel) that I liked. A SA came around the corner and asked if she could help. I said I was ok and she asked if they were for me. I hadn't anticipated that question as I had never encountered it before, and without thinking made some lame excuse, but was then furious at myself. Never again...from now on it's "YES, they are for me" with a smile! I did buy the mules! :)...love em.

tina

[serinalynn]

I had some errands to run yesterday and was in full guy mode, except of course, for the thong panties and trouser socks (for trying on shoes). Levis, golf shirt and white tennies. First stop was a strip mall nearby with a Target, Mervyn's Avenue as the main stores and Famous Footwear and Payless. Target to start and work my way back to the car. Found nothing and went to FF. They stop pretty hard at size 10, but have a few 11 in women's shoes. Nice boots, but I need at least 12W. Payless is next. Slip off the tennies and cotton socks, find little in the lady bigfoot section, but a 12W clog fit and ony 11 bucks. Score! I decide to leave the cotton socks off. That's a new sensation, tennies with nylons. Maybe I don't need cotton socks any more... Move down the mall to Avenue. I had been there prior to Christmas to find something for my wife. This time, it's for me :) I found a nice Tunic top on sale for 19.00 and was looking at the jeans when the sales girl came up to ask if I needed any help. I said I was looking for jeans and she asked if I was buying for my wife, Mom, sister.... I said "for me". She didn't bat an eye and said, "Really, who are you buying for"? I said, "Really, for me. I'm a crossdresser". She looked me up and down as I am far from passing when dressed. I wish I could have heard what she was thinking. She kind of giggled but then turned to the jeans and proceeded to help me figure out size. Then she offered the changing room to see if they fit. I could see they were a very relaxed style and pretty baggy, so chose to just purchase the top.

That is the first person, outside my wife, that I have told that I am a crossdresser. I was not offeneded by the SA at all, in fact it was kind of funny as I was probably her "first". I'm sure it was conversation once I left. Still, it kind of surprised me that I said it to her. Glad I did though.

WELL DONE!!!!!!! I shop at Lane Bryant Stores and their outlets aand also at Torrid, and all the S.A.s know that what I buy is for me. I commend the S.A. for continueing to provide a high level of "customer service". By her high level of customer service they know that you are comfortable in the store and you will feel at ease the next time you are in th store. They know you are shopping for womens clothes for yourself and that is one more customer that they have.

[Lois Page]

Just a bit of caution. If you answer "Yes, this feminine clothing is for me" to the SA's question, then if you charge it, you have to sign for it. This may not be a problem in a large city or shopping somewhere other than where you normally trade. But in a small towwn with few shopping choices avaiable, the SA may be a friend of your neighbor's daughter. Things have a way of getting around.
Lois

[Alysin CD]

It always gives me great pleasure to say it's for me, even if they don't ask.

Alysin