Mentality Change

[pantyhose_clare]

hiya,

I just recently joined after cross dressing has started to take over my free time. For those who didn't read my intro post i've been dressing in tights (pantyhose to you american girls) for about 8 years but recently i've started wearing panties and bras too.

It started off as wondering what tights were like for girls and getting sexual pleasure from dressing in tights every month or so and full dress up every yearish. There was always a small desire to be a girl when i was dressed and ocasionally i would see a girl and want to be her but not much. As I said above though my dressing is taking up almost all my free time at home now and a mentality change has come with it. I no longer want to be a women when dressed, I want to be a woman all the time. My dressing has also become natural rather than sexual, i feel so comfortable in panties/tights/bras while walking around the house. I basically walk in the front door and i'm into my girlie stuff i almost feel uncomfortable in boys underwear now. I really think i'm going to snap soon and dive into skirts, dresses, make-up etc, probably the next time i have the house to myself for a couple of days.

I'm starting to fear the fact that this is going to take over my life, i can even imagine myself with men in the future :eek:

[krisinpink]

boy does THAT all sound familiar!!
I've chosen to indulge, indulge, indulge. For now though, the 'with a man thing' is relagated to fantasy (frequent fantasy mind you!)

[susie evans]

wait untill you get older and discover going out dressed in girly things is great welcome to our world :heehee: :heehee:

[Stefanie_in_Mt]

Me toooo
I've been crossdressing for over 20 years, and now the more I do, the more I want to do it, I find myself at work thinking about what I'll be wearing at home tonight, or where I can buy my next new pair of panties.
It's a drug ( I'm sure ) lol I can't stop, I don't want to stop...
Love
Stefanie

[RobertaFermina]

I find that the "being with men" thing is a Romantic Notion for me.

If they are cleaned up and dress nice, they'd be great on the Dance Floor, or across a Dining table.

I'm not ready for whats under the wrappers, though.

I can see being vulnerable in a man's arms. If I ever get that far I'll check in with any change in attitude about going further.


Cheers!

Roberta

[marie354]

That's the way I started. Once in a while at first, but it became more and more frequent as I got older. I always liked the young look, and it worked when I was 20. Now I think it's better to try to look my age, after all I'm in my 50's now. I dress almost all of the time now that my SO has allowed it. Still closeted though, but if my mousey plans go well, it won't be for long.
Just enjoy what you feel and be free to be who you want to be.
:hugs:

[linnea]

I relish the sensations that I feel when I'm dress, but they are not primarily sexual. I love the tactile qualities of lace and nylon and the shimmery fabrics that I can wear when I'm dressed en femme. I love the fragrances--sweet, soft, luscious fruit, sensual spice, fresh watermelon. I enjoy the variety of makeup of clothing available to me as a woman and the luxuriance of a bubble bath softening my skin and making me feel fresh, delicate, and smooth all over. I delight in the talk--when I'm lucky enough to share in it--of feelings and sensations and recipes and feminine perspectives on everything from the weather to sports to politics to children and men. I sip my tea or coffee, I eat my meals with joy and savor, I shop with the discretion of a judge and the gusto of a hungry lionness.
Although I enjoy some of these qualities as a man, I participate in them much more fully as a woman.
And, like quite a few others, the more time I spend en femme, the more I want to spend.

[DawnRodgers]

Been there. Doing that.
Dawn

[Delila]

I find it comes and goes with me. One day week or month I will feel like dressing all of the time. When I look at a women its more to admire her clothes and imagine if I was her. Then it goes I wear panties 24-7 but I may not put on anything more then that and my nightgown for over a month at a time. I think it works that way for many of us especially if you have only recently started experimenting with other clothing you just cant wait to get back into it. I would think that for some this goes away and for the rest well I think thats were transsexuals come from.

[Angie G]

Well Clare I never wear boy underwear at home I'm alway in girl panties:hugs: Angie

[Peggy55]

hiya,

I just recently joined after cross dressing has started to take over my free time. For those who didn't read my intro post i've been dressing in tights (pantyhose to you american girls) for about 8 years but recently i've started wearing panties and bras too.

It started off as wondering what tights were like for girls and getting sexual pleasure from dressing in tights every month or so and full dress up every yearish. There was always a small desire to be a girl when i was dressed and ocasionally i would see a girl and want to be her but not much. As I said above though my dressing is taking up almost all my free time at home now and a mentality change has come with it. I no longer want to be a women when dressed, I want to be a woman all the time. My dressing has also become natural rather than sexual, i feel so comfortable in panties/tights/bras while walking around the house. I basically walk in the front door and i'm into my girlie stuff i almost feel uncomfortable in boys underwear now. I really think i'm going to snap soon and dive into skirts, dresses, make-up etc, probably the next time i have the house to myself for a couple of days.

I'm starting to fear the fact that this is going to take over my life, i can even imagine myself with men in the future :eek:

Clare,

I share your concerns. I have only been doing this a few short, 4-5 months but in that time have amassed a closet full for stuff. I am not working at the moment so I tend to stay inside during the day with blinds drawn and my girlie stuff on... as long as no neighbors come around. Evenings are the same. Which, this evening my neighbors are having some troubles and that means I won't be able to dress perhaps at all tonight. I can't believe how upset it's making me!

Peggy

[Delila]

Just a short afterthought please remember if the urge does start to die down remember that the worste thing that you can do for yourself and what is probably a great wardrobe by now. PLEASE dont purge.

[Tanya83]

I'm starting to fear the fact that this is going to take over my life, i can even imagine myself with men in the future

That's interesting to me. Do most of you fantasize about being with men?

[xdmandy]

Me toooo
I've been crossdressing for over 20 years, and now the more I do, the more I want to do it, I find myself at work thinking about what I'll be wearing at home tonight, or where I can buy my next new pair of panties.
It's a drug ( I'm sure ) lol I can't stop, I don't want to stop...
Love
Stefanie

wow this is me down to a T i know what you mean about thinking what your going to wear while at work.even going as far as what colour lipstick will go well with the top your going to wear

[soccervixen]

personally, Tanya, I have no fantasies / desires of being with men in the way I think it was meant.

[Karren H]

Well... Like anything else in life you have to strike a balance between what you have to do and what you want to do.... May take a while to achieve that balance... But you be much happier when you get there!!! I know I am!!

Love Karren

[diane59]

welcome to the sisterhood!:hugs:

[bgirl]

Everytime I felt like it was going to take over my life, I got scared and purged. And then felt miserable. Then it sterted again and again and again....
After several years of that, and finding out I am not alone (neither are you), I am finding that accepting myself as I am has aleviated so many fears. I dress when I can and still do what I must. Embrace both your femme and masculine sides. You will be much happier. Good Luck and Welcome.
Beth

[Charleen]

As been said, welcome to the club! I'm on the same road, just a little ahead of you is all. Gotta tell ya, on Monday I had something to do at work, and because of circumstances, I felt I better wear a pair of my old tighty whiteys, Had a lot of bending to do, and didn't want to be showing my panties. Hated it! Uncomfortable! Couldn't wait to get home and change!
Gotta watch out for that "Pink Cloud" though. It can get you, and fog your thinking! Did Me. Take it slow and easy. Do alot of reading on these boards, that will help in all aspects, and ask questions!
Again, welcome! Nice to know you ain't alone ain't it? Love and xxxx, Lily

[Kate Simmons]

Listen Clare, I'm going to be serious for once. Crossdressing can indeed become an overpowering entity that can take over your life and dominate you if you let it. The key is to put everything into perspective so that you control it and not have it control you. That way you call the shots and can enjoy it more. Take it from one who knows. I've been there and it can get very ugly. You owe it to yourself to be in control. You will enjoy being yourself much better that way and will come to gain respect rather than resentment for who you are.:happy:

[gennee]

I was scared at first because I thought it was going to take over my life. I admitted to myself that I love to wear women's clothing. When I came out to myself, all the tension and stress vanished. I wear panties all the time. I wear bras a lot, too. I have been out many times and want to do it more. Dressing is a natural part of my life now and I'm glad I foundout when I did.

Gennee
:happy:

[pantyhose_clare]

i think the best thing thats come out of this post for me is the fact that nobody was in shock. I think its good i finally have people to talk to about my dressing who know what i'm talking about and how i feel.

Thanks for all your helpful comments :happy: