'porn buddy' for your clothing stash?

[Amanda Jane]

we were having a party the other night / i wore my black velour track suite with a pink shirt and pink and white silk scarf and, of course, matching pink shoes / because my friends have given up all hope for me / no matter

the subject came up / i think the idea comes from sienfeld / of a 'porn buddy' / which is someone close to you, who in the unlikely - but very real - event of your sudden demise will go over to your place and clear out all your porn stash before your wife/girlfriend/parents/kids have to go through your stuff and find it

one of the girls remarked "oh icck, you guys......."/ so i looked at her and said "so when you ride that last wave what is your mom going to think when she goes through your place and finds that greenbud/pipe/papers/mirror/razor blade and straw" / the color drained from her face / i think the term is 'ashen" / and she basically copped to "oh my god i've never thought of that"

so that led to a great discussion / a lot of promises between us to take care of each other / and a bunch of emails that were basically "in the event of my untimely passing you can find my stash of _____ in the ________" / which is a weird email to write, thinking as we do that we are as close to immortal as can be / but hey, now i know where all my friends keep their porn, drugs and (for the women only as it turned out) sex toys / after all do you really want you mom to find the huge black 'life like' latex love weapon / me either / and i don't even have one

while doing that i though of you girls / who is going to clean out your stash of clothing in the unlikely event that you die?

are your parents/wife/kids going to find it?

if you are not in the closet, its no big deal, so i have no worries about that / but if you are / if your wife does not know / or your parents or kids / is that what you want their memory of you to be?

just wondering

[Rachael]

I've often thought about that myself Amanda. It's a very big step to take, trusting someone with your deepest screts AND your house keys. Unfortunately i'm not in that position. The people who know my secrets I wouldn't trust with my keys. The ones who I'd trust with my keys (and do) don't know my secrets (unless they've been going through my stuff).
Any suggestions?

:hugs:

[Brianna Lovely]

If you're dead, does it really matter???

Seriously, I had that happen with a friend of mine. One of his adult daughters had been over his apartment on Saturday, doing some house cleaning and found a "love toy" in his bathroom. (he had a long, stick-on dildo, stuck on the shower wall. Which he had put up Friday, as a joke on me, saying "oh, there's something in the bathroom, that you'll just love")

Anyway, on Sunday morning, we're having coffee at his place and his daughter calls and says, "Daddy, are you gay?", he answers, "Well, honey, I always thought of myself, as a rather happy fellow".

He had a rather large collection of porn and toys, had showed me where everything was and asked me to remove them if he passed away.

Well, I was out of town, and we were supposed to go out for dinner, when I got back. I called his apartment the morning after I got back, and his daughter answerd the phone, in tears, and informed me that her father had just passed away, the night before.

So much for hiding his "collection".

[Amanda Jane]

no / i am blessed with people i trust to get the job done that i need done / which has nothing to do with clothes / the funny part of it was that the girls who were all iccky about guys and porn all had sex toys that they had to cop to / and we were cracking up going "oh we are so bad for having porn but you got a vibe-ro-lux 3000 (running on 220 power no less?) in the night stand eh??" / good times

and if i'm dead does it matter / yes / i would like my kids last image of me to be something good / and i have confidential personal and legal files / and stuff from working with the government that needs to be deleated / so yes, for me it matters

[Phyliss]

Interesting subject. As for my clothes, well....wife already knows, just doesn't know how much. (Hope I can at least be able to look over my shoulder when taking that "last journey" just to see the expression on her face)

As for the rest of the "items" ie things on my computer. I do have a trusted friend who has been told to simply destroy my laptop. He has no idea what is on it and even though I've extracted a solem promise from him to NOT look, I know he will. I've told him that if he looks he may be dissapointed. He asked me what he would be dissapointed about, and I told him, "just destroy it and don't look, you don't wanna know"
If anything does get "found" the only good part is that I won't be around to be "red faced", I'll be busy with other problems, :devil: :devil: :devil:

[Kristen Kelly]

Do one better seperate a outfit with a note saying these are the clothes I would like to be interned in, would be the longest I was dressed for sure.

[DanaJ]

Yep, I already have one all lined up! A very close GG friend of mine has a key to my house, and I have shown her where all my stuff is. I know it is a bit silly (because I will be dead and gone), but I do want to spare my family any potential embarassment - there is NO way they would understand or even want to ;)

Amanda Jane, this is just curiosity on my part - why do you uses slashes instead of periods and commas? No slam or anything, I am just curious :)

[Sally24]

Actually this came from the british series "Coupling" (the funny one, not the american version!)

Sally

[Wendy me]

you know i never thought abought it for Wendy things or other stashes ... but a long time ago we Had a close circle of "Friends " that would move and "HOLD ON TO" certain toy's that were let's say overly leagle......

[Emily Ann Brown]

Ironically I have a "buddy" who is to come and get me changed into guy stuff if I don't reply one morning. Family knows, just don't want them seeing me dressed AND dead.

Emily Ann

[Michelle 51]

This is something that i 've though about but i don't have a solution for because not one person know's about my CDing.My wife know's i have some pantie's and nylon's but has no idea about my large assortment of dress'es slip's top's skirt's heel's and wig nor doe's anyone else.I hope i have time for a search and burn misson .If not bury me with a suit and tie waist up and short mini heel's and black stocking's under the cover. Justabit

[Robertacd]

Quite frankly I will be dead so I don't care.

This is the same reason both my wife and I have decided to not have any fancy funeral, casket, or graves.

Personally a grabage bag in a dumpster is fine for me but we settled on cremation and a mason jar for both of us.:heehee:

[FROCKYHORROR]

i just hope it happens during one of my purge/break episodes when its all boxed up with a note of instructions on top "To be destroyed,please spare feelings for ....."

[Miss Terr]

I thought of this too but it doesnt have to be if your dead, what if you get admitted into the hospital?
or God forbid Jail?
We dont plan for those things if you are gone long term they are going to have to send someone to clean it up.

[Samantha Jane Foster]

Miss Terr, I like your glasses look, very cute. And your lips remind me of Liz Taylor's (not now, but circa "Suddenly, Last Summer").

[Stephenie S]

What you are all missing here is that this is human behavior. Remember the party? Everyone had something to hide. So discovering your "stash" will be just, "Oh, so that's what he was into". Most people have SOMETHING kept under wraps, if only a few Playboy type mags. Finding these after you are gone is a non-problem. It happens to everyone and no one cares. Least of all you, because YOU'RE DEAD.

Loved ones remember the years of happy times, not the Playboy under the mattress or the vibrator in the bedside table, or the box of women's clothes in the attic.

Steph

[Miss Terr]

Miss Terr, I like your glasses look, very cute. And your lips remind me of Liz Taylor's (not now, but circa "Suddenly, Last Summer").

:blushing: Oh my...Why thank you ! :blushing:

[Jesse69]

My brother, mom, and aunt already know most of what I got, but my brother hasn't seen my schoolgirl or cheerleader clothes or swimsuits so when he finds them he'll know how really far out I was. I guess I won't be able to or can't throw my stuff out before I go...

[jo_ann]

get in trouble with the law and you go to prison, so your family/freinds have to sell your house which involves moving your things.. totally understandable. Death on the other hand, do you REALLY care? I mean what's going to happen, you get reincarnated and someone recognizes you? "hey, your that guy that died 20 years ago.. turned out you were a crossdresser!".. or your dreading your friends and family are going to find out, and when you greet them in heaven "hmmph, so you were a crossdresser all along and u never told us?".. I'm pretty sure all hidden secrets shall be revealed when you die, too late to hide anything.

[EricaCD]

Before I came out to Helene there was a note on top of the first trunk anyone would open, in coming to all my fem stuff. It very briefly said that (1) if she was reading I was either dead or otherwise out of the picture, (2) what was inside the trunks was personal to me and I would rather she disposed of them unopened, but (3) if she chose to open I truly did not think it would fundamentally affect her way of thinking for me...and would certainly not affect my love for her. It went on for one more paragraph about what it was for me to be a CD: essentially what I told her when I did come out.

Once she learned this note was of course irrelevant and was trashed. It was hardly as full a solution as a porn buddy (BTW: ick!) but adequate, I thought, in the remote likelihood it was needed.

Erica

[Cherry Lynn]

My wife, sister and a male friend of ours know. If something happened to all 3 of us everybody else would find my things. I would be dead and "out" , LOL.

[susie evans]

girls am i lucky here my no,s all there is and what to do in case of an emergency
susie

[Tina Dixon]

Well I guess it's one good thing about her finding out about my secret, hope she sells my forms on e-bay and gets at lease $150 for them, there good boobs:thumbsup:

[SandyR]

keep most of my stash in the attic. But with the wife in the know now, I have asked for some closet space. See how that goes.

SandyR

[Stephanie-L]

Since my wife knows but is totally unaccepting I keep my stuff in a rented storage space which she knows nothing about. The first she would find out about it is when the registered letter from the storage place came telling her they are going to sell the contents. Since there is nobody I can trust, I don't know what I will do, I have been wondering about that for a bit now. I know I won't care for myself, I just want to spare her the anger etc that she will have when she finds out.....Stephanie