being a sod!!!!

[Sheila]

in reply to http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=49686

[Marla S]

Because the provisos due to the impact on the social life are the same or at least very similar for CDs and their SOs. I have full understanding there.

I understand a faild try to accept it too (some sort of inner resistance can't be resolved).

I am doing hard to understand a complete denial with no attempt to even try to find an approach.

All in all I think a SO has to have kind of a predisposition to become accepting or even liking it.

At least a compromise or deal of some sort should be possible, but without a little fun for both I think there will always be some burden between the two of them.

[Jodie_Lynn]

It is my burden to carry, and while she shares my "secret", I know she is not totally accepting. I do my best to sheild her from my proclivities. Not being secretive, just respectful. If she should ask me any questions about my CD-ing, I would be more than happy to share with her.
:)

[EricaCD]

OK, then. I suppose that a significant other to a crossdresser could object to having her (it's probably a her) emotions characterized as they were in the SO poll that was cited in creating this poll. Still and all, bbarnsworth, in creating the original poll, at least made some attempt at gradation of the most likely responses that a SO was likely to express. Simplified? Of course. But not wholly inapplicable.

The four categories offered as a "poll" here, by contrast, are not particularly helpful. I'll leave aside the frankly insulting thread header of "being a sod". First of all, reponses 1 and 3 are essentially the same thing. Collapsing those together, the alternatives in this poll, when asking the thorny and complex question of how a crossdresser deals with a non-accepting SO, are: (1) whine about why she doesn't accept, (2) try to understand her or (3) agree with her because I hate myself.

Jess: there are some other alternatives! And, sorry to say, not all of them are wholly sodding in nature. Some of us go deeper into the closet. Some of us end the relationship. Some might seek professional counseling. Some work toward self-acceptance. Some think about improving their communications. Others lapse ever deeper into self loathing or self-denial.

If your point was to lampoon the original poll, I guess it was well done (seeing as the joke was quite evidently on me). As I said, I certainly agree that the original was guilty of oversimplifying the range of possible responses. But honestly, this rejoinder seems either grossly simplistic (best case) or just mean-sprited (worst case).

Flame away. PM if you want to get really nasty.

Erica