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Scottey1
01-19-2007, 08:39 PM
Hi, All. Had quite the afternoon yesterday in Indianapolis and wanted to share.
Went out dressed - cute misses jeans, high heeled boots, tight turtleneck, breast forms, leather jacket, earrings, and full makeup. Walked the Castleton mall for 45 minutes (boy did my feet hurt!), and for the most part no one noticed with the exception of a few looks. Window shopped mainly, but did go into Merle Norman (I called first to make sure they were ok with CDs - they were. As many have said, those in retail are focused on selling and dont care how you're dressed). But the purpose of my post is to encourage others to go out and share what i noticeds:

* Take a deep breath and try not to look nervous. I'm sure i looked nervous at first and walked fast, but after a bit I calmed down.

* You dont stand out as much as you think. I saw severl ggs that i didnt
think looked as passable/made up as i did - and I'm being objective

* If you can, call a few stores ahead of time to make sure they're ok with
CDs. I checked with Lane Bryant and VicSec - both were fine with me
coming in, but i chickened out when i saw some stunning ggs in both

* Try to go to a mall mid-morning, early afternoon to build confidence. Less
people are out, you shake out the jitters, and SAs are more
open/friendly - at least they were on the phone)

* If you make eye contact with a gg, smile politely. You can do the same
with men (if you feel comfortable), but dont look down and walk faster.
Its ok if you look away, but try to keep the same pace. If you look guilty
or out of place, you will be

The next time i go out (and it will be soon), I plan to shop more assertively and try on dresses and other things. I hope to take my wife too (she's been reluctant to go out, but I think she will). I still need help on my makeup, but its getting better. Oh - I also ordered a Voller corset (had tried one on last time i was in Chicago at Skyscraper Heels - nice people!). They are exepnsive $225, but talk abt magic! Pulled my waist in 6 inches! These are the real thing vs Fredericks which are nice but more costume than function. Anyhow, it made me physically look more female than i could ever imagined.

I'm curious as to what others have experienced, from when they first went out dressed, to those who may be a bit more experienced. Please share what you went thru and any advice (clothes, where, when, etc) you might have. I hope this starts some good conversation, but more than anything shares with us new to go out dressed, what to expect, what you felt and what you might have done differently, or what really worked well. Was I just lucky, or did others go thru the same when they first went out during the day?

P.S.
Sorry for the long post, but this site has really helped me and i want to help others as I learn more.

Scottey1
01-19-2007, 08:51 PM
Hi, Erin.
Where did you go your first time out?
What did you think abt the IXE mtg? Can you share what went on there? Did you go dressed? I'm trying to get to the next meeting, but not sure what it's all abt. You look great in your picture and would not have any trouble out in Indy.

Karren H
01-19-2007, 10:03 PM
Sounds like a blast!!! Need to get some comphy shoes or boots!!!! Soooo Important!!!

Love Karren

bgirl
01-19-2007, 10:06 PM
Me too, I did a similar thing just today and I can't wipe the smile off my face. Nobody stared or said a damn thing. I am sure I was read but no grief. What was I so afraid of.

But, it was so wonderfully uneventful and so beautifull, at least for myself, I wonder if the next time can compare! I do so intend to find out.

susie evans
01-19-2007, 11:10 PM
i have not had a bad experiance out enfemme i have had a few whisles and yells but that has been a long time ago i think most of the nervous ness is in our heads you have it figured out now it's time to enjoy life :heehee: :heehee:

susie