In regards to sex?

[Jessicafem]

Hope this is appropiate to bring up. Curious if anyone can relate. I've had a few girlfriends the most recent I really adore. None of which I've ever shared my secret with. It seems the only way I can orgasm is imagining I'm a woman. Any feedback on this?

[Stephenie S]

Dear Martina,

This is a pretty big roadblock to having a successful relationship with a girl. I don't see how you could make this work. Perhaps you could consider other possibilities?

Therapy?

Steph

[Siobhan Marie]

This is a pretty big roadblock to having a successful relationship with a girl. I don't see how you could make this work. Perhaps you could consider other possibilities?

Therapy?

Hi Martina, I would have to agree with Stephanie on this one.

:hugs: Anna Marie x

[KrazyKat]

:love: Well, I do know for a fact that my SO has done the same in some respect in the past.

I know most sex therapists I've read or heard on the TV talk(DR. Sue Johansson, for one)always say that "sexual intimacy" begins in the mind, and is about 90% about the brain, more than many might realize.

Kinda helps you understand why it's more difficult as you get older, and have more pressures of life around you talking up your total working brain area!!:happy:

The reverse of this would be why you feel more romantic when and if you get a vacation from the pressures of life!!

[tommi]

:love: I can relate to your delema, with myself I actually have to imagine what she is feeling. These feelings and desires have come and gone over the years and
sometime it just pushes the ability to be intimate over the edge.
Everyone wants to be loved and sometimes we do have to make adjustments .
If you love her enough counciling may help.
Goodluck
Tommi

[Kimberley]

Hi Tommi
I think I would start with therapy if I were you. That is a given. Secondly, you need to bring your partner into this mix. The degree to which you do that will be contingent on what you discover about yourself in therapy.

One thing is for certain. She will find out; it is just a matter of time.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[Calliope]

I hate to say it, but I do believe it's pretty rare to come out as a female while bringing the earlier romantic interest along for the ride.

But, hey, there are exceptions.

[Donnadcd]

Hope this is appropiate to bring up. Curious if anyone can relate. I've had a few girlfriends the most recent I really adore. None of which I've ever shared my secret with. It seems the only way I can orgasm is imagining I'm a woman. Any feedback on this?

That is EXACTLY the way I've felt for years.

[Maggie Kay]

I have a rather convoluted situation with regards to sex. I have always been very female-like in bed. Since TG has become so prominent in my life now and my wife has lost interest in sex, I just don't do it. My interest is gone too.

[Marcie Sexton]

i have on more than one occasion had the same feelings. I have until this point not shared them with any one...thought it was, although should have kow better only me that could have such ideas...

although we are not exactly ready for the old folks home our sex lives now exist only on an oral< talking about it >, before you ask:heehee: . Whith her conditions it makes for a difficult proposition, so we both now rely on talking about the beautiful times we shared in the past and rely on our love to sustain our relationship.

[tommi]

i have on more than one occasion had the same feelings. I have until this point not shared them with any one...thought it was, although should have kow better only me that could have such ideas...

although we are not exactly ready for the old folks home our sex lives now exist only on an oral< talking about it >, before you ask:heehee: . Whith her conditions it makes for a difficult proposition, so we both now rely on talking about the beautiful times we shared in the past and rely on our love to sustain our relationship.

And I hope for you that it does thankyou for sharing. i know after 15years of
Marriage sex is not that frequent any how and I think that is what leads to some of these thoughts.:hugs:

[janedoe311]

what your partner is thinking about when having sex. Whatever works.

The longer you have been with someone the harder it is "think original".

So you need a change in your sexual fantasies. After a while the "same old" thought does not do anything anymore.

I have the same "problem" so do not worry about it.

[tommi]

:hugs: Thanks Janedoe311

[cathie]

For about a year during my first marriage, I had a gg gf on the side who loved it when I cd'd with her and have sex while in fem. We'd go shopping together and she'd buy me things sometimes make me try them on in the dressing room. It was fun. But we were both married to someone else and I was afraid to leave the first wife. So it went away. I still use those memories but only when alone at times. My current wife would never but there has been progress. Recently she surprised me and instigated while she knew I was wearing my pantyhose. It was wonderful!

[SusanTL]

Hi all.

That is the way I have always felt.

Susan

[Sierra Evon]

Yep ! , whatever works for ya'll :thumbsup:

[jillwadden]

I have to say I have felt that same way for a long time,and often wondered if [and this may sound crazy]I was a lesbian trapped in a man"s body.Best of luck to you Hon.
Hugs,
Jill

[joanlynn28]

Hope this is appropiate to bring up. Curious if anyone can relate. I've had a few girlfriends the most recent I really adore. None of which I've ever shared my secret with. It seems the only way I can orgasm is imagining I'm a woman. Any feedback on this?
Gosh, this is exactly the way I felt the last few times I had intercourse with my exwife. When I told her that this is how I felt that was preatty much the final nail into the coffin that finished off our marriage and ended up in divorce. She couldn't stay married to me after I have transitioned, she says that she is not a lesbian and could not stay married to me if I was a woman. The more that time goes by and the more I look into it, the more I realize that yes I am truely a transexual. And now even to this day when I do have intercourse I still imagine that I am having vaginal sex, and one day in the not so distant future this will come true for me.

[Donnadcd]

Gosh, this is exactly the way I felt the last few times I had intercourse with my exwife. When I told her that this is how I felt that was preatty much the final nail into the coffin that finished off our marriage and ended up in divorce. She couldn't stay married to me after I have transitioned, she says that she is not a lesbian and could not stay married to me if I was a woman. The more that time goes by and the more I look into it, the more I realize that yes I am truely a transexual. And now even to this day when I do have intercourse I still imagine that I am having vaginal sex, and one day in the not so distant future this will come true for me.


This is the very realization that I am coming to at this point in my life. It may be a little late for me, but its the way I truly feel. Next step - do something about it!!!

[natasha]

I find myself coming to this thread more and more. First just to satisfy my curiousity then I see more and more in common. Now this thread..... I do find myself quite frequently thinking about being on the recieving end of sex. I find it more appealing each and every time lately.

[Jessicafem]

One of the things I've thought about is tring to change the fantasy but nothing else has ever worked. Pretty crazy that the same thing is what always does it. The only exception sometimes has been when I'm with someone new for the first time where the chemistry is really good and I don't need to fantasize at all, but if I'm with the same person any length of time I always have to go back.

[Linda Daniels]

I feel the same way & it is wonderful

[joanlynn28]

There is a term for us late bloomers to transition, we are just all secondary transexuals. Seems we spent most of our lives trying to hide our true feelings until sometime in our forties the whole world caves in on us, and we must seek transition and the stats say that most of us desire GRS and will probable succeed in going ahead with it. I don't remember where I got this from but some time ago I came across the five distinct types of crossdresser and transexuals types 1-5, I find myself somewhere between type four and five.

[loriannetucson]

Wow, I feel the same way. Over time having sex with my wife was getting more and more difficult. I have to imagine I'm a woman having lesbian sex for climax. She doesn't know it and would probably be the nail in the coffin for us too. But it's what happens and what works for me.