Is wanting better than having?

[Jessicafem]

Sometimes I wonder if by transitioning if your trading one set of circumstances for another. I hear from people of establishing inner peace but at what cost?

[crossing-the-rain]

Having never worse than wanting !
Rain.

[GypsyKaren]

Nothing in life is free or easy, so it all depends on how much you want something. I paid a high price for coming out and starting my transition, but to me it was worth it.

Karen

[Siobhan Marie]

Nothing in life is free or easy, so it all depends on how much you want something.

I so agree with you Karen.

:hugs: Anna Marie x

[Chrissycd]

b/c inner peace is worth more than anything. Is it difficult? Of course not, but that's what makes the results that much sweeter. To me, it's a tough road, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I've grown as a person, learned who I am, begun to flower, and find it well worth it.

[Maggie Kay]

I'm coming to the understanding that transition is a continuum with way points along the journey. Once you identify with TG at some level, you start a transition from your old gender to a place in between or for some, the whole way to SRS. For me, it is part of finding that place where I am at peace given all the restrictions. Years ago, folks with TG issues didn't have the options that we do today. The fact that SRS is an option, doesn't make it a must do even for the most needy. Why? Well, it is a medical procedure with high costs and some medical risks. While it holds out the most in the ability to blend in to the proper gender, it certainly is a huge mountain to climb, metaphorically speaking. I would consider it myself if I was wealthy,younger, lived in a country with progressive socialized health care and not married. Am I despondent that I can't have it? No, not really. I can have most of what I need and for now, that is enough. Tomorrow it may be different. I do envy the folks that have had it. They are so very very fortunate.

[Amy Hepker]

Well, What do you have if you don't have inner peace??? Can you live with yourself they way you were born and be happy??? They say the grass is always greener on the other side and you can see in this forum how this is really true. No matter if it's mtf or ftm. We are all in the same boat for some reason we just feel that way.

[Kimberley]

Inner peace is exactly that; peace from within. If your personal comfort level is to be a non op then you must be at peace with that choice. If it is to go to SRS then you must be at peace with that choice.

Externally, the same issues carry over from pre op to post op. The only thing that gets aligned is the gender and sex. At that point, one would hope that the right choices were made so that the external issues would be easier to deal with by not carrying that burden of gender dysphoria.

[Calliope]

The cost is the "old you." As I see it, there really should be a lot of inner peace in place before the transition, whatever steps that may entail, proceeds.

[Sejd]

Inner Peace? Hmmmm
That's a good and interesting thread. Does the "Inner peace " come from transitioning or from a more original place? does transitioning give the inner peace or does the inner peace come from our ability ot embrace everything, not only our sex, in life? I have to admit that I have read a lot of threads on this forum from people who are anything than in peace with them selves. So I would claim, although I know it will raise eyebrows, that transitioning "add" to your inner peace, and so make you a more whole human being. To say it is the answer is simply too plain simple and not fair I think. Yes, it makes me more whole to be Sejd, and I am on my journey to become Sejd all the time, but my soul is also on a larger journey of life, of relationships, of craftmanship, and of musicianship etc....
Let me know what you all think.
Hugs
Sejd:heehee

[Kimberley]

The cost is the "old you." As I see it, there really should be a lot of inner peace in place before the transition, whatever steps that may entail, proceeds.

:iagree:
I think that is one of the reasons the therapy is so important along with the RLT. Someone who is not accepting of themself cannot have inner peace and transition could only complicate things.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[Iniquity Blonde GG]

if you want something really bad, then go for it :D lifes to short. & wanting but not getting, always leaves the question "what if " ?? :rolleyes:

[Joy Carter]

If you want it don't wait till you get older. Enjoy it now.:hugs:

[Sierra Evon]

There is always a downside to everything in life , as I'm sure everyone here knows , but for those who are driven to truly become what they feel they should be then there really is no question of what should be ....."Sierra says" :happy:

[Calliope]

:iagree:
Someone who is not accepting of themself cannot have inner peace and transition could only complicate things.


Yup, there is no silver bullet, which is probably a good thing.

Funny, if ya got enough inner peace, there's not a whole lot of 'transition bells & whistles' to covet.

Dig?

[janedoe311]

Without them I would not make it. I am prone to depresssion as it is.
So think about it before going to far.