Another step?

[Sunshine]

When I dress as Sunshine and have sex with my girlfriend, I fantasize about guys. I don't keep secrets, I share with her, we have a very open relationship. We have talked about it a lot and I am wondering if actually acting on these fantasies is the next step? I have never had sex with another guy before, but I have this growing need inside, to see what it would be like. As usual, my gf is right there to support me in anyway. She just wants to make sure I am safe. So my question is,
Is this just another step or am I just realizing I am bi-sexual?

[DonnaT]

I think you may be realizing you are bi-curious. If you do indulge, and your girlfriend is OK with it, and you find you like it, then you will know you are bi-sexual.

But it's not a progression in that all CDs are bi. Most are heterosexual. And even some of the heterosexual CDs fantasize.

Make sure your GF can handle it, really really talk to her, or you risk losing her. Make sure it is not something she is just saying to keep you happy.

[Tristen Cox]

Donna is right, may I only add, tread carefully. You already have someone who loves you, don't risk losing that.



Love
Tristen

[Tamara Croft]

Hmmm..... is she really supportive or just doing it to make you happy. You should think about this because it's a huge thing to do. Fantasy is one thing, making it a reality is different.

Tamara x

[paulaN]

very good advice from the outher girls. I am bi-curious too but I have never acted on it. living in the woods has hindered that fantasy. so be careful would not to see you loose what you have.

[TrueGemini'sWife GG]

I would say also, be very careful. These ladies gave you some really good advise. She very well may be Ok with the thought of it, but in reality, cheating is cheating and trust is such a fragile thing. Talk to her more and make sure it is really something she wants you to do. Like Tamara said, she may be saying it just to make you happy, but if it goes wrong, no one will be happy and everyone will lose.

[AnnaMaria]

I have to agree. This is not a progression stemming from being a cd. The idea that you might be bi is something that was there and you have just not realized it because you were hiding your other half. Not all cd's are bi or even bi curious, as most of society is lead to believe. You are probably just experiencing these feelings as a result of your ability to explore who you are. If it was me I would deffinately make sure that I talked to my so about it at length before I even considered acting on it so I could make sure that she is actually comfortable with the idea. Not just accepting but actually comfortable with it. Because there is a big difference and that difference could cause a choice between you and someone else. If she is supportive then you owe it to her to make sure that everything you do is talked about with her so that she doesn't feel left out or offended by it. I am not saying that you should let her control your life, but you have to realize that not all cd's are as lucky as you to have an so that will accept and support them. I am not saying that you shouldn't explore that side of yourself either because to deny it would be to step beack into the closet that you have just escaped from.

One possibility would be to find a way to include her in your exploration. Maybe you could have her there when you try it the first time so that she could moderate the activity (not control) so you are more comfortable and less likely to have a bad experience.

Just remember that if penitration is in the plan you should probably get some practice before hand so that your body is at least familiar with the idea so that you don't have a lot of pain the first time. That is an area that she would probably be able to help you with some advice or more if she is willing. If for no other reason than she has at some point probably experienced it or some one has probably tried it on her.

Waht ever you decide to do just make sure that you go slow and make sure that you are both ready for each step. This is coming from someone that is married and my so is accepting and supportive of who I am, but she jsut found out about two months agoand we are taking it slow so that she has time to get use to everything without being shocked or scared by it.

I hope this helps in some way.

huggs
anna