Help with date

[TammieKay]

I met a man over the internet and he seems nice. I'm not sure how to approach this, as I've never gone out as a femm before. It is flattering and makes me feel like a real woman to have him call me his princess. I just wonder how he will react if and when we meet in person. I usually dress only in nighties as I have not gone out in public en-femm.
So what do you girls think?:undecided

[JenniferR771]

Whoa! I am not sure I would make a date at this stage. "Only wear nighties."
I think you need some experience out en femme and in groups and small groups first. :eek:

[Sandra]

First of all be very very careful

If you decide to meet him then go somewhere where there is plenty of people and make sure someone knows where you are, have a mobile phone with you and get a friend to call you to make sure you are ok.

There are some not so nice people on the internet you know.

BTW this is a long way from your intro here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=691694&postcount=1)

You must have gotten over your paranoia

[Ashley1]

Hi Tammie,

You just got some excellent advice from Jennifer, and you should take it and use it. Based on what you have said in your post, you are nowhere near ready for that kind of relationship. It can be a very dangerous world out there for us so please be careful.:hugs:
:love:
Ashley

[Stephenie S]

Tammie, Tammie, Tammie. Listen to Jennifer. She is right. You have WAY too little experience to be dating as a woman right now. This is the wrong way to start IMHO. Get some experience.

People who surf the internet looking for CDers are often VERY experienced and will expect or even DEMAND sex from you. Are you ready for that? I think perhaps you are not. Spend some time in a safer environment before you do this sort of thing.

Lovies,
Stephenie

[tommi]

:iagree:

[Andrea Nicole]

This original post belongs in the Aesop's Fables category.

[marie354]

Never, never, never ever rush into a relationship. Always do dating in public places such as bars, pubs, restaurants, until you are very sure of where it's going and both of you have a firm understanding.

[Breanne]

Whoa! I am not sure I would make a date at this stage. "Only wear nighties."
I think you need some experience out en femme and in groups and small groups first. :eek:

Double WHOA! I agree with Jennifer's remarks 100%. I've had quite a bit of experience en femme, been out in public, but wouldn't even think of doing what you're suggesting. Hold those horses!

[Michelle 51]

First of all be very very careful

If you decide to meet him then go somewhere where there is plenty of people and make sure someone knows where you are, have a mobile phone with you and get a friend to call you to make sure you are ok.

There are some not so nice people on the internet you know.

BTW this is a long way from your intro here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=691694&postcount=1)

You must have gotten over your paranoia

Sandra It's nice to know that there are people on here like yourself who watch out for some of the new one's and are concerned for them.Thank's justabit

[Jenn S.]

I met a man over the internet and he seems nice. I'm not sure how to approach this, as I've never gone out as a femm before. It is flattering and makes me feel like a real woman to have him call me his princess. I just wonder how he will react if and when we meet in person.



Most men looking for sex on the internet will call anything in a skirt their "princess". :o

[sue ellan]

Hi Tammie,

You just got some excellent advice from Jennifer, and you should take it and use it. Based on what you have said in your post, you are nowhere near ready for that kind of relationship. It can be a very dangerous world out there for us so please be careful.:hugs:
:love:
Ashley:iagree:
sue ellan

life is like a roll of tp. the closer to the end the faster it goes.

[amanda barber]

There are a few differences between internet dating and in-person dating.

One is the lack of instant visual input. You allways know what the person looks like in person. Emailed pics are allways chosen to put a person at their best or faked. There are 2 easy ways to deal this, web cams (needs some technical skill) and asking for picture sets. ask for a few pics of the person, perhaps 1 inside, 1 outside and maybe 1 with their left hand raised or holding some common object. This really defeats people using pics from various sources.

Another difference is people going from one town to meet someone in another town. I know anonynity is important for a new TV (very important) but if you are going to be alone with someone you don't know ALLWAYS meet them with someone else. that one person can save your life. that one person being there can cancel a plan in someones mind. Introduce them. IF there is no one that knows your a crossdresser meet at a bar or club near the bartender. Tell the bartender you'll see him later, that way in the other persons mind your known, expected to return and were seen together.

Find out everything you can about the person. Does he know you are not ready to be passable outside? Is he willing to work with you on that over time? Is he looking for a one-time date or a relationship with a CD girlfriend/wife.

Take it slow, CYA and remember internet dating is like regular dating, it can take a few people before you find one thats right.

[TammieKay]

Thanks to all of you for your advise. I am not sure what I'm going to do yet, we have exchanged a few e-mails that's all.
I plan to take it slowly and let the snowflakes fall where they may. I will keep you updated...some things can be so confusing....

[Karren H]

Well I'm about 100% sure if you just wore a nightie that it would thrill him to no ends... Btw watch yours!! :).

And your going out enfemme in public?? Silly woman!!.. Well if you've never gone out in public..... Hope you a quick study... Lol

Love Karren

[Wendy me]

well the only things i would tell you is this .....

1) don't do anything your not ready for or you feel comfy in doing...

2) be safe careful in meeting anyone you don't know and if you do "take things further " see #1...

3) never feel like you need to do anything your not ready for ... and if you insist on being safe it's your live no glove no love...

4) read the posts here and think some .. some relay good advice ...

[GinaVegas]

Slow it down Tammie......slow it down.

[lawnmanmo]

Dear Tammie
From the view point of a male admirer, a gentlemen who HAS dated before, I agree with most of the advice that you are hearing here at the forum. First of all....to go out as a women, you MUST be as close to passable as possable. Second, if you feel any pressure to do something that you feel is not right....DON'T. If you do meet, meet at a place where you are NOT alone or at least have a means of leaving. I have no idea how much experience you have actually going in public but it takes a lot of planning and if you are going with a male escort, a VERY good relationship with trust and respect with this guy that you have met. Trust and respect comes with time. To be out and about in public as a women is a very thrilling and exciting experience from what I am told and it should also be something to remember as WONDERFUL. Explore your options and do your homework.

Jerry

[Brianna27]

:iagree:
With everything that is being said. Just be careful, I have seen the other side of humanity.

[Jennifer_Ph]

This original post belongs in the Aesop's Fables category.

:thumbsup: Yes.

[cocopuff's girl GG]

Does he know you are a CD or in other words underneath the nittie a man???

[Debra Lynn]

My advice is much the same as the others, this sounds way too fast, and sounds like the guy is moving much faster than you are for what reason is anyone's guess.

If you decide to meet, you need to keep control of the situation. Don't get in his car (you lose your means of exit), talk to others in the area (it's called the buddy system for a reason) and make sure others know where you have gone and who you are seeing. (just because you met over the net is no reason not to know some basics like name, hometown, picture....) And if he doesn't look like his picture, END IT. Don't do something just because he is pushing the right buttons (princess, sweetheart, doll, etc). We all enjoy praise, but we have to not let it go to our heads. This is a big step and you need to tread very carefully.

[JulieCDorlando]

First of all be very very careful

If you decide to meet him then go somewhere where there is plenty of people and make sure someone knows where you are, have a mobile phone with you and get a friend to call you to make sure you are ok.

There are some not so nice people on the internet you know.

BTW this is a long way from your intro here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showpost.php?p=691694&postcount=1)

You must have gotten over your paranoia


This is sound advice. Considering this is your first adventure out I would be extremely careful who you meet and where. As Sandra has mentioned there are some "unsavory" people that cruise this internet, just looking for a thrill, and that can mean alot of things. Anything from a casual meeting (a chance to know one another only) to casual sex. In some instances something far worse than the previously mentioned. Most of these guys that cruise the internet looking for CD's are ONLY out for one thing and one thing only.... and that is sexual gratification, nothing more. I am sure there are a few decent people out there, it is just by news reports, and other CD's experiences, can dissuade you from making a terrible mistake. Do listen.
Should you have your mind already made up to meet this individual, arrange for a meeting in a public area where there are lots of people around. Also when talking to this guy before the meeting, state up front your intentions and have him state his as well. This way you both know what to expect. If you expect to go beyond the pleasantries of a casual meeting, then by all means use protection (take that for what it is worth!). Bottom line is, just be smart. Think about all of it first. Be cautious, and be careful. Good luck.

[sissylacypanties]

I totally agree with all the advice your friends are giving you here. I especially agree with Jenn S., there are men out there, unsavory and otherwise who would call anything on legs 'a princess'. You can't be too careful these days, and for your safety, always meet in public and ... go slow...it's more fun that way anyway..anticipation has it's own rewards...smiles..

[Barb Valentine]

No matter what be careful
Or carry a big stick