i have started to tell people

[katey]

Hi All,
Recently i have started telling people about my dressing. i just can't hold it in anymore and if i want to go out i think i need some assistance to pass and someone to go out with.

So new years eve i told my brother (while i was quite drunk but that is another story), he was shocked, but i think when most people tell someone about dressing the first reaction is shock. but he was pretty cool about it, our other brother is gay so he had lots of questions along those lines.

And last weekend again while drunk, i told my cousin who was quite shocked but i think she was ok. and much later in the morning i was dropping hints to another friend for ages and then just told her. she was surprised but 2 of her 3 brothers are gay, so she might be a little hard to shock. she was really cool and came to my place and did my make up, and i have never felt so good. i couldn't wipe the smile off my face, and wated to go out but she talked me out of it, on grounds that she might not know what to say or do if anything untoward happened, and i agreed. her and my brother are going to take me out when i'm really ready.

wow long post, sorry, but i'm quite excited.

much love,
katey xox

[Wendy me]

katey sounds like drinking and telling people run hand and hand for you . just wondering did you plan on telling them and felt that being relay drunk helped ??? or because you were relay drunk did you tell them?? not judging just wondering ....

[Teresa Amina]

Telling when sober might be better. People do some strange things when drunk and it may be interpreted as just a "drunk" thing. They'll be more certain of your sincerity when sober, and you can really appreciate that "deer in the headlights" look some get :D

[katey]

we have briefly discussed it since being drunk, and thats when they told me that if i wanted to go out that they will be more than happy to escort me.

and wendy i didn't plan on telling anyone in particular, i just had to tell someone.

[CDTiffany]

look out girl, Watch that drinking and telling, you might mess up another part of your life. I am all in favore in coming out to people who are caring friends, but watch the booze!!!!
tiffany








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[ArleneRaquel]

Yes. Please be very careful to whom you confide in. People who you think are your friends may have nasty minds and tongues. :love: & :hugs: Trina - Living Legend

[Daintre]

Being drunk lowers your personal standards...you tend to say much more than you really want to....If I were you I would put a lid on what to tell people.

[GINA-CD]

While being drunk (or half-drunk) helps you saying things you'd normally wouldn't say, is daring, you at least can get that load off your back. That being said, it's not the best idea coming out of the closet drunk 'cus that might undermine the credibility of what you're saying to other people.

I'm still in the closet and I'm no one to give advice to you, but since you've already told them, I'd suggest to invite them to have lunch with you and perfectly sober (SOBER!!!) clarify things. That means just letting them know you were serious about your dressing and that you were not joking or fooling around while drunk.

It's not the best way to do it, but I think it is a way to "drop the bomb" in a situation that is not so uncomfortable for you (since you were drunk) and that allows you clarifying things later on. Not the best strategy I'd say, but at least it's one that lets you correct things later on and blame it on your mental situation (DRUNK!) or make it real by being sober and straightforward while explaining yourself.... :2c:

[Staci G]

I dont drink so I cant use that to tell anyone, The only one I have told all about Staci is my niece she is bi so I knew she would understand. I get to go to her house on occasion and she does my makeup and helps me shop now and again but not nearly often enough. Come to find out though her brother and her ex husband are also CD. but I think if ever i did get drunk I might call everyone I know and tell them hoping for the same reaction. so I need to refrain from the booze... I want the world to know but the closet door is locked right now

[finacarina]

Yes. Please be very careful to whom you confide in. People who you think are your friends may have nasty minds and tongues. :love: & :hugs: Trina - Living Legend

Excellent advice Trina:happy:

[Sierra Evon]

Glad your getting it off your chest , but from my previous experiences with Booze , its very easy to say things that you'll regret later , like the next morning !!!!, but I'm sure you know that kinda thing , more power to ya tho !!!

[marie354]

I have to agree with every one about the booze. Back in the day when I got off work and closed the bars, sometimes I would say something that I wouldn't remember untill the person that I had said it to told me. Not a good feeling at all.
Now, it might take me a month to drink a six-pak, and I never forget anything... Well not too much anyway. My short term memory sucks after I had a stroke. But I'm always aware of what I say now.
:hugs: