How to make it work

[ubokvt]

Not sure what I am asking for here, maybe your stories or insights.

I'm one of the lucky ones I have a truly supportive partner who enjoys ands wants Sara around. We've been, shopping, dinner, Trans events, and First event. She is comfortable with it all and sees Sara as a positive in our relationship. I've been out and dressing regularly for six months, belong to a social group and developed several good friendships with other girls. I become more accepting and integrated with Sara. After six moths this is real , we've gotten through some of the intial thrill, are begining to accept it as a normal part of the relationship and the future. So ideas on integrating all this into the relationships, pit falls to avoid, things to anticipate coming up. There is no road map for this We know we are changing, the relationship is growing, how do we integate Sara. Ideas?:happy:

[marie354]

I know what you feel. I've been telling my friends here and there and some of them have "seen me". I keep telling my SO that I'm out on the internet and it's just a matter of time till her kids know. (she wants me to hide it from them). I want to be totally free to dress daily without guilt. I'm working on it, but it will take time.
Don't know if this helps but....:hugs: anyway.

[Bethanygirl]

It is hard to say what it is you wish to know, a little more info would help. For instance, do you dress 24/7? If not, why not, is it job, random lack of interest, or desire of your so's to spend time with you in drab? Would she, or is she comfortable with you being 'out' or 'public' ? Are you? Your situation sounds promising, but without more facts about it, it is hard to give any advice that would be meaningfull.

[susie evans]

that' great that you partner is so suportive but don't forget it is a two way street and suport them like they suport you and be patient and forgiving in both ways and it will grow and flourish :hugs:

susie

[marie354]

If you want to do the 24/7 thing... Remember... You get up, decide what you want to wear... Go get washed and clean up... Shave, Moitureize, Dress, Do your makeup, Look at yourself, Adjust & change if necessary... Look again... Decide if that's what what you want to look like today and deal with it.
If you're still in the closet, like me... Hide when someone knocks on the door and let the SO answer it... Or just answer it, and get over it. (I've done that with a couple of friends, when the SO's not here.)
It gets complicated.
It can get real scarry at times.

Just remember to tell your SO... Thank-you for taking care of me.
:hugs:

[boygirl]

I believe i know your friend- Might it be Leslie from Barre. I am Chrissy from Montpelier. Leslie, and i have been talking a lot, and she wants me to take steps like you

Chrissy

[crossing-the-rain]

Sounds great but need time to prove,the whole world is changing, people also changing,you never know yours future,but no matter how,I do wish you have a bright CD career and wish you all the best in your CD life.
Rain.