Informal Poll: Bullying

[Dasein9]

I can't seem to figure out how to post a poll, so this one's informal.

Were you bullied as a kid? Were you a bully as a kid?
To what degree? Every day? Weekly? Every now and then? Never?


I got it a lot. Daily for years, then it kind of tapered off in the last two years of high school. It seemed to really tick off the bullies that I wouldn't fight back, being a pacifist and all.

[Adam]

Were you bullied as a kid?
Well as i said in another thread yes i was and alot put it this way the local hospital new me buy name lol i had many broken bones in my childhood and many cuts and bruses

Were you a bully as a kid?
no i was always the one doing the running away
To what degree?
broken bones , nocked out once, threw down stairs, held down while others kicked me ect
Every day?
every day from starting school till the end


they where happy times not

i never ever would want to go though that liveing hell again

[Sierra Evon]

I was bullyed as I recall back in the 6-7-8 grade !!!!, and it was a Girl bully !!

[Lisa Golightly]

No, I was never bullied.

[Kimberley]

There are many forms of bullying.

I got it both physically and mentally at school, in the playground, and at home so yeah it was always there in one form or another. On a physical level I could fight back. I wasnt particularly big and strong but I knew how to defend myself so I never lost a fight. I would always try to walk away first but when it came down to no option, then the gloves were off.

Once in the workplace it wasnt much better, just more sneaky; some like to call it office politics. I dont, I call it abuse.

Am I bitter? You bet. I am trying to put it behind me but it keeps coming up and biting me bum.

:sad:
Kimberley

[Evert]

Oh god reliving childhood again... IT SUCKED!

I'm not really beaten up *they were to afraid I would beat the shit out of them* but it wasn't nice. Dumping garbage in my bag, give my bike a flat tire, scream at me, let me trip in the hallways... etc etc..

Bloody nose is the worse.. thank god...


Every day? Yep.... Seems like 'a day without Evert is a day without joy.." :(

Oh god Adam... :( Don't know what to say. Yeah, I do know what to say but they censor cursewords...

[pocoyo]

Yes I got bullied a lot at primary and secondary school, especially both the secondary schools I went to... I probably got bullied at secondary school every day. The bullying was verbal and physical.
For being different and a rock person and a "lesbian" (even though I'm not one lol!)
It was horrible. Got called "freak" a LOT.
Had many a heated/defensive verbal exchange which actually made them think I was even weirder because I had the brains to outsmart them and use a few "long words." Got in some physical fights too with both boys and girls.

Until I got a crush on one of my teachers (hehe) in the last couple of years of secondary school (as in high school) and got hair extensions and wore some skirts and make up and acted all girly and flirty. Then I was actually sort of popular... interesting (although still a bit of an outcast).
Left secondary school at 16 to do A levels at college rather than school.

I was very popular at college & uni where people were more mature/open minded and more chilled-out rock people like myself. Recently finished there for now and have some lovely friends from it :)

[Edit: forgot to say that I was very unjustly bullied at one of my old jobs too, by a really mean boss. No wonder I left and went back to school (Uni), pah!]

[bi_weird]

Mmm I've always wondered where those tv-style elementary school bullies are who steal your lunch money. That didn't happen at my school. I was never popular (avoided that in college by finding other dorks like myself), but never really threatened. In middle school I got teased a lot, and was really anti-social, but it's hard to judge how bad it was. It turns out I've blocked most of my memories of middle school. I think I was just odd enough to not car about the other kids mostly, so they didn't bother really harassing me.

[Tedi]

Yep, I was a.. er.. chunky youngster. I got crap all through elementary and junior high schools. I do remember one incident back in sixth grade, the bully was trying to pick a fight and somehow I did a Judo like over the shoulder flip on him, he never bothered me again!

[Abraxas]

Yeah, I definitely did. Mostly in first and second grade. Luckily, I don't remember much of it. Only one incident, but my mum says it was every day, almost without exception. Guess I'm good at repressing traumatic stuff... It was mostly just being scratched, hit, and kicked, but also kids would tell the teachers and whoever was on recess duty that I'd done stuff, like that I'd said naughty words or called people names when I hadn't, so I'd get into trouble. I never fought back; I was afraid of getting it worse, since I was younger, and therefore smaller, than my classmates.
Third to sixth grade I was in a private school (as a direct result of being beaten up), so that was strictly not part of the game. Nobody bullied anyone. Strange, now that I think about it.
Junior high and high school, again. I'd gone back into public school, but this time it was more along the lines of just being made fun of, stared at, and generally ostracised. I'd be yelled at from down the hall-- every bad name you can think of. And, it wasn't just at school either. If I went out with friends to go to the skating rink or something, kids there, who I'd never met, would make fun of me.
Words, I could defend myself against. I became really good at spewing out insults. I made it into kind of a game. Although one time that almost got me seriously hurt, as I suddenly found myself surrounded by about 6 guys, all of whom a couple years older and much bigger than me. Luckily, just as it was about to come to swings, a security guard noticed and broke it up.

Only got into a real fight (where I hit back) once. Against a girl. She outweighed me by a couple stone at least, and I punched her in the stomach. She managed to grab me by the hair, throw me onto the ground, and then kicked me in the back of the head and in the stomach.

[ZenFrost]

I was bullied (mostly psychologically, somewhat physically) to a severe degree before, during, and after school every day from my first year of preschool to my last year of high school. It hasn't happened so much in college.

[janedoe311]

In grade school and high school. Beat up on many occasions and was sent to the principal once after getting beat up even thought I did not fight back.

Would not want to meet the guy I still hold a grudge after 40 + years. Bet he is still a bully!

[John]

I uset to get verbal abuce on and off in middle school, though never the same person for long. I'd be walking down the coridor and someone would shout 'freak!' after me, and I'd turn round with a polite smile and say 'Yes? Can I help you?'. They'd have not a clue what to say, and go off somewhat embarased (I lose count of how many times that, or similar exchainges, happened). There was one girl that tried to bully me physically, but I was taller, stronger, and hung round with boys; all in all she was a bit daft.

[kerrianna]

Yeah I was bullied, if they could catch me. It wasn't that I was faster...just smarter.

Had to take the long way home a number of days.
I hated school.
Surprised I got through it.
Good thing for my brains.

They'll be sorry when I TAKE OVER THE WORLD!!!
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[Felix]

Yeah I got bullied, it started at senior school where I guess my difference started to show itself :sad: I got it both mentally and physically. I had a husband who bullied me, he was a control freak and still trys now by using my kids to get at me. I don't like the word hate but he brought it out in me. He used mental controls, he was very clever with mind games. There were times when he got physical but he was clever and nothin ever showed. As for now well I have gone through the bullyin thing at work and it rears its head every so often through certain members of staff. I can't stand bullies they make my blood boil and make me wanna be sick :mad: In school I always stop bullyin if I see it happening because of my experience. I feel for you all here who have been through this :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: xx Felix

[Amy Hepker]

I never liked Fighting and hated people that started them. I was always taunted by this guy that sat behind me in one of my classes. He would do all kinds of crap behind me, until one day I finally got tired of it and hit him in the stomach. That was the end of it. I had other kids down through the years try to start crap with me, but I usally just went the other way. I didn't fight unless I had to. I was the tallest boy in my class so, I was challenged alot.

[Joy Carter]

Oh have you ever brought back some memories. I fought in elementary school for years and when in JR. High I was told to stay out of fights or get expelled. I bit my lip and held back for two years. I was picked on mercilessly. Being big for my age didn't help. Finlay I blew, and it took three years of fights before everyone left me alone. I never lost a fight. Came to a draw several times because I never gave up. Funny no one ever wanted to fight me again. I became a police officer and while I never picked a fight I finished everyone.

[Kristen Kelly]

This thread got me to thinking, I have always been different even in school, I was bullied in Jr. High and High school, till one day, found my courage in a bottle at lunch time at the football field. The senior that bullied me for years did so at my locker for which I stuffed him into, looking back I can’t believe I did that. That changed things; I gained respect, standing up to him.
I always say I am like Dynamite with a long fuse if you light it don’t stick around for you don’t want to be there when I blow up.

[Raychel]

Were you bullied as a kid?
Every day that I was in school. I was thrown out the window, Constantly harrased. In high school it was all the same. Locked in the bathroom, thrown in wash basin. Overall tormented for the whole 12 years. Needless to say I really hated school.

[CaptLex]

Yeah, I was bullied as a kid - in elementary and junior high school - but I don't like to talk about it. I always thought it was a result of growing up where I did (the South Bronx) which is notorious for gangs and violent activities, but reading this thread I see that it doesn't really matter where you grow up. It happens everywhere.

The bullying magically stopped when I went to high school because I went to a school a thousand miles away from here (a small midwestern town) where I became like a minor celebrity because I was different than everyone else. Not because I'm trans, but because I was the only Hispanic for hundreds of miles. :p

Felix, like you I try to step in and stop bullying (verbal or physical) whenver I see it, but you're in a better position to take care of it. Good for you, dude! :thumbsup:

[Dasein9]

Wow.

Just... wow.

I always wonder about those of us who got picked on as kids. Nothing could ever make all that worth it. But still... I have this sense that most of the people I know who got picked on grew up into amazing people. I don't know if it's because of the bullying, or because they're just amazing people. Maybe it's that they were bullied because they were already amazing people.

[Kristen Kelly]

Wow.

Just... wow.

I always wonder about those of us who got picked on as kids. Nothing could ever make all that worth it. But still... I have this sense that most of the people I know who got picked on grew up into amazing people. I don't know if it's because of the bullying, or because they're just amazing people. Maybe it's that they were bullied because they were already amazing people.

I am gifted as I know much more of what a woman has to endure in life than the average man. It is a lot easier to live in the normal eyes of what is acceptable, I have always had a softer feminine side growing up, I had more fun playing with the girls, I might have been a sissy "That’s why I allowed them to bully me"

I Don't like to talk politics but if you don't vote you allow the politicans to bully you too. Time for a new direction, our president is leading us down a path that we should not have traveled

[Kerry Owens]

Yes, for the whole time of school, bullying was just part of life even for a GG. I hated school cheerfully, staying at home was even less a option but the library was my hiding place. No matter when I found ways to sneak into the library where never a bully would go.

[Iniquity Blonde GG]

yes quite badly, because of my size. it when i was in secondary school, & one particularf girl would come upto me on a lunchtime and throw emptie sweet wrappers etc @ me shouting :" look @ this fat ***** eaten all the sweets !!
and it was every day. got so bad , that i pretneded to my mum i was @ school, when id just go sit in park, and cry.
then after a few months of it, someone ( a sixth form lad ) stood up to her, and said it was disgusting, ...... teachers hadnt had a clue really upto that point. but she still tired , till one day i just snapped, and turned round & said as follows :
"ok so im fat, but that doesnt make me a bad person !! i dont pull you to pieces because you look like you do !! just leave me alone" !! i turned my back on her and dreaded what was gonna happen, but nothing. after that she just ignored me !! :o
I got it a lot. Daily for years, then it kind of tapered off in the last two years of high school. It seemed to really tick off the bullies that I wouldn't fight back, being a pacifist and all.[/quote]

[susie evans]

defitinty in grade school but in high school it was a diffrent story and learned how to survive and fight in the street and didn't tolarate bulling any longer and still don't there is no need to communicate that way :(

susie

[Dasein9]

Yes, for the whole time of school, bullying was just part of life even for a GG. I hated school cheerfully, staying at home was even less a option but the library was my hiding place. No matter when I found ways to sneak into the library where never a bully would go.


Oh, the library was the best! In junior high, the librarians broke the rules and let me in the library during lunch because I think they knew it wasn't safe for me in the cafeteria. Mom gave me lunch money, and so I took granola bars from home, and used the lunch money to buy books. Since I was a fat kid, these were probably both good for me. Until my grades were low, and they put me on restriction from the library.

There was one girl in high school who kept after me every day. I'd get off the bus at different stops, but she'd always follow. Her friends helped her. I honestly think a group of teenagers egging each other on to violence is one of the most dangerous things there is. One day I was sneaking off from gym class to read when she and her friends cornered me against the fence to the tennis courts. They were all telling her to hit me. I just looked at her and said, "Go ahead. If it would make you happy, I'd be a poor Christian not to let you." She looked positively scared, and didn't hit me. After that, I have no memory of her whatsoever.

Oh, and for the record, I don't think I've said anything that smarmy since. :D

[Tina Dixon]

When I was younger I was a bit, but then I started to grow, then I got to get back at them a bit, even have a scare or two to show.

[Sandra]

At school mostly verbal because of my size and mum and dad didn't have a lot of money so most of my clothes were second hand.

[Crissy Kay]

Yes, I went through it from the seventh grade, on thu HS. I was really glad to get out of school. I had no problems like that , while I was in the armed forces, [USAF].

[Taylor105]

Sandra...I can relate to being picked on for not having name brand clothes and shoes. I was teased all through school for having crappy clothing. Sixth grade was a nightmare for me. I was called "IT" so many times. I ended up missing more school to stomach aches than anything that year. I got diagnosed with a bleeding ulcer at the age of ten. When I got into high school I got into taekwondo. I hold a second degree black belt now and I do not get bullied nor have I been bullied for a looooong time.

[MJ]

yes all through grade and high school in england i was called "Nancy" that would be like sissy here i think, and study ed ,that way i did not have to go outside for break or lunch . and when the school bell went of i was out of there as fast as my legs would carry me, most of the time i made it home in one piece and sometimes not
i hated school

[Dasein9]

The more I hear about good homeschooling, the better I like the idea. Especially since a kid on his or her own can usually do the same amount of work in three or four hours as in a six hour school day.

[Ryan]

Were you bullied as a kid?

Yup!

To what degree? Every day? Weekly? Every now and then?

Everyday, by teachers, other kids etc. Physically, mentally and also sexually by other boys at school!