Sexual fantasies (and guilt)...

[paula_cd]

….sorry to ask but I have an embarrasing question. Sometimes when I make love I imagine having breasts. I feel quite ashamed about this as I think I should not have these thoughts. Does anyone else have these fantasies? Is it normal?

I would welcome people’s thoughts.

Love Paula x

[PaulaJaneThomas]

Many TGs dream/fantasize about having breasts. It goes with the territory. Some take hormones or have implants. It's just a way of making the outside more closely match the inside. Nothing to be ashamed of. Normal sounds boring.

[marie354]

I don't think that there are any "official" rules about making love. Don't think about baseball! Whatever works for you is all that counts.
Did you ever hear of Dr. Ruth?

[Marla S]

See nothing wrong with it. Don't wanna know what others dream about when having sex. It's a dreamworld anyway.
Enjoy your breasts. Who cares if they are a bit larger in your dreams.

[Casey Morgan]

I feel quite ashamed about this as I think I should not have these thoughts.

I could have saved myself many years of depression and self-esteem issues if I hadn't been so concerned with the "I shouldn't have these thoughts" thoughts. Sometimes fantasies are simply us exploring different ideas, and sometimes they're a way of bringing to light that which we keep hidden. Either way though, they're only shameful if we allow ourselves to shame ourselves because of them. Other people can tell us whatever they want, but the message doesn't really hit home until we give ourselves these messages.

In the last year I've had thoughts that I would have been absolutely mortified to have had in the past. It's taken a bit but I now realize that those thoughts are simply part of who I am. And I've decided that I'm not going to shame myself for having those thoughts. No, most guys (I think) don't have the sort of thoughts I do. But then again I'm not "most guys", or really even a guy. It's normal for ME to have thoughts like that though.

It sounds like it's normal for YOU to have the thoughts and fantasies you have. Just like I can't make it shameful for you to have them, I can't make it OK for you to have them either. That's something only you can do. Either way, the place to start is by answering the question "why shouldn't I have these thought?"

[JoAnnDallas]

fantasies are great. That is why they have MMOPRG's. You can act out your fantasies in a safe manner. If you play any of these or any other game that allows you to create a character, give it an sex, atributes and ect, then your projecting your fantasies.

[Amy Hepker]

You wouldn't believe my Fantasies. I have many and as long as I control them they are great.

[tvdave]

While my SO doesnt accept my 'hobby' she's ok during sex with rubbing our boobs together and sucking my nipples till im done.

I fantasize that we're lesbians. and, since i cant get up anyway, we both take care of ourselves.

Susan

[Nigella]

Only you can feel the guilt, and only you can deal with it !!

[RobertaFermina]

It's a great fantasy, and not at all uncommon.

I have fantasized about being the (an entire) woman during <ahem> intimacies, and I'm sure that I'm OK, and safe to have around women, children and timid men.

:rose: Roberta :rose:

[Dani's Secret]

Wow, this place is jost so great. The honesty here is incredible!
I have had many fantasies that i once thought were not right but now I accept that they are ok, they cause no harm to anyone or myself.
I have imagined or fantasized while making love that I was the woman and I have even been considering enhancing my breasts naturaly now that Ive accepted Im a hooked CD. Dont get me wrong, I love wemon and have no inclination of ever trying out a man, thats just me but I want to persue cd to my acceptable limit.......did that come out right?
Hugs Dani

[Tasha Meredith]

Definitely normal. Here at least. Of all the things you could fantasize about involving women, having breasts would be one of the more tamer ones.

[Nikki A.]

While my wife is not too accepting of my CDing one thing that she did is show me how erotic and sensitive even our nipples are.
Males have breasts they are just not as developed as women's are. Play with my nipples and I'm like jello. I would hate to think what i'd be like if they were as sensitive as a female.

[Lilith Moon]

Play with my nipples and I'm like jello.

Yes, I discovered mine just a few years back...at age 50 ! All those years without realising.....

[Suzie S.]

Having fantasies are a natural part of being human. It's not just crossdressers that have fantasies! I have sometimes thought of some very,very feminine fantasies! :heehee: Naw, I don't feel guilty!

[Daintre]

I think fantasies are a normal part of living. I have a feeling that many members here access the internet sites that deal in fantasy....Fictionmania and Crystal's Story Site for example.

[Joy Carter]

I have been out three times. I'd say I'm living my fantasy.:D

[celeste26]

my life seems to be run by fantasies.

[JenniferR771]

Paula you are not normal. Get some help.
--May I suggest "Aversion Therapy". Get some big silicone glue-on boobs 44-D would work. Glue 'em tight. Be sure to get a big tight bra whose straps cut into your shoulders.
---After about a week you will hate em. Your back aches. They catch in seat belt. Your golf swing will be off. Your elbows bump into them. You spill mashed potatoes on 'em. They bounce when climbing stairs--sometimes the left one bounces up when the right is bouncing down.
On the other hand if you love it--and them. Welcome! You are one of us!:hugs:

[marie354]

Your back aches. They catch in seat belt. Your golf swing will be off. Your elbows bump into them. You spill mashed potatoes on 'em. They bounce when climbing stairs--sometimes the left one bounces up when the right is bouncing down.


My SO is a 40DD and she complains about them all of the time. She absolutely hates them.... She's had boobs and had to wear a bra since she was 8.

Personally, I love mine, but I'm usually a B.

Never had a fantasy about boob to boob while making love though. Have done it a few times while dressed in my nightie though.
:hugs:

[Robin Leigh]

Yes, I discovered mine just a few years back...at age 50 ! All those years without realising.....You poor thing! :hugs:

I spend a bit of time on a science forum and "Why do men have nipples" is a fairly common question. So I know some men don't realize their nipples are erogenous zones. But I'm amazed to hear that from CD/TG people.

I've often spontaneously fantasized that I'm the person I'm making love to. Isn't that normal? :D

:hugs:

Robin

[Marianna Julianna]

Hey Babe, nothing wrong with a bit of fantasy, I often imagine that my wifes are joined to mine when we're close together like that, not necessarily even when we're making love, I imagine all sorts of things, like waking up to find that we've swapped bodies in the night even. What's in your mind is your business, if anyone wants to dissaprove, well, they can't read you mind anyway can they? Stuff them, they probably have stuff going on in their heads too.

[kaitlin]

Hi Paula, Please feel free to ask about pretty much anything CD related. That is what this site is all about. Boobs and love making....mine are slightly larger than normal, wish they were alot bigger! But, yes they find there way into our love making, so thinking about it, to me, is normal. Kaitlin

[krisinpink]

I've played out all sorts of fantasies while making love...totally normal babe...don't even think twice!

[janedoe311]

When I watch a XXX movie I wish that I am in the woman’s place and I do not like men.

I have wanted breasts for decades so that is nothing new. I have to put myself in a woman’s position (so to speak) to make love these days.

But this is in other threads. The end “WHATEVER WORKS”
I bet she and you would not what to know that she fantasizes about when making love.

So do not worry about it.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

I have wanted breast my whole life and my wife knows that this is my biggest hope. I have 38B breast right now, and we incorporate them into our love making quite often. My wife is not into the lesbian scene but she knows that thats what I wish for so she accomadates this from time to time. Someday I hope to be able to get implants to reach a 38C. Keep fantasizing, everyone does at times and yours are not wacky!

[loki_uk]

I've developed my own breasts, so no need for fantasies as they get played with enough

Guess I ate the wrong foods over the years :happy:

[Hillary Rose]

Hey Paula I find the same thing, what I do is if Im getting it from behind by a guy I put the pillow under my chest and grab it tightly if im not en femme, and if Im with a girl i just pull her close so her breasts are against mine its incredibly hot and girls love you holding them so close.

[WINDDANCERS]

Well'' It's Quite Normal I Must Say'' As It's All Good''

[ChristinefromOz]

Course, it is normal. I could never "perform" if I didn't think about having breasts. Even better is making love while wearing a bra or a nightie. It is a great buzz. I'm a lucky girl to have a wife who understands that!

[CDTiffany]

You go Girl, Fantasy land is were, some of us live!! (not all of us).
To feel like a woman, OH!!!!! is very hot! I love it.
Be Cool!!!!!!!!!!
XOXO Tiffany

[Phyliss]

I get quite embarrassed when speaking about this subject, but I've found that here there is love and caring, and as long as I'm not obscene about it I can address any subject and have acceptance for who I am.
Time was, I'd have many different "fantasys" about "doing it" and how I would go about the various hydraulics of the act. Used to feel somewhat guilty about this, and dared not speak to anyone for fear of ridicule. Thought I was "the only one" . Given time and experience I came to realize that I wasn't alone in my thinking, and quite frankly was a bit shocked to learn that some other people were much like me. I came to feel comfortable in my thoughts and feelings, because of a sense of "It's O.K." attitude from others.

Now, if I happen to have some thoughts of "what does it feel like for her" while in the middle of lovemaking I don't have any shame about it. Do I sometimes want to be the female in the act? Yes. Will I ever be? I don't think so. Still, I can dream, can't I?

[Angela E.]

I fantasize about oral sex with men all the time though I`ve never actually done it.And believe me, you will probably want to make those fantasy boobs real, sooner or later.:hugs: Angela.:<3: :<3: :<3: :GE: :<3: :<3: :<3:

[Stephenie S]

This is a common dream. "I wish I had breasts". Well the reality is that you do have breasts. And you have nipples too. And they have the very same nerve endings in them that a GG has. Do you want to know what it feels like to have breasts? You already do. A GGs breasts are just bigger! but they FEEL JUST the same.

What you need to do is get erotically centered on your breasts and nipples. You will find them incredibly arousing and sensitive. Get your SO to play and suck on your nipples. Wow! So that's what it feels like. Yes, that's what it feels like. I will leave the specifics up to your imagination, but it might help many of us to understand that we ALL have nipples and breasts and they are ALL very erotic.

Lovies,
Steph

[Billie1]

IMHO, fantasies are a completely normal and essential part of human relations.
If we don't dream, we have nothing to aspire to.

[kimberly_f37]

Fantasies !! I have always wanted Breast and working on that for Myself.. Don't be ashame of having those thoughts "It Normal'

If it wasn't for Fantasies we wouldn't be crossdressing !!!! :love:

Making Love can always be fun, But not as fun when I am fully dressed and my wife get Horny Horny when I strut in front of her for Hours and I Touch her in the right place and it On..

Fantasies can't do with out it !!!

Have A Great Day Girls!!!

[Marcie Sexton]

You're not the only one who has thoughts like that...I've got a Cd friend who has wished/dreamed for even more than that...to exchange physicial bodies with their S.O.'s...

[tommi]

Fantasies about breast during intimate moment, What crossdresser hasn't had
these fantasies especially if being stimulated in that area.:heehee:

[MsJanessa]

Darling--enjoy your fantasies without guilt---I do and My fantasies are much more outre than just having breasts---(think Queen of the Universe with thousands of pretty t-girls in My harem and having the absolute power of life and death over every one on the planet)---I actually live enough of My fantasies in real life--and in the past have felt regret(making the wrong choice in partners etc) ifnot actual guilt---have fun with your boobs and don't worry about it.

[btmgrl6]

Yup...ur normal

[JoAnnDallas]

What is wrong with 38B breast. I wish I had natural 38B breasts. I would be the happiest girl around. LOL

[Lovely Rita]

Not to go into details. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

I have a wonderful fantasy world and guilt free because my SO is part of it. We explore together and I feel very good about.

[trannie T]

We all have fantasies, yours is pretty normal. Look into my mind and you may find something really bizarre. Don't worry about fantasy.

[lucytv2003]

I always used to watch porn and fantasise about being the girl, and I'm passed being ashamed about that. It's just life, 'thinking these thoughts' is not in any way good or bad. I hate it when people look at this as if it's like fantasising about hurting someone or abusing a child. It's simply a step into another role, and even if the fantasy is about it being permanent (sexchange fantasy etc), it is just a matter of preference. One day society won't give a damn about this, but I don't care I have to live my life as my desires drive me to, I'll just have to avoid 'society' (as I can't pass) and enjoy the less mainstream life, or else I won't be able to be what I want to be. There's no other solution,

[Felix]

Hi hun a thought from the other side :o I do have similar thoughts but it's not about having breasts :heehee: I think it's perfectly normal for us all and I agree with what many ladies have said on here xx Felix :hugs:

[lucytv2003]

Shame is just a reaction to the rules that are there to shape society in a certain way. The strongest groups make the rules, and so those rules are often bullshit and based on making sure that the values of the main group keep going. This anti-trannyness is just a Christian thing, and without religion it wouldn't matter, and neither would gayness. Sorry if that's too deep or political 4 this site, but it's an honest answer.