Cristi
02-08-2007, 11:42 PM
Since I'm not really into the club or bar scene, I'm always looking for places to go or things to do while dressed (see my previous post for my latest outing).
Every place you can go while dressed can be thought of as having a certain risk (of getting outed, 'risk' of having to interract with somebody when you aren't ready for it, or even risk of physical harm). I think I've found a few places that are safe for people that want the lowest risk... In fact, I've gotten into a bit of a rut now that I'm comfortable.
First, a grocery store. Grocery stores don't have lots of gangs of kids, you are left alone (no sales associates come up to you to see if you need help), and most people there are too focussed on their own business to really notice you unless you really stand out. To reduce the stress even further, you can go in to shop, but not really buy anything. Just walk around with a carriage or basket, then leave when you are done. After a few visits, move up to making a small purchase.
The same goes for large bookstores like Barnes and Noble or Borders. You are in among lots of people, but essentially alone. Again, not many 'kids' hang out in book stores (that in itself is a bit sad, but a matter for another day).
Next you have large department stores. You have a bit more of a chance that a SA will come up to you, and there are more likely to be groups of kids.
Finally, as far as shopping goes, you have malls. I don't like malls much anyway but they are attractive to a lot of CDs. I really don't like spending much time dressed in a mall... too many bored teens with nothing to do (until you come along!)
There are quite a few things I haven't really tried yet, but would like to work my way up to.
Reading in a library (easy)
Eating out (harder, lots of interraction, you are kind of 'trapped' there until you pay the bill if anything goes wrong)
Seeing a movie (a little bit of stress at the beginning when buying the ticket and getting in, but after that it shouldn't be a problem unless you sit next to somebody who wants to cause a fuss)
Finally, my 'someday' activity. Someday, I'd love to take an entire night school class en femme. I can imagine wearing a different outfit for every class over several weeks (long skirts, short skirts, dresses...), sitting for long periods of time in a crowded room with other students on all sides of me.
What can you add to this list? Maybe I can get some ideas about other placed to go and things to do.
Every place you can go while dressed can be thought of as having a certain risk (of getting outed, 'risk' of having to interract with somebody when you aren't ready for it, or even risk of physical harm). I think I've found a few places that are safe for people that want the lowest risk... In fact, I've gotten into a bit of a rut now that I'm comfortable.
First, a grocery store. Grocery stores don't have lots of gangs of kids, you are left alone (no sales associates come up to you to see if you need help), and most people there are too focussed on their own business to really notice you unless you really stand out. To reduce the stress even further, you can go in to shop, but not really buy anything. Just walk around with a carriage or basket, then leave when you are done. After a few visits, move up to making a small purchase.
The same goes for large bookstores like Barnes and Noble or Borders. You are in among lots of people, but essentially alone. Again, not many 'kids' hang out in book stores (that in itself is a bit sad, but a matter for another day).
Next you have large department stores. You have a bit more of a chance that a SA will come up to you, and there are more likely to be groups of kids.
Finally, as far as shopping goes, you have malls. I don't like malls much anyway but they are attractive to a lot of CDs. I really don't like spending much time dressed in a mall... too many bored teens with nothing to do (until you come along!)
There are quite a few things I haven't really tried yet, but would like to work my way up to.
Reading in a library (easy)
Eating out (harder, lots of interraction, you are kind of 'trapped' there until you pay the bill if anything goes wrong)
Seeing a movie (a little bit of stress at the beginning when buying the ticket and getting in, but after that it shouldn't be a problem unless you sit next to somebody who wants to cause a fuss)
Finally, my 'someday' activity. Someday, I'd love to take an entire night school class en femme. I can imagine wearing a different outfit for every class over several weeks (long skirts, short skirts, dresses...), sitting for long periods of time in a crowded room with other students on all sides of me.
What can you add to this list? Maybe I can get some ideas about other placed to go and things to do.