asking wife for more

[cdtammi]

my wife knows about my dressing and allows me to dress sometimes.but i want and need more,i want to shave my body and keep it that way forever,i want to dress freely not just once in awhile,i want to take care of skin to make baby soft whatever it takes. but im worried she will freak out, im going to these and more with or without her i love her very much but if i dont get to do this soon i feel i will go nuts. thanks for listening girls

[marie354]

Talk to her and ask her if you can and if the line can be moved a bit further along.
My SO actually loves my shaved body. She loves the look of it and the feeling of my bare chest.
:hugs:

[Sandra]

Talk to her explain how you feel and what you'd like to do, she may be ok with it and suggest that you do one thing at once and go from there, but most of all talk and keep talking.

[Dawn D.]

I understand how you feel. Maybe it just needs more time. Without a dought though, you must keep the communication going! I could not have believed I'd be where I am today only a few months ago. My wife was originally reluctant, but understanding. That has given way to trust and active participation. However, I am sure that it is only because we talk with each other and not just about CDing. It also includes interests of hers as well. Free up chat time and fun time for her and maybe she will be more understanding for your needs. In any case praise her and cherish her for what she is already tolerant of! Here's hoping things go well for you!


Dawn

[Sasha Anne Meadows]

I started shaving my whole bod even before I started dressing full time. I think a shaved bod is so much nicer.

[linnea]

You're lucky to have an SO who understands and supports what you're doing, but keep in mind that you are DOING something. It involves some choices, even though you may feel compelled to making them. Build on what she already accepts and talk to her about other steps that you would like to take. Apparently you feel strongly about these choices, but without letting her know what you are thinking, and possibly laying down an ultimatum, I think that you have little hope of maintaining a trusting and supportive relationship.

[paulaN]

I have shaved legs and arm pits. she hates it when I shave my chest. no mater how hard I try I still seem to have pickies on my chest. Even if I have just shaved. She hates that. So I do not shave my chest unless I'm going out which is not very often.

[ChristinefromOz]

Talk to her and let her now how you feel and what you want to do. She maybe OK with going part of the way and maybe you might need to make some compromises.

My wife is a bit annoyed about me shaving my legs recently, but only because my 13 year old daughter spotted it. I have shaved my chest for the last 2-3 years. I do it in the shower everyday. I love being free of body hair.

Talk to her sweetly, you might be surprised with the results.

[Angie G]

Take it slow girl :hugs:
Angie

[SandyR]

One thing at a time. First just the fact that she knows. We started by talking about why??? Well we all know its just a part of us gurls......Then slowly we talked about shoes, hose, skirts, and shaving. It takes time, but believe me if you let her soak it in slow you will have a better chance of her acepting you. I know shave freely in the tub, and she is helping me walk in heels.....Yikes

[KimberlyS]

Tammi, you already have a wife that is supportive... do not blow it. Talk to her and keep the communication open. And this includes your feelings. And also take things slow....SOME TIMES PAINFULLY SLOW. And keep up with the communication. And remember that in a relationship along with communication is compromise. And often, but not always. If you want something you must compromise first, and continue the communication. And do not expect change over night. And if you do get some change do not run with it.... Slow and easy... Baby steps... And if possible let your wife lead. Believe it or not open communication often leads to the other person leading or compromising later with out pushing from you.

And one last thing.... Keep your whole relationship good and happy. I happy wife usually leads to a much happier life.

KimberlyS-CD

[Sheila]

KimberlyS said it well,

slowly, slowly, catchy monkey, as an old boss of mine used to say.

[westcoastCD]

just take up swimming ;)

[Suzie S.]

Yes, the girls here said it all! It is sage advice to go slow! The faster you go the less you'll get. Don't ambush her with all the changes you would like to make. Remember, communication... Good luck! :D

[Tracy_Victoria]

my wife knows about my dressing and allows me to dress sometimes.but i want and need more,i want to shave my body and keep it that way forever,i want to dress freely not just once in awhile,i want to take care of skin to make baby soft whatever it takes. but im worried she will freak out, im going to these and more with or without her i love her very much but if i dont get to do this soon i feel i will go nuts. thanks for listening girls

There a hell of a lot of I wants in there! How about if she wants out of the door!

Having an Accepting (or even a Semi Accepting SO) is about their feeling as well, not just ours!

[Tina B.]

When I came out to my wife, she was very excepting, and I didn't have anyone around back then to remind me of the baby steps, I ran with it, I just wanted more and more, and with in a very short time, she blew it. She felt abandoned, and ignored, we fought, I lost, Because I was wrong!
Then we started talking, and talking, when all I wanted was to be dressing.
Bottom line, I slowed it down, she came to except me and what I needed, and now she is the best shopper for Tina, and will ask where Tina is, if she doesn't see her for a while, or if I have not been dressing, and start to show signs of moodyness, she will be the one to tell me to take the day to myself!
So go slow, give her time to ajust, you have had a life time, she just learned about it!
Sorry to ramble, but I was one of the lucky ones, there is a lot of gals here that are single, because they came out to a woman that could not handle it, hang on to one that can, and let it grow naturally!
Good luck with it!!!!!
Tina B.