anyone feel your wife is Jealous?

[DeniseNJ]

I know there are some of us that have body parts that look and are more feminine in apearance than our wifes. Do you believe there can be a bit of ENVY from the wifes??? I for one know my legs look better than my wifes, and if my feet were smaller they would look more feminine than hers also. My eyes when done up look more feminine. yesterday I got all dolled up, freshly shaven legs , new hose, nice heels, I had to make my wife look , you think she would have said, your legs look great so sexy. No comment from her at all. I just know she hates to admit it or she doesn't want to encourage me. Who else believes the same thing. I can understand , if I were a GG, I wouldn't want to admit that my hubby looks more feminine than she does. It sure would be great if she would compliment me like this group does..:(

[Karren H]

My wife is very jealous.... I remember a run in she had with an old girl friend of mine........ but luckily she has never seen me enfemme or even a photo... and I'm very lad she hasn't...

Karren

[Sweet Jane]

Hi

c'mon...you don't really believe that your wife should compliment any body part that you think looks very feminine, and be envious of it..Maybe I'm a party poop, but I'd find that a little condescending.
My wife only knows the half of my dressing, and she has passed comment that any woman would love my legs, but if I'd been dressed and soliciting the comment I think I'd be embarrassed.
Anyway, dressing is not a competition (yet), so I suppose I only have to please me. I don't think many wives would envy us....most (not all, I know) like manly attributes best, as thats what they married..thats what turns them on.

[Joy Carter]

I'd hate to admit that but it might be the case with some women.

[Billie1]

Do you believe there can be a bit of ENVY from the wifes??? (

Yes. I believe there can be a bit of envy. A huge, giant Bit That Ate Cleveland-size bit. No problem.:eek:

[marie354]

My SO always give constructive critisisms... I think you went a little overboard on the eyeshadow didn't you? Or... You need to add a little blusher to your chin, it looks a little blah.
I don't mind it. She has admitted that I have nice shaped leggs.

[cocopuff's girl GG]

I can say that my SO has a nicer butt then I do. He calls it a bubble butt and says he doesn't like it but any GG would love to have a A__ like that. Including me. Alot of women pay alot of money to have a butt like that. lol But where he has the nice butt I have a nice rack and he wants to trade. We kid about it to each other. He has nice legs too when in hose.

[ChristineRenee]

My wife has always been jealous of my legs and even my butt. For a long time she viewed Chrissie as "unfair competition" for her. I don't know that she still feels quite that strongly about it as she once did, but I do believe that there is still some envy going on with her regarding my femininity.

[Tina B.]

My wife is alway there with a compleament, I wear a smaller size than she does, and she is quick to tell me how nice I look, but then when she gets dressed to go out, or just to go to work, I am quick to tell her how nice she looks. It ain't no contest to see who is the prettiest, and I would never want her to feel she had to compete with me. she is the one that holds me together when I feel the world doesn't understand or except me, because she does, and if there is any jealousey, it's me that is jealous I wish I had her parts that make her all woman, I don't think she wants the parts that make me all man
Tina B.

[kathy gg]

well....I also dont' want to throw buckets of cold water on anyone's love of themself......

but this is my feeling ....yes some wives/so's are jealous...but if you ask me, for no reason. I think that with some professional make up help and some proper clothing and some expert hairstyling....well many many gg's can look quiet beautiful and magazine cover worthy. It is jsut many women either dont' have an interest or desire to spend the amounts of money it might take and also the time too woudl be a HUGE issue. Therefor most gg's have NO CLUE to beauty potential that they possess. I have seen anough of these transformation shows to see that many women dont' know how to bring out their beauty, it is hidden under bad make up or outdated hairstyles or ill fitting clothes.

So that said....yes a cd might have nice looking legs....but a huge adams apple.....a cd might have a tiny waiste but without a wig is bald as an eagle. I mean everyone has something on them that probably is a natural blessing, but many have other things which are not. Most every person is that way, and if we all look hard enough we can find beauty and imperfection....but I for one tend to want to focus on the positive rather than only the negative.

If your wife feels jealous is it possible that it is because you dont' compliment her enough? I am not trying to make you feel bad about your post though, understand that. But usually these feelings dont' come out of no where with women. There is always a root of contention.

I have moments where I dont' feel sexy or attractive, but I also have moments where I feel like a million bucks. But one thing I can always count on is my husband making sure is that he loves me and calling me all the sweet little nicknames "sexy girl"...."my cutie" "hot girl" when he knows I need a nudge. Of course regardless of what he is wearing I always let him know I think he is fabulous and sexy to me. But this is a two way street....not just a one way with only one person complimenting the other.

If you are looking for constant gushing and ohhing and ahhing...well a forum with other cd's is the best place to get that. Unless your wife is attracted to the image of a guy dressed as a girl....well I doubt you will ever get smothered with the compliments you seek.

My last thought is this, if I thought my husband felt his femme self was somehow in competition with me for *msot womanly* I am not sure that is what would make me want to compliment him more.

[tommi]

Jealous no way wierded out definitely we had a talk about it she hates this
side of me and is really wierded out.

[kassi]

i agree kathy also on a lighter side my husband is tall and skinny so he def. looks better in jeans lol. so i'm a tad bit jealous, but i know that i have things that he's jealous of too. :happy:

[dancinginthedark]

Hi

c'mon...you don't really believe that your wife should compliment any body part that you think looks very feminine, and be envious of it..Maybe I'm a party poop, but I'd find that a little condescending.
My wife only knows the half of my dressing, and she has passed comment that any woman would love my legs, but if I'd been dressed and soliciting the comment I think I'd be embarrassed.
Anyway, dressing is not a competition (yet), so I suppose I only have to please me. I don't think many wives would envy us....most (not all, I know) like manly attributes best, as thats what they married..thats what turns them on.

:iagree:

Now this woman makes me :drool: looks, brains and common sense. What a killer combination Sweet Jane.

PS~ I'd love it if my hair were as lovely as my husband's. And I tell him that all the time. So while envious I don't withhold compliments.

[tweetyracing GG]

I have to say that I am jealous of my hubby. He is tall, skinny, has a nice a**, GREAT Legs. He is everything I wish I was... well I'm glad that I have the nice rack but everything else I would love. Being a big girl ... it's been hard to get use to him CDing. But you know what... I love him and he loves me... He tends to see me get jealous when he is dressed and then he tells me how pretty I am. It helps. In the same since he is jealous of me. That's just what I feel and that's my :2c:

[Di]

Just wondering.....since you had to make her look....and she would not compliment you...is there other things going on...........are you making it all about you.? Does she feel left out? Or you could be right she could be jealous..but maybe there could be other things going on too................as for Sher and I......Sherlyn is beautiful...has way better legs...eyes and so on.....but she makes me feel beautiful too...and we compliment each other all the time.

And Kathy said it best......quote"If you are looking for constant gushing and ohhing and ahhing...well a forum with other cd's is the best place to get that. Unless your wife is attracted to the image of a guy dressed as a girl....well I doubt you will ever get smothered with the compliments you seek.end quote

[Tree GG]

.... but then when she gets dressed to go out, or just to go to work, I am quick to tell her how nice she looks. It ain't no contest to see who is the prettiest, ...
Tina B.


... And it wasn't that I looked better than her... but she was put off by the constant attention that I was giving to this new woman. ...:

Maybe at first you could describe it as envious or jealous. Heck, he's got great long, legs. But as Erin says, it's more about being jealous of the attention and pampering the CD gal gets. More jealous of time and attention than look.

Hubby was disappointed just the other morning that when he came out dressed, my first words weren't "You look great!". He does compliment and make me feel beautiful to him, but not every time he sees me! Too much would lessen the meaning, so I think it may be a bit unrealistic to expect your SO to continually gush over your femme self - whether she's accepting or not.

[janedoe311]

and has trouble with binging. I eat and eat and burn it up,(at least most). So I am thinner. From the neck down and in a corset I looked good in the wonder woman costume. So I am sure she was, lets say upset about that. I suspect some of the animosity against us CDing is because we can look better than our SO's. But our body chemistry is different so it is nothing to be envious about. I am sure I could not control my eating with the same body chemistry as my wife so I do not envy her problem.

One thing, I walk for about 1/2 hours a day on my lunch break, or nearly, She rarely walks or exercises. I wish she did she is 40+ and I do not what her to have a heart attack. It really worries me, we have two kids. But she gets very defensive if I mention it and keeps saying it just will drive her to eat more. Do not know what to do.

Sorry for my getting off track.

[cocopuff's girl GG]

We all have things here and there that we'd love to change about our body image, shape etc.. I don't feel jealous though. After all GG's know we are the real deal. Inner beauty makes the person. I see my SO as a aspiring woman at times. Since finding out about his dressing habits I try and be helpful with such things as make-up and clothes. He always asks for my advice and I give it. I compliment him and he compliments me whether he is all male dressed or female dressed. No one is better than the other because we are equal this is not a compitition it's our life and i can have the best of both worlds not only a great man in my life but a best GF too. :love:

[Sandra]

Hi

c'mon...you don't really believe that your wife should compliment any body part that you think looks very feminine, and be envious of it..Maybe I'm a party poop, but I'd find that a little condescending.
My wife only knows the half of my dressing, and she has passed comment that any woman would love my legs, but if I'd been dressed and soliciting the comment I think I'd be embarrassed.
Anyway, dressing is not a competition (yet), so I suppose I only have to please me. I don't think many wives would envy us....most (not all, I know) like manly attributes best, as thats what they married..thats what turns them on.


:clap: :clap:

[SherriePall]

Since my wife hasn't seen me -- either in pics or person -- she hasn't had the opportunity to get jealous. LOL. Actually, she knows that I am quite envious of her looks. (and various body parts!)
However, I did have one cosmetics store S.A. tell me she was very envious of my eyes. I think it was just talk to make me feel good about buying the shadows.

[VTDresser]

Most assuredly my wife is envious of the fact that I can wear her old clothes and she has had to buy new ones because she is getting the "middle age" spread. I have lost over 3o lbs and can wear her old pants, tops, and dresses. She has gained 35 pounds since we married in 1984; I wonder if I will get to wear her gown when we renew vows on our 25th anniversary in 2009?

[DeniseNJ]

I feel like running off and Hiding :o :o With all do respect to all the GG girls that responded , I am sorry for sounding self centered. I guess I am crying out for attention.. No!! the world doesn't revolve around me. I guess I just wish my wife would support me more. I envy all the Cd on this site with wonderful ladys by their side. If I didn't think that women were so beautiful, I wouldn't try to look like one.. To be honest, at times I dress to get back at the wife. My wife tends to drink TOO much ,to a point that it upsets me and turns me off.. She don't know when to quit. I tell her , just like you don't like me to Xdress, I hate you getting plastered, falling down, passing out or acting like a fool. I figure I can't stop her so if she gets mad when Denise comes out I got even, that's my high . It makes me feel good dressing, Just like that 5th of absolute or the 3 bottles of wine my wife will comsume in one evening makes her feel good. You girls make good sense , maybe I don't compliment my wife enough because she is too busy getting smashed. Rant off !!!! .. I am sorry, I am really a good person , don't get me wrong I enjoy a drink or 2 but I have control. My wife abuses spirits way too often any that makes me angry . Please no disresprect to anyone my life isn't going too smooth right now!!!

[suchacutie]

heck yes, my wife is envious of my legs, and I of her breasts, etc. It's all in fun and it let's her flirt with tina in that way, and let's tina flirt back, all as platonic girlfriends! in general she compliments me on things I do well and tells me when I've messed up or gone a bit overboard (e.g. on makeup).

such great fun!!!!

tina

[Angie G]

Yes some times :hugs:
Angie

[janedoe311]

I feel like running off and Hiding :o :o With all do respect to all the GG girls that responded , I am sorry for sounding self centered. I guess I am crying out for attention.. No!! the world doesn't revolve around me. I guess I just wish my wife would support me more. I envy all the Cd on this site with wonderful ladys by their side. If I didn't think that women were so beautiful, I wouldn't try to look like one.. To be honest, at times I dress to get back at the wife. My wife tends to drink TOO much ,to a point that it upsets me and turns me off.. She don't know when to quit. I tell her , just like you don't like me to Xdress, I hate you getting plastered, falling down, passing out or acting like a fool. I figure I can't stop her so if she gets mad when Denise comes out I got even, that's my high . It makes me feel good dressing, Just like that 5th of absolute or the 3 bottles of wine my wife will comsume in one evening makes her feel good. You girls make good sense , maybe I don't compliment my wife enough because she is too busy getting smashed. Rant off !!!! .. I am sorry, I am really a good person , don't get me wrong I enjoy a drink or 2 but I have control. My wife abuses spirits way too often any that makes me angry . Please no disresprect to anyone my life isn't going too smooth right now!!!

Your CDing is not why she drinks. She is an alcoholic and needs help (she can not control it), get her to AA or a detox hospital. I had a friend that died on one of many drinking binges, his airway collapsed.

[vicky lee]

what a good question never thought of it in that way.
it would explain alot in my case, i would say yes to ur question.
looking back now she used to say when she gives me skirts or dresses to try on saying "gosh you look better in that than i do"
it fits you well lots better than me .
which eventuly lead to our separation, which im hopeing is only temp
love vicky

[Sheila]

Jealous, nope this guy has a butt that is scrunchable, eyes to die for, a smile that just melts me, and legs that are unbelievable, and you know what he still has them when dressed as Claire, I tell him about them all frequenrly.

Now I still feel a little uncomfortable complimenting his butt and legs when he is in Claire mode.......... why I don't know cos I tell girl friends all the time if they are looking good....... and maybe thats just answered my query ..... you see, while I am getting to know Claire, she is still not what I would class as my friend........ he presents differently in fem mode and I am still getting used to that, and to her........ slowly but slowly we are getting there:D

[Elizabeth Anne]

My wife is a little overweight from when I met her. I have alot less hair also. That was over 34 years ago & alot has changed for both of us. Health issues mainly. We are both still the same person to each other.
On a lighter side, She has said to Beth, "you should have been born a woman with those legs, & you look way better as a woman than a man." I really don't know quite how to take that last one!

[susie evans]

OOOHHHH yeah at first bur not the last ten or fifteen years :D

susie

[kathy gg]

Denise

I sure am sorry to hear about your family problems. I am guessing talking to her about her drinking problem is not an option? I am not fan of AA, but even some therpay, individual or couples counseling might get to the heart of why she is destroying her body and her marriage.

I pesonally can see why you might find and seek shelter from the chaos in dressing. Personally I always think of my hubby's cding as more of a celebration of who he is, who we are, not a way to hide or escape from his life....he has a pretty good life as far as life goes.

So to think of cding as revenge or purely as an escape hatch to crawl into...well I would wonder what woudl happen if you had a wife who did nto drink and who supported...maybe jsut not enthusiasticly ....who you are? Woudl cding still bring joy?

I would examine that situation, because anyone who drinks as much as she is drinking will eventually find themselves in a hospital with a Dr. perscribing major lifestyle changes.

I hope that for her sake and the sake of your marriage you can get her to realize she needs help in this matter. Some people CAN and HAVE the ability to restrain their drinking and change their ways without any outside intervention, I know this ...but most need an outside support system. I realy hope she can get one before it is too late.

Take care




I feel like running off and Hiding :o :o With all do respect to all the GG girls that responded , I am sorry for sounding self centered. I guess I am crying out for attention.. No!! the world doesn't revolve around me. I guess I just wish my wife would support me more. I envy all the Cd on this site with wonderful ladys by their side. If I didn't think that women were so beautiful, I wouldn't try to look like one.. To be honest, at times I dress to get back at the wife. My wife tends to drink TOO much ,to a point that it upsets me and turns me off.. She don't know when to quit. I tell her , just like you don't like me to Xdress, I hate you getting plastered, falling down, passing out or acting like a fool. I figure I can't stop her so if she gets mad when Denise comes out I got even, that's my high . It makes me feel good dressing, Just like that 5th of absolute or the 3 bottles of wine my wife will comsume in one evening makes her feel good. You girls make good sense , maybe I don't compliment my wife enough because she is too busy getting smashed. Rant off !!!! .. I am sorry, I am really a good person , don't get me wrong I enjoy a drink or 2 but I have control. My wife abuses spirits way too often any that makes me angry . Please no disresprect to anyone my life isn't going too smooth right now!!!

[tweetyracing GG]

One thing, I walk for about 1/2 hours a day on my lunch break, or nearly, She rarely walks or exercises. I wish she did she is 40+ and I do not what her to have a heart attack. It really worries me, we have two kids. But she gets very defensive if I mention it and keeps saying it just will drive her to eat more. Do not know what to do.



Being an over weight female. I get very defensive when my hubby brings up my weight. My :2c: try making healthy dinners for the 2 of you. ask her if she wants to go for walks on nice nights. Just take a walk and I find that the best time to talk to my hubby. If she likes to go to the mall that is another good place to just walk around. Don't talk about her weight while doing these things and maybe she will be more up to "working out" with you. On this subject I would ask you to support her like she supports you. I'm just trying to help, I know that these things work with me. If you want to talk more about it just PM me.
Thanks,
Tweety

[IceMaiden]

I can say that my SO has a nicer butt then I do. He calls it a bubble butt and says he doesn't like it but any GG would love to have a A__ like that. Including me. Alot of women pay alot of money to have a butt like that. lol But where he has the nice butt I have a nice rack and he wants to trade. We kid about it to each other. He has nice legs too when in hose.

My SO has a nice bum, very curvy and sexy. Im not jealous. I think its really horny actually.:<3:

[Margie]

All I can say is that I'm always concious of how I look in comparison to my wife. I would never "outdress" in any way. It's just how I am and how I feel. I too am waiting for the time she says I look gorgeous, but for now, saying I look good is music to my ears! Especially today!!!!

[janedoe311]

Being an over weight female. I get very defensive when my hubby brings up my weight. My :2c: try making healthy dinners for the 2 of you. ask her if she wants to go for walks on nice nights. Just take a walk and I find that the best time to talk to my hubby. If she likes to go to the mall that is another good place to just walk around. Don't talk about her weight while doing these things and maybe she will be more up to "working out" with you. On this subject I would ask you to support her like she supports you. I'm just trying to help, I know that these things work with me. If you want to talk more about it just PM me.
Thanks,
Tweety

I do not talk about her weight I just worry. I am messed up and could not make it without her least of all take care of two kids.

She does not support me except making dinner and laundry. She has blamed me for all her failing including not getting a job in a public school system. Anytime she complains about something in the house or our situation I take it personally. I am responsible so it is all my fault. Leaky roofs, bouncing floor, dirty kitchen, and living room, floor needs to be replaced etc. She knows this but still complains, in effect blaming me.

I do most of the cleaning make most of the money and have been "building” our house for 11 years. I am burned out. I am ADD was taking adderall, and space out a lot. Our sex life is zero. I am prone to depression and have spent weekend in bed because I could not get out and face life. She was stuck with the kids which is not easy, so I do admire her for that. I have no self esteem and she never says anything nice about me or the work I have done to the house. But I do thank her for meals and things she does. She in very indecisive and I am not an aggressive person, I am just a little less passive than her, so it is hard to get things done here, we need an on site “manager”.

The only time I felt good about myself is when I got contracting jobs and online sales from my business. But that is no longer, so with it went what little self esteem I had. I have tried help but it was a waste of money, the copay was $30 a session.

Thanks for the suggestions it will help. She wants to walk but has a hard time in getting the kids out. She gets home late which does not help. It looks like I have to be aggressive to get things done.

[Kelsy]

No. I am a bit jealous of her though because she's the real deal~!

Jennifer:happy:

[EricaCD]

Late coming to the discussion here. I trust I have been clear as to my opinion on the whole issue of whether GG's should be jealous of our looks. (In a word, NO!) I will point out that there is a big difference between (x) a woman being jealous of the overall package we present and (y) the issue of whether our appearances en femme can make women more self-conscious about their own image.

As to (x): let's face it, in nearly all cases (mine emphatically included) we simply do not compare to our SOs in terms of an overall fem image. The issue in (y) is a bit more complicated. We may not look better overall, but we can in many cases make our spouses feel worse about their own bodies. By some hellish irony, the things that frequently look best on crossdressers (long, slender legs, long arms and fingers, thighs without adipose tissue, narrow hips) are some of the areas that genetic women are most chronically self-conscious about. Then we come into a forum like this and say "doesn't my [insert positive attribute here] look great?" And focus our SOs' attentions in a very negative way!

Put more succinctly: we might not win the competition that we have created, but we can certainly hurt those we love while losing!

We can do better than this! We can be honest about those aspects of our appearance that make us happy WITHOUT bringing down the genetic women in our midst. We can remember that the women around us collectively embody the essential wonders of femininity in a way that never ceases to amaze and delight! We MUST remember that this is a source of both inspiration and aspiration! We can empower ourselves to keep trying to approach that appearance...without turning our appearance into a competitive game. (By the way, it's a competitive game that is less than zero-sum... we all come out losers.)

OK I'm done. Flame away. PM me if you want to get really nasty.

Erica

[DeniseNJ]

Well said Erica ::::they way you put it make complete sense....:thumbsup: I am not trying to hurt her BUT I guess it does!!!

[danielle40I]

My SO hasn't "met' Dani in person yet, but has seen her on web-cam (long distance relationship for now). She expressed some envy for my shape. I do present as a rather busty, full figure gal but was somewhat flattered by her remarks. I try to always make it a point to compliment her as I know she has serious issues with her weight (she is making a concerted effort to loose 60 lbs,) and give her as much possitive feedback as possible. I guess it's a matter of give and take to make any relationship work.

I love you Baby Doll...with all my heart.

Dani

[Marcie Sexton]

When my wife and I went through the Cding thing and she demanded I stop she was over weight, reclusive, and had lost all her confidence to be an attractive woman.

She went through gastric by pass in May 2006 and has lost some 200 lbs.
when she had lost the majority of her weight in November she had regained her womanly confidence and then I suppose, although I don't know it and really don't care, she no longer felt threatened by Marcie, allowing her to come back into our lives, all for the better of our marriage too !!!

Any way she now tells me that she doesn't like me at all < kidding of course > because of my legs:rolleyes: . Now we share make up, clothes and on occasions shopping sprees as a couple of gals looking for bargins...:heehee:

Personally speaking and with hind sight being 20-20, in our case her preceived threats from Marcie was her illness< lupus > and the weight gain that followed with some of her treatment. All which ='s Confidence

[Country girl]

No. I am a bit jealous of her though because she's the real deal~!

Jennifer:happy:

Awww, Baby, you're so sweet. And BTW gurls and gg's, he has a butt to die for and very nice legs. Whether he is in guy or gurl mode. He's right though, no I'm not jealous because I love Jennifer as much as I love my man. Now I will say when he is in man mode, the other gg friends I have are jealous! :tongueout Definately hunk material!!!:D :hugs: CG gg

[Tamara Barclay]

My ex was very jealous. Even her Mom told her I was a prettier girl than she was...OUCH!!!!!!

[onebadgirl_4u2]

My GF has told me that she is jealous of my small pretty feet and my legs..

[Glamourgirl GG]

Can't say I am jealous of my husband at all, he is a guy after all not a true girl. Although I will say I get sick of hearing about his size when he obviously knows I am unhappy about how I look and my size (I am very pregnant). So having the size thing thrown in your face all the time wants me want to burn all of those size 6 outfits.

[Roxi Loh]

This is a thread that has brought out the GG's and rightly so. I applaud it and love to hear from them. My 2 cents is that my wife and other so's are jealous that there is another feminine presence in the house. She/they are not jealous that I/we look better, prettier or sexier than they...just that we are competing with her as the female of the house. I cant imagine that my wife would think I was more a woman than she, but that I was another feminine being in her space.

Rox

[lowlavalentine]

I'm pretty sure my wife isn't jealous of anything but the time and effort I spend on my cd activiites. She's told me as much - that my cd activity is really isn't all that important to her, positively or negatively. To her credit she allows me cd time and she hasn't divorced me, but worrying about my feminine wardrobe and appearance just doesn't make it onto her list of life priorities. The one thing that she does like about my cding is my blog. It provides insight and serves as a springboard towards conversation about issues that she does care about, like relationships, feelings etc.

Thinking about it some more, she is jealous of some of my shoes.

take care
Lowla

[Glamourgirl GG]

Roxi that's interesting that you say that because I have never considered my husband a feminine presence.

I did think of something I am jealous of...the time he invests in this vs the time he invests in our marriage.

[Alyshia121]

Let me put it this way. When you get to looking like one of the girls, you ARE one of the girls. Not just the look, but the jealousy that goes with it. It's perfectly normal, mind you. Instinctively, she will think that you are trying to out-do her. It's a good thing if you've gotten a complement sometimes. Not meant to insult, but let me ask you a question. Picture this. YOU are a GG, and there was this guy who looked not just decent but passable as a woman. Women have natural insecurities, which aren't limited to just women but that's besides the point. Now here's the question...

If you were the GG who knew this guy, would you be jealous too?

[Billijo49504]

My wife is my best friend, and she is more feminine than I'll ever be. But she doesn't have a problem with me dressing gurlie. She is that secure in her feminity. And so am I...BJ

[Gemini Dream]

An ex-girlfriend and I went trick or treating with her two kids about five years ago. I was dolled up in drag and she went as herself i.e. jeans, sweatshirt, and her natural big boobs. LOL

This guy at a house we went to gave her kids some candy and then gave her some too, but not me. :-(
He then spent a minute or two sweet talking her and finally we moved on to the next house.

She bragged about that to me for the next few months. She enjoyed my crossdressing but I think she was jealous of me and wanted to rub it in that a guy chose her over me. LOL

[lisa68]

I don't think it makes my wife jealous, but uncomfortable do to the weight she has gain over the years. When we met she weighed 105 lbs. soaking wet. Now with three kids and a job that keeps her too busy to see straight or have time to rest it's hard for her to see me in short skirt with heels. I think it makes her think what she once had before I help her though college to have a career that she likes to do. I sense that about her so I don't dress in front of her I used too.

[Rachel Morley]

I know there are some of us that have body parts that look and are more feminine in apearance than our wifes. Do you believe there can be a bit of ENVY from the wifes??? I for one know my legs look better than my wifes, and if my feet were smaller they would look more feminine than hers also.
Well, I guess we're all different as I'm not sure I'm in the same camp. Here's a picture of both my wife's and my legs. Can you tell which is which?

http://img295.imageshack.us/img295/3751/spikenessgb3.jpg

[KewTnCurvy GG]

1) I envy all the Cd on this site with wonderful ladys by their side.

2) If I didn't think that women were so beautiful, I wouldn't try to look like one..

3) To be honest, at times I dress to get back at the wife.

4) My wife tends to drink TOO much ,to a point that it upsets me and turns me off..

5) She don't know when to quit. I tell her , just like you don't like me to Xdress, I hate you getting plastered, falling down, passing out or acting like a fool.

6) I figure I can't stop her so if she gets mad when Denise comes out I got even, that's my high .

7) Just like that 5th of absolute or the 3 bottles of wine my wife will comsume in one evening makes her feel good.

1) The grass always looks greener on the other side. Get rid of your inner green meanie. It does you no good.

2) Immitation is the highest form of flattery--thanks.

3) This is a problem. Someone hurts me, I do something to get even. I'd encourage you to look inside yourself; ask yourself if this is a healthy response to feeling hurt?

4) It's called ALCOHOLISM. It's a disease. It's not healthy and it affects all who are close to the alcoholic. Seek out help yourself.

5) She doesn't know when to quit because she is an alcoholic and addicted. Simple as that and she will not get better without treatment.

6) That's equally sick as her drinking is--sorry but true.

7) Again, she is an ALCOHOLIC. Your relationship will remain impaired and dysfunctional until she seeks help and you find healthy ways to respond to how her alcholism is affecting you.

G'luck
Kew's-2

[Alice Torn]

Denise, I have rened a room, with a female, that I once was crazy about, but, she told me, that she did not want me as a boyfriend, just friend. She has gained 130 lbs, dresses like a man, has a mustache, and a year ago, started getting plastered every night. I confronted her, in letters, and finally verbally, and she would not listen, so I moved out, and, also called one of her doctors, and told about her drunkenness, while on several prescription drugs. I lived in my vehicle, for 2 1/2 months, then she called me, and said she quit drinking, and needed lots of work done on her property. I did moved back into my room, there, and she hasn;r gotten drunk, yet, as far as I know. Sometimes, you have to let the alcoholic go their own way, and hit rock bottom.. She fell, and gashed her head open, once, but still kept drinking. All th warning, I did, was not heeded, so I told her, i can't live with drunks, and left. Alanon is very good, and I have gone their, before. My dad was an alcoholic, and my childhood, and young adulthood, was devastated by my parents fighting. You might have to get away, let her crash, and even die, if she simply won't listen to anyone, or, have an intervention done, with several friends, or a professional. I know, that, if you are on low income, like me, you just can't afford professional help for her. All I can do is share what I been through. Kindness, and helping, and encouraging, and seeing if she will go for a walk, in a mall, park, zoo, can't hurt. I know how hard this can be. I am not married, to my housemate, don't share touch, even.. She does not want a man to touch her, so I can't understand the married part. Detaching from her negativeness helps. Yopu are not responsible for her bad behavior, only your part, so it is best to replacce resentment, with acceptance, and compassion, because, we all need a ton of that, in this cold, cruel world. Lucille

[Alice Torn]

Welll said Eric....and Country girlgg, Could you have a clone, or carbon copy, of you, or someone just like you, made? I wish there were a whole lot more ggals like you around. Lucille

[Ashleigh GG]

I wouldn't say I'm jealous at all - but I'm proud. My SO GinaVegas has GREAT legs, and I say so with enthusiasm! We're always trying to think of ways to make them look even better - tanning sprays, etc. I love them!
Ashleigh GG

[MsEva]

Gosh NO, I am jeleous of HER! She is a size six, a beautiful woman no matter what she wears..I always feel a bit of a cow next to her! I guess that is a good way to be ...well for us anyway. She does compliment me though. I act the total girl and say I feel fat in this do I look fat? Now how is she going to answer that?:o

[TxKimberly]

One thing I can promise you is that letting your wife even suspect that you think you may be prettier than she is, would be a fast way to really make her mad as hell. :-)

Kim

[Sally24]

My wife has commented that I look prettier than her, but she's wrong!

Sally

[Colleentg]

My ex was very jealous of my legs and my wardrobe. Not to put her down, but her legs weren't that appealing to me anyway, unless she wore some sexy hose on them. She constantly nagged me about my vast wardrobe (more than hers) and the outfits I had. She kept asking me why I didn't buy her stuff like that. My answer was she'd never wear it. So one day she said she would if I started buying similar stuff for her. I spent about $500 one day for her, things I thought she'd look really nice in. Guess what? She never wore them! I rest my case!

[annecwesley]

My wife is jealous of my legs, and my wardrobe is better than hers. It's a problem because she always has felt insecure about her looks and she doesn't (for a number of reasons) put a lot of effort into looking good. Though I don't do makeup or a wig, and I have a beard, she's jealous of my looks from the neck down. I think that is in fact another reason why she dowesn't want me to shave off my beard.