What is your goal in crossdressing

[Tina Dixon]

There are so many levels in in crossdressing if you think about, especially on this web site, just think about it.

You have the guy who just likes to wear panties, people that put there wifes stuff on, people that try to look like a woman but is in the closet(Thats probably me), people that go out dressed, well I can go on to ********, drag queens to sex changes but you get my idea.

So where do you fit and where do you want to go?

My self down the road I would like to get out as Tina, join the Tri-ess chapter and go to the many Transgendered events there is, and most of all to finally meet some of you other gals here, some of you are just a couple hours away and it would be nice to hang with you.

In the mean time things are busy right now and my wife does know I dress, though she has never said a word since the day she found out, and I told her I have friends on line who do what I do and there are groups out there to join, so there is a seed planted, just needs some water.

So enough about me, so girls and even you guys what are your goals as a CD or maybe you have reached your goal, but lets here what your goals are.

~Tina~

[Cyndi06]

Right now, just a dude in ladies duds

have not gone "over the top"

passing would probably take an architect....LOL.... and some very skilled craftspeople

[Sugar01]

To win the javelin toss at the Olympics in my 5 inch heels!

[Marla S]

Ultimate goal: Normality.
Meaning to live a life with CDing, like a life without CDing.
Being always the same person for myself and others in any situation.
I think I have partly reached it in those moments when I interact with people but don't think about CDing. These moments are by far to rare now to speak of normality, and I don't know if it is possible to come there at all.
I do my best to find out.

[Suzie S.]

Hi Tina! What a great question! I think my goal has been reached. To be able to express a feminine side of my self. I am in the closet to everyone but my accepting wife, and no plans to go much further than that. I do enjoy looking the best I can when I dress, but know I will probably not pass too well. I am happy where I am right now. I don't know if, in the future my goals will change. Someday I may like to get out enfemme to see if I may enjoy it, but not right now. All the best,:D

[Casey Morgan]

My goals are to find my own expression with clothes, to drop the last of my masks with family and at work, and to get out and about with other people. Right now I'm just a birl/goy who dresses 24/7 in mixed clothing, although the women's clothes I wear mostly look like men's. I'm in a transgender support group, so that's a start anyway.

[Kali]

I wish I could answer this question.

I sit here this morning in a nice casual skirt and top which would be unremarkable on most women. Freshly painted fingernails and plans to paint my toenails shortly. Long hair brushed out and left loose an the comforting feel of long, dangly earrings brusing my neck. The comforting weight of the forms which fill out my bra and give my top the right lines. The feel of freshly shaved legs under my skirt.

I would love to be able to go out and grab a light breakfast, but I would have to change and I simply don't want to. I'm too comfrtable, too relaxed. But I have no chance of passing ismply because I break the golden rule; I would draw attention to myself because of things that I can't change.

My partner is incredibly supportive of my dressing; if she wasn't I wouldn't do it. We shop together, she buys me surprise girly gifts and she accepts mefor who I am. But one of the things she loves about me is my beard and chest hair, so I wouldn't consider shaving either. (Not to mention that I've had spots on my chest shaved for ECG leads and the hair starts growing back and itching incredibly in about 24 hours).

I don't wish to be a woman; if I had to choose I'd say I'd like to look more feminine but I think only because I love being dressed and would like to be able to go out in the world regardless of appearance. And unless society changes significantly that's not going to happen.

[Teresa Amina]

The "goal" is to "Be". Now what "Be" really means is the question; I suppose it means that I want to be good enough with voice and presentation to be accepted as Teresa, not some guy dressed up as Teresa. Subtle but huge difference, between "he really looks good as a woman" and "what do you mean that's a guy?:eek: "

[MarinaTwelve200]

My stated goal (or excuse) I have used since I started was "To SEE what I would have looked like as a woman". Somehow I never could quite "visulize" or "see" myself even when dressed--It became sort of an obsession----Till a few years ago when I decided to go all our, so to speak, And I was finally able to "see" what I looked like .

But really I think I do it for for the "rush", the turn-on effect, and ,most importantly, "The vacation from me", de-stressing/relaxing effect. It may have started as the "curiosity" stated above, but I think the discovered effects below have kept me IN the CD camp, even after the curiosity goal had been realized.

[Karren H]

My goal is simple .... to wear womens clothes... silly... and where I'm I going? To the mall.... Where else? That's my plan and I'm sticking with it....

Karren

[susie bear]

My goal is to feel comfortable wearing what ever I want anywhere any time. Like so many of us I could never pass and don't want to. I like wearing certin female things. It would be nice if there were no restrictions on what "men" vs "women" wear. If you like it and it feels good go for it. Too bad it won't happen in my time.

Love to all,

Susie Bear

[Staci G]

To find the key to the closet and escape. Tina I am right there with you. Although the only ones tat know about my crossdressing and have seen me fully dressed (except SA,s and such) is my daughter and my niece both of which are supportive. My long term goal is to lose the way too extra weight and get closer freedom

[SherriePall]

Since I have already been out in public maybe a half dozen times in the past couple of years, my goal is to go out more often and, as Teresa Amina said, have people ask in shock, "What do you mean that's a guy?"
I have kept them guessing (I hope) in the past, but total disbelief is better.

[Kahlan51]

Lets see. Up the ante as far as quality goes especially in the breast form and wig department. Go over to Vancouver to CD group. Go on a Cruise en femme. More shoes of course. Have a couple of CD and GG friends. MMmm
this is a good post really got me thinking Thanks Kahlan

[Amy Hepker]

This is really a tuff one for me as I do have a life as a male and I want to have a life as a female also. I am living 2 lives as per say. In the Summer I want to be my Male side and in the Winter I want to and have the urdge to dress female. I do get the urdges to dress in the Summer, but not to the extent I do in the Winter. I think I get really bored in the Winter and depressed and Dressing brings me out of it. I do feel great when Cding although I am still in the closet and don't know if I will ever get to come out. I have been to local meetings and I really enjoy them, but I don't know if I will have the time in the Summer to do it as my job and Drag Racing will take up most of my time.

[PaulaJaneThomas]

So enough about me, so girls and even you guys what are your goals as a CD or maybe you have reached your goal, but lets here what your goals are.

World domination :D :devil:

[Kate Simmons]

I'm comfortable either way, Tina, so I don't have any goals per se. I just kind of make it up as I go along. Seems to keep things more interesting that way for me. Plus the fact that I'm unpredictable even with myself sometimes.:heehee: ;) :battingeyelashes:

[marie354]

My goals... To be able ro dress in whatever I want, whenever I want... Publicly.
I've already made a couple of steps...
I've taken that first walk around the block... At night only so far.
I've met with another CD in my home and we dressed and talked the night away.
Next step... To go out in public somewhere, maybe a restaurant or supper club... I don't want to go out just to a bar... A nice meal with a friend or two, or a shopping adventure. Maybe just a movie.
Who knows where I'll go from there.

Nice thread Tina. Good food for thought.

[Tina B.]

I like the question, but coming up with an honest answer is not so easy. I live in a very excepting house, my wife is a great supporter in what ever I do, as long as I do it at home. No way would she be seen in public with me in a dress. I don't look bad in a dress for an old guy, just not going to pass a woman, so I don't blame her. It's a small town and she is well known here.
But Iwould love to go to one of the great outtings like the one in Euerka Springs,Ark. I picked that one because they advertise a lot of outside activitys. I love getting outside in a full skirt on a breezey day. beyond that, I am content here in this 4 bedroom closet. But being in a small town, I wish I had better shopping!
Tina B.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Currently dressing consists of being completly en femme in the closet with my SO's 100% support. :happy: Future goals are to join a tri-ess group and actually leave my house en femme, and to drop a dress size or 2. Jocelyn

[JoAnnDallas]

Over the last two years my goals keep changing. At first it was to go out in the daytime. Did it, I went for a drive. Then it was to be seen en fem and interact with others. Did that too, I stopped and filled up the SUV at a gas station. Then attended HEF2006 last year and not only meet other Cder's but walked around en fem in a public Hotel. Now I have joined the local Tri-Ess chapter. So far I have met all my goals. I know there are other goals out there to conquer. Just have to take them one at a time. LOL

[Joy Carter]

I just want to be friends with as many girls/boyz/gurls as I can. And to experience as many a real life experiences as I can. :2c:

[Sierra Evon]

Great question +? , good thread , well as it is for me , Sierra I'm at my goal its all really just me !!!! " A young girl , in mind and spirit" I just love love to be and look/dress like a girl as much as I can. I live alone no S.O. , I feel at ease with my TG side and just seeking to live my life as who and what I am , I had been repressed in my life for years , had to stay hidden like alot of others here, all water under the bridge now !!!!, bottom line is : Sierra's here to stay , for good .... " Yep !!!!, thats me !!!, :D

[sissystephanie]

My goal is to feel comfortable wearing what ever I want anywhere any time. Like so many of us I could never pass and don't want to. I like wearing certin female things. It would be nice if there were no restrictions on what "men" vs "women" wear. If you like it and it feels good go for it. Too bad it won't happen in my time.

Love to all,

Susie Bear

Amen, Susie Bear. I CD because I like to, the same as Karren and others. No desire here to "be" a girl, just a desire to wear her clothes!:heehee: If I could get away with it my entire wardrobe would be feminine!:love:

Sissy
More Girl than man

[Phoebe Reece]

I've met most of my original goals. I not only have accepted who and what I am, I am proud to be that unique person that I am. I feel comfortable when crossdressed, going out and interacting with all sorts of people. I go pretty much anywhere dressed without any discomfort about it - restauarants, malls, shops, hardware stores, museums, the zoo, movie theaters, public transport, you name it. I have many crossdressing friends and get out and about with them on a regular basis. I am active in outreach to educate others about crossdressing through participation in college class presentations and by speaking honestly and freely with those that express curiosity when they encounter me in public. I do what I can to help my fellow crossdressers find peace with their situations by actively supporting activities of my local Tri-Ess chapter and by being a member of various forums.

My wife has known about my crossdressing for more than 30 years. She doesn't mind what I do and to some degree encourages me to do it. Except for Halloween and other costume affairs, she doesn't go out with me when I am dressed. I would love for her to go out with me dressed at other times. That is one goal I am still working on.

The other goal I have open is to find more time to get out. Although I am retired and can dress pretty much when I want to, my free time doesn't always match up with when my friends can get out. Although I sometimes go out alone, it's much more fun to have one or more friends along.

[RobertaFermina]

I'm not really sure of anything about this, though, it is so new and beyond my language to express. Here is my present best-effort:

To explore myself as the more-feminine personality that is unleashed and expanding each time I CD.

To take me places, and buy me things, and explore society and the world from my new perspective.

To add feminine balance to the corporate personality "Bob+Roberta+?", or to complete Bob's emotional growth.

I think I'm headed to a more androgynous, gender-blended place, with access to the masculine Bob and feminine Roberta as needed.

[Sandi C]

Don't know about long-term goals , for now I love being my wifes girlfriend.

[Sara Kat]

I'd just like to be able to cross seamlessly between the boundaries of masculinity and femininity whenever the mood suits me. I'd just like to be able to live between the boundaries of the two genders.

[Raychel]

What a great question Tina.

I guess my goal for now would be to be able to fully dress whenever I wanted (at home). Now I can dress in lingerie almost anytime I want. But my wife has very strong issues about anything further. I really don't have any desire to make the venture outside at this time. But you never know what will happen down the road.

[Tina Dixon]

Well I must say some great response to this thread, I know you are still in shock that it was me who started it, but I often think of whats down the road as Tina, but don't let this thread end there are still a lot of you people out there so lets here those goals or for some dreams.

[Deidra Cowen]

I'll confess, my goal is to be passable...but with no surgery, hormones or any of that. Don't want to transistion but would luv to be passable when I get dressed up and go out. I mean voice, appearance and mannerisms.

[Julie York]

I don't have any goals with CD stuff. I am not even sure what I am doing let alone what direction it points in.

But there's a little bit of me would like to "have done" an outragious tranny night out being outragious and hilarious. Then again..I'd like to "have done" a bank robbery and fly an F16 so maybe it isn't a valid dream.

[susie evans]

my goal has been reached and feel fortunate to have reached it now i just like wearing womens colthes going places having funn chatting with other girls and learning more every day i can and life

:love: susie

[Victoria Anne]

Tina this is a good question as I am still finding myself. I can say that my wife is 100% supportive,I would of course like to be able to dress as I see fit and not as society feels I should dress. I do have plans to go out enfemme soon and hope that it will only be the beginning of great things to come in my life as Victoria Anne as I feel that Victoria is who I really am ,she deserves to be free and she will be in time with the continued support of my wife and all the lovely ladies here.

[Wendy me]

my goal in crossdressing ???? to be accepted and understood ... for who i am as a person and not be judged by what i wear...their are two outwardly persons here both a male and female side together they make one person each as incomplete with out the outher...

[JenniferR771]

I would like to earn my wife's trust and get her to accept Jennifer--and have a little fun with the cd idea. She knows, but is not supporting. Today she was angry because she found tiny traces of makeup on the bathroom counter.
Tri Ess in mid-Michigan meets on the 2nd Saturday of the month, Tina. Private message me for details, and questions.
I will be driving to northern Michigan up 131 in a few days. Anybody want to meet for a cup of coffee?
Junnifer R

[Sherlyn]

If a goal is to be reached ....I feel myself more as a female impersonater...love to get into the biz....there was a possiblity a few months back ..but things didn't work out ...more options have arisen .. locally... but iffy...never really thought I should be a female...although at times I fool even myself ...I go out more and more as Sher ..it just seems natural.. but oddly enough Ive no desire for full time... and my clothing ..its just the outer wear for this inner soul I have called Sher ...:)

[sandyohio]

my goal to go out, i got to do that last week i gues my next one is to join a group where i can be with others and just talk and have a fun time.#2 just make more freinds here.

[ubokvt]

Personal growth, to learn a little bitt more about who I am, to explore new or previously denied feelings, to see the world differently, to push the limits, to tweek the nose rule bound fudy dudys, and most off all not have an unlived life like soooo many. Karen Hutton is my heroine. thumb your nose and live large.:tongueout

[Colleentg]

Wow, you all make me feel different!

I'm going all the way. I decided that some time ago and now have better resources to make it there. Where am I now? A passable girl with blooming breasts and male plumbing! Yuch! My psychologist says too, I'm ready for it. But that doesn't mean I dont have empathy for all of you. Yeah, I went thru all the CD'ing, closet'ing and such. But I envy women too much to be part time. I love wearing clothes that express my inner feelings. Gosh, way back when, trying on my sister's tights that first time, it was a sexual turn-on. They felt so **** good! I wondered why I couldn't have that pleasure constantly - be a girl! After two failed marriages, well, I had to make a change. My 2nd ex was initially supportive, but grew tired of it and made it extremely difficult for me to enjoy it. It hurt bad. Plus, I was in contact with a few other transsexuals and I was more envious! There was only one thing to do. Become single again and change my life, lifestyle and personal self. It's still a long road, but its a never ending goal.

[Kathryn Philips]

I would like to look something like this at least once in my life. Just finding a bit difficult to to make it happen due to very unacepting wife who is very possesive of my free time.

[Kelsy]

my goal is to get out and enjoy it!! To be totally comfortable with who I am and not feel the need to be closeted away! descretly of course:D


Jennifer:happy:

[insearchofme]

My goal is to increase my clothing after having to purge for a job move. I also want to meet with other girls that live near me and would love to go to a Tri Ess meeting sometimes (Jennifer I'm in Mid Michigan also), and go to a club that is trans friendly.

[trannie T]

My goal is to continue doing what I'm doing, only doing it more. I am attempting to get out more, I enjoy being out in a dress but I only do it a few times a year. I have no excuses for not doing it more often.

[Tasha Meredith]

Loose 5 pounds --> Recover from summer '06 purge --> Join more women's groups on campus --> Join Tri-Ess and get out in the world --> Volunteer with women's groups events --> Join additional CD groups in the area --> Do more FFS research --> Start financing FFS --> FFS (not hormones or SRS)

...Oh, and somewhere along the line, do a little dressing now and then. :D Maybe that is more a TG goal-oriented list. Terms subject to change.

[Glenda58]

What were my goals in cross dressing first to out and be accepted as a woman. Then to going shopping and try on cloths and shoes having someone bring me things to try on. Have a makeover (need to do that) Meet new friends while dressed. Go to a nice restaurant and have dinner by myself and be treated like a lady. Have gone to the movies by myself and had the door held open for me. So I have pretty much done all that I wanted to do. And because of this forum if I feel like doing something I will do it there is no stopping me now. Only this cold winter and snow is holding me back. Can't wait till spring for the new cloths and less coats.

[Tina Dixon]

I would like to earn my wife's trust and get her to accept Jennifer--and have a little fun with the cd idea. She knows, but is not supporting. Today she was angry because she found tiny traces of makeup on the bathroom counter.
Tri Ess in mid-Michigan meets on the 2nd Saturday of the month, Tina. Private message me for details, and questions.
I will be driving to northern Michigan up 131 in a few days. Anybody want to meet for a cup of coffee?
Junnifer R
I have talked to Sanda on the phone, and I still need to be interviewed by a member before I can join, but it still a problem to get out, and the meeting are two hours away, but it is still a goal.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I'll confess, my goal is to be passable...but with no surgery, hormones or any of that. Don't want to transistion but would luv to be passable when I get dressed up and go out. I mean voice, appearance and mannerisms.

Meeee toooo!!!!!!!

[CarolDonna]

My sole goal is to be happy with myself. I am what I am.

[suchacutie]

I too am delighted to be my wife's girlfriend. I've not been dressing very long, so even though I have learned a lot, I have a lot more to learn, so the immediate goal is to be able to know enough about Tina to be able to transition from one gender to the other smoothly. She needs a voice yet, more make-up ability, and probably a few more clothes. But she really needs her own personality, and that seems to be a hard one. I need to know tina's perspective on things, how does she really want to dress, what does she like to do that is hers and hers alone, etc. I think the easy stuff has been done, and now it's on to the next level :).

tina

[Joni Beauman]

Just to be - dressed en femme, or not, and it not matter. Joni

[kerrianna]

I've never been able to set goals, in anything I do. It's why I flounder through life just drifting wherever the tide takes me, trying to stay afloat. I've tried learning goal-setting, over and over, but it's just not me never has been. So I just try to get through the day and enjoy the moment. I envy people who can set goals and move towards them, like my partner. I can't even get to the dreaming part. Sad in some ways, liberating in others I guess. :straightface:

[Tina Dixon]

Wow so many diffrent goals, and it's good to here from some of you gals that I know a lot of people really look up to.

Lets see if we can keeps this going for a bit more.

~Tina~

[gennee]

I'm happy the way things are now. I'm content with who I am. Wearing women's clothing is liberating.

Gennee

:happy:

[sparks]

Closure

[Sweet Jane]

My sole goal is to be happy with myself. I am what I am.

Hi

I have no goals....maybe this should be a goal for me too?

[Teresa Amina]

World domination :D :devil:

Are you sure you don't live at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave, Washington D.C.?:D

[Tasha Meredith]

Oh. I forgot to throw in "practice female voice" in my list. That would nice to do someday.

[Rita Knight]

Hi Tina and Everyone,
I congratulate Tina for starting this thread and for explaining her issues twards it. I have found on my time on this forum that way too many gurlz are deep in the closet. I hope this encourages all of you to go out of your homes in safety and comfort. I can not over emphasize the importance of you physically meeting other CDs.

As for myself, as a CD I basically live in what I will term as a "CD ghetto." I only go out to CD events and have a fair amount of friends. I rarely go mainstream. I do not think I will ever pass. I know I can tone things down. However, just wearing a wig and powdering over the foundation are giveaways to my dressing. However, I know I look good. I also have to get my financial house in order.

[Jesse69]

My CD goal is to stay a size 4 and to not buy much stuff anymore because I already have too much women's clothes!