Why I Will Never Purge

[Lovely Rita]

I know you should never say never, and I know that everyone has a right and their own reasons for purging, which I will always respect, but I will never go that route and below are some of the reasons why.

At leaste for me there is no reason in the world for me to purge. I cannot see the benefit on any level.

I am speaking for me alone and no one else. Again, I can totally understand why some others feel the need and I support them because it is their choice and theirs alone.

As for me, I feel totally right about my cross dressing from every stand point. Beginning with the fact that it is a very important part of me which I do not feel compelled to deny and no longer have to hide from my SO. I have unlearned all the guilt ridden reasons that could possibly compel me to purge. It has been a long road, to say the leaste.

Today, I feel empowered by cross dressing instead of the misfit we can be made to feel. I feel complete instead guilty. I feel wonderful instead of ashamed. Instead of hating the Rita in me I totally love her.

I unlearned most of those things that society and cultures inculcate us with and that contribute to our feeling bad about ourselves. I thought hard and long about who I am and why I may not have been comfortable in the past with the person I am and I have to the best of my ability thrown all those reasons away. It was not just a decision but a process of self introspection and truth. Today I feel great about who I am and love the journey. I love myself and I believe I can love others more as well.

My heroes trully did wear Nylons and continue to do so.
I look up to these heroes today. I admire our sisters who wear dresses in the face of adversity. I love everything feminine and totally respect woman and all their accoutriments. I could never look down on something I consider so very beautiful.

On the spiritual side of things I do not feel like the outlaw we some times are made to feel by others or by our selves. I am convinced that I am not doing anything wrong and my conscience is clear. I am not saying that everyone should or will feel the same and I respect those who don't, but I am happy to share my view for the remote possibility that it may help others.

I love my cross dressing and feel blessed to have the need to express my self en femme. It is priceless. I do not hurt anyone with it and it brings me both pleasure and joy. The pleasure part you can all understand, but the joy comes from being fully me.

I am completely happy about how God made me and hope that some day others like me will also.

Thank you for letting me share

[Colleentg]

I agree whole-heartedly with you.

I have purged twice in my younger years and regretted it so strongly after! I had such a good wardrobe the 2nd time, and an even better one the third! Third? Yeah, I purged a third time by circumstance, because I left a very abusive relationship - ran away from it, literally! I l had to leave my entire wardrobe behind, whereas it must have cost me over $5,000 to build up to that point! There was nothing I could do to take it, much less try to get it back, fearing what he would do to me! So he's either wearing it himself and masturbating or he found another 'sucker' to live with him and gave 'her' my things! Darn, I miss my corsets and thigh-high boots!

No, don't ever purge. If you have to refrain from it for one reason or another, put it away, out of sight-out of mind, mostly. Then later on, you can go back and feel ever so good you saved it.

[LindaTS]

Here I am at 68 and can say I've never pruged. Thank God for that. I can imagine how much money it cost some of you girls over the years. From here on out the only thing I'll purge is my leftover male clothes.

[marie354]

Every time I think about all the clothes that I have lost from the purges I've done in the past, I just want to put my head in my hands and cry. I could have filled an entire full sized walk-in closet with everything I had in the past and what I have now. I'll never do it again... It's a big waste of time and money to try to shed that part of my life because it never has gone away and never will.
I no longer feel the guilt that I used to so I'm going to just move forward from now on.
I cannot change the past, but I can change the present to make the future better.

[bgirl]

Yeah! I've purged about 5 times in ten years. A lot of money lost... wish I just stored the clothes when I felt like purgeing!

Only 5? I wish! I think we should start Purgers Annonamous. Where we take twelve steps in our femme clothes and if it feels good we wear them! And if it doesn't feel good, we save them until it does.

[Deanna2]

I've never had the urge to purge. I'm quite the opposite. My wardrobe continues to grow and grow.

[kaitlin]

AMEN Rita !! Very well put. Kaitlin

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

As for me my purging days are behind me. I purged at least a dozen times and wish someone would have told me to put my clothes in storage because it is expensive to replace all the shoes and clothes I've tossed. I am at a place in my relationship with my wife that is pretty good and our kids are all grown so I feel I can keep my only "vice". I really like Sandra Michelle and she need not ever go away again. Loving life!!!

[sparks]

Over the years I've purged and purged and purged. Later I purged some more. Yep Been there stopped doing it. My stash is so small I just decided to hold onto them.
Gotta admit I was close to doing it again. Now I want to buy heels where oh where would I put them. My box and hidie hole won't support them.

[tommi]

What good business idea Closet for the prevention of the purging Cder. storage shipping and handling included:D

[trannie T]

I'm too stingy to purge. I still have the first pair of panties that I bought. Wish that they still fit.

[sterling12]

Your thoughts are always appreciated! So very well stated and to the point.

I too have never purged. Besides being wasteful, it accomplishes nothing! You can throw out all your clothes, pitch the wigs, dump the shoes, flush all the makeup down the toilet.....you'll still be A CD and transgendered.

Guilt is counter-productive. If we spend too much time in pointless angst, feeling like furtive "creatures", we miss endless opportunities. Life should have a lot better quality than that!

I try each day to do the same cognitive work that Rita is talking about. It's called "ACCEPTANCE". I would hope that each day Joanie gets just a little bit better, learns something new, and travels a few steps further down that wonderful path we call life.

I'll take The Pledge too. I promise to attempt to never-ever go crazy and throw my stuff out. If things get impossible, I'll take it down to The Hospice Thrift Store......give some other Gurl a chance to enjoy it! Some gurl who can appreciate our wonderful gift.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[susie evans]

no need to purge cost to much and takes to long to get going agin and don't want to waste time when i could be dressed or shopping :heehee:

susie

[Tina Dixon]

I have in the past, but I never had what I do now, wig and forms, but I came close a few weeks back, but I pulled through.

[Wendy me]

i said i would never purge , thought it was crazy to purge... me no never or so i thought i did not long ago... knowing full well it was wrong... i got caught in that why do this thingy.... even thought abought cutting my hair.....so never say never.......