trying to quit

[jenny53]

i just spent the last 9 days away from my wife and had the oppertunity to dress when i felt like it. the funny thing is i just didn't feel like getting all dolled up. i have tried quiting before only having to buy new clothes as i had given all my fem stuff to charity. i am not sure if i should purge again or wait it out. i know this is not the usual stuff talked about in this forum i guess i am asking can i outgrow this fetish. thank you for any help i can get.

[Karren H]

Seriously doubt you will outgrow it if anything it will get stronger as you get older.... Store your fem things and take a break... It will come back.. Mine always does.. The last time with a vengence!!!

Love Karren

[Sierra Evon]

my guess on that is , if you felt good being able and thus knowing that you could get all dolled up at any time , but did'nt , my just be a phase for you , how long have you gone before without dressing up ? , how strong are your urges ? , do you get antsy or up set easy if you cannot dress ? , all factors to analyize , I'm no Dr.Phil , but hope this helps ya !!!!!!!!

[amanda barber]

i guess i am asking can i outgrow this fetish. thank you for any help i can get.

No. It may ebb from time to time but not go away.

[Charleen]

DON'T PURGE!!!!
I have found it comes and goes. Just went through a spell where I was totally drab! Even to the undies!:eek: This has gone on for the better part of a couple of months 'till last week, and I'm back! This falls right in line with what I've read on the boards. It might come and go, but NEVER goes away! Hang in there!
Love and xxxx, Lily

[JeanneF]

Karren's right. It doesn't go away. You may have just had an off week (the off times can last months, sometimes years for people), or maybe it was just the time of year.

It's like the mafia..."Just when I thought that I was out, they pull me back in."

[marie354]

When I was younger, say 30 years ago, the mood would come and go and I'd purge from guilty feelings after a dressup session. Bad move on my part. I always had to start buying new things again when the urge came back.
If I still had all of the things that I've purged over the years, I'd be in heaven. I lost a lot of really nice outfits.
I've now put most all of my guy things in Walmart bags in the back of the closet, so if I feel like I gotta purge, I'll just throw out a couple of those bags.

Don't worry too much, it's part of who you are and not something you will ever be rid of. Enjoy it whenever you feel the need and never feel that it is wrong.

[krisla]

Been there done that do not purge, it goes on vacation but always comes back.

Krisla

[Kate Simmons]

Like the other girls have said, just put your stuff on the shelf for a while Jenny. That's what I am doing. I just need a break for awhile, so I'm basically taking a vacation from my femme self to re-discover my guy side. I've felt this coming for awhile now. No purge involved, just taking a break, that's all. The razor is never that far away if I decide I need to go back.:happy:

[Sweet Jane]

Hi Jenny

Right now I'm feeling like that all the time..I rarely get all dressed up with my face on. I never regularly dressed fully anyway. No need to toss your clothes, just dress when the mood grabs you.....the urge hits and I dress, and then I may have huge opportunities to dress and I can't be bothered...often lately I can't be bothered, but I stilll keep my clothes....As silly as dressing is, when the desire to dress strikes, it seems like the best thing in the world to be doing

[loki_uk]

Seriously doubt you will outgrow it if anything it will get stronger as you get older.... Store your fem things and take a break... It will come back.. Mine always does.. The last time with a vengence!!!

Love Karren

That's the scary thing, you grow up thinking you'll grow out of it, how wrong can you be....

[Angie G]

Jenny stow the stuff don't purge it will be back bet on it hun :hugs:
Angie

[Tina B.]

63 years old, but that is alright, I think I may out grow it myself, I almost did a few times over the years, but some how sooner or latters I seem to grow right back into it. And yes you can think you are "cured" but even having been "cured" for up to about 3 years, it came back, now two closets, and a full chest of drawers of girly stuff, I for one am glad it did. find a safe place for your goodies, if it doesn't come back you can always get rid of the stuff at any time, and if you do purge, well a new outfit is always as close as the mall!
Tina B.

[VERONICARH]

Jenny, I have been doing this for 30+ years and it comes and goes. Don't purge you will be sorry.

[melissaK]

PURGE. Do it now! Strike while the irons hot! . . .

It won't help you outgrow this, it never does (I have a track records to prove it like all the girls here) BUT in three months, or six months or a year when the feeling's back and overwhelming your every thought, you can go buy shiny fresh new stuff!!

You'll probably be a different weight then anyway and will need new clothes. And you shouldn't be keeping make-up that long anyway - so i hear. And nail polish caps get like welded on with time (at least in the desert SW they do).

Of course any "classic" clothes, you know, basic blacks, whites, A lines, pearl necklaces, you maybe should hang onto those. And shoes, you can't ever have too many shoes so keep those too. . . oh heck. DON'T PURGE - keep it all. When you come back to it and you will, you can sort the old stuff then and have those "what was I thinking when I bought that" thoughts as you make a new shopping list. :heehee:

[marie354]

If you really want to get rid of your clothes.... Why not give them away here like some others have when they re-new their wardrobe.
Just list the sizes you have and maybe include some pictures.
There is a setion here for trading, buying, selling, etc.

[jenny53]

thanks for all the advice i have purged a few times and bought ew things again.but shopping can be fun lol hope you all have a great day and thanks again

[Erica Leigh]

Seriously doubt you will outgrow it if anything it will get stronger as you get older.... Store your fem things and take a break... It will come back.. Mine always does.. The last time with a vengence!!!

Love Karren

:yt: I love your vengance, Karen, but really, just put it allin box and put it away for now, confusion is what makes us figure it all out...one day you might say "I need this side of me". i know i do.

[Peggy55]

That's the scary thing, you grow up thinking you'll grow out of it, how wrong can you be....

That is one of the things that scares me about dressing. I like doing it but struggle with the ramifacations. And everyone I think without exception says it will NEVER go away. It's like, Oh my god what have I done? I should have never tried on that first pair of panties!

[wabnaok]

I have to agree with most of what has been said here. Over the last year, I have been able to wear feminine undergarments because my wife is supportive and most easily hidden under male attire in public. I have noticed during a time period when I was limited or prevented to wear them that the urge was very strong.

[Glenda58]

No you can't out grow it. It will come back. Glenda been gone for about 6 weeks but I still have her things because I know she be back. Still looking at things to buy new styles to try. And I live alone been doing this for 50+ years it always comes back.

[Marcie Sexton]

For those who work out its called hitting the wall...you feel like you've went as far as you can go...Luckly I've not reached that point, but did when I went through boot camp...Never fear...It'll come back...you'll find ways to go further and be better than you have yet...

Hang in there hon...the girl in you remains...just taking a nap for now...

[Wendy me]

as far as i know the only way to stop coding is to stop living ... as long as you breath you will have that CD bug in you even if you think it went away.....

[Lisa Golightly]

It depends whether it is a mere fetish for you... If it is then, yes. If, however, it is deeper than fetish then I doubt it. Still I wish you all the best. :)

[mona lisa]

...particuarly if you go to start up again and have nothing to wear. (I am in a similar situation myself so I speak firsthand here.) Store the stuff away so you have it when the seasons change again and you want it. I wish I had done that.

[MJ]

i just spent the last 9 days away from my wife and had the oppertunity to dress when i felt like it. the funny thing is i just didn't feel like getting all dolled up. i have tried quiting before only having to buy new clothes as i had given all my fem stuff to charity.
i am not sure if i should purge again or wait it out. i know this is not the usual stuff talked about in this forum i guess i am asking can i outgrow this fetish. thank you for any help i can get.

please give your self time, it won't go away. ok you might last two or three months but your cding will come back, and it will be stronger than the last time, i wish you luck , but don't purge

[SandyR]

Find a nice plastic Bag and store them away. I have purged twice over the last few years, one time lasted almost 6 months. But it always comes back. Last week while on the road I had 3 nights to play, just did not feel like it....Now tomorrow, its skirt time!!!!!

Huggs....

SandyR

[onebadgirl_4u2]

Store your stuff you'll be back!

[Roxi Loh]

I would love to quit if I could. It would greatly uncomplicate things. I don't see that happening. I purged for about 15 years but came back even more determined. If you find patch, gum, or hypnosis that makes it happen sign me up. Until then, its lipstick, powder and paint girls.

[jayseedee]

Everyone has said it all with regard to your purging and stopping but if you want deeper reasons you might be interested to read my yahoo 360 blog. jayseedee

[Sheila]

hun I am only a GG but if my cdr had the urge to purge I would get in there first, put em in a suitcase and store them in the loft, like the gurls say ........... maybe not today but one day the feeling will return and if they are stored at least you are not totally starting from scratch especially if you have some things that are really expensive.

hope this helps hun

Jess