RobertaFermina
02-18-2007, 05:59 AM
A month ago, my daughter told my ex carelessly about my cding. She said it was an "oopsie."
ex: your dad has no feminine side, no respect for feminine
daughter: oh mom, dad is pretty cool about that, he even dresses up as a woman......
Oh well. Ex tells my mom, then a few members in my family.
Saturday, I was going to a family gathering and had to wipe-off my nail polish. I decided not to and to let he chips fall where they may. I even brought pictures from my last outing.
The subject of my nails came up, and I owned up to it and shared my pix. I got positive reaction from my sisters and nephews. They had questions - are you gay? do you want to be a woman (who wrote that script?)? and I answered them all. No. No. Proud to be a man, so happy and free as a woman.
Turns out they had something about it from my mom or ex...so I was simply filling in the blanks with my truth and what is positive about it for me. Also the pictures showed how beautiful and happy I am, and that went a long way to put them at ease.
We went shopping and left the pictures on the table.
My brothers and brothers-in-law arrived after we left, and were looking at the pictures. My nephew noticed that some were accepting and some were saying not-very-nice things, so he gathered up the pictures and put them back in the envelope, and told his mom what he saw. Having one family member with such thoughtfulness and concern makes it so easy to not-worry about the few who are uncomfortable or rude about it.
The best part is I don't have to hide who I am or what I do. Its too much trouble and so often the ruin of many a fabulous nail polishing !
So not my sisters and gay nephew see me as a great shopping buddy !
As for those with unkind responses, I am prepared for the other shoe to drop. Hope it is a size 10!
Another successful OUTing!
:rose: Roberta :rose:
ex: your dad has no feminine side, no respect for feminine
daughter: oh mom, dad is pretty cool about that, he even dresses up as a woman......
Oh well. Ex tells my mom, then a few members in my family.
Saturday, I was going to a family gathering and had to wipe-off my nail polish. I decided not to and to let he chips fall where they may. I even brought pictures from my last outing.
The subject of my nails came up, and I owned up to it and shared my pix. I got positive reaction from my sisters and nephews. They had questions - are you gay? do you want to be a woman (who wrote that script?)? and I answered them all. No. No. Proud to be a man, so happy and free as a woman.
Turns out they had something about it from my mom or ex...so I was simply filling in the blanks with my truth and what is positive about it for me. Also the pictures showed how beautiful and happy I am, and that went a long way to put them at ease.
We went shopping and left the pictures on the table.
My brothers and brothers-in-law arrived after we left, and were looking at the pictures. My nephew noticed that some were accepting and some were saying not-very-nice things, so he gathered up the pictures and put them back in the envelope, and told his mom what he saw. Having one family member with such thoughtfulness and concern makes it so easy to not-worry about the few who are uncomfortable or rude about it.
The best part is I don't have to hide who I am or what I do. Its too much trouble and so often the ruin of many a fabulous nail polishing !
So not my sisters and gay nephew see me as a great shopping buddy !
As for those with unkind responses, I am prepared for the other shoe to drop. Hope it is a size 10!
Another successful OUTing!
:rose: Roberta :rose: