The weirdest thing

[Theresa(TGirl)]

First of all, sorry if this is in the wrong thread.

Second of all, the other day when I went down to my room, my garbage was like half full of my girl things, including my thongs, which I fished out and returned to what remained of my stash, the oddest thing is, I don't remember throwing them out, and I don't think my mom did either. And my mom still hasn't said anything to me about because I came in from school that day, and the can was empty, but the drawer I use as a stash was still like it was that morning.

I was and am still confused over what the hell happened.

[shoegirl]

That would drive me nuts just thinking about it, wish I knew what to say to you.

[Theresa(TGirl)]

You see what I mean, it ain't like I'm gonna just go up to her and ask her if she saw a skirt in the trash, cause that wouldn't look good for me in like 3 or 4 different ways.

A) Why would I be asking about a skirt?
B) Was that skirt mine?
C) Why did you have those bras?
D) What about those panties?

You see...

[GinaVegas]

So, I take it that your mom doesn't know?

[Valerie Nicole]

Odd...very odd indeed. I have no idea what to say...unless of course you believe in ghosts or the supernatural. Then I just blame them.

[shoegirl]

I'm lucky that I really started dressing just before I moved out a few years ago so I only had to keep it hidden for a short time but still I hid my stuff like it was my super hero identity.

[Stephenie S]

Well, she knows now! There is no other explanation, is there? Whether or not you ask her, or whether or not you inform her that you do not want her to throw out anything she finds in your room, she knows you had them and she obviously doesn't want you to have them. She threw them out. I think you know this on some level. Why don't you just have a talk with her. She's your MOTHER for goodness sake. She loves you. Just talk to her. She may not aprove of what you are doing, but at least you won't have to hide it any more. And you can let her know not to throw out any more of your stuff.

Stephenie

[amanda barber]

I was and am still confused over what the hell happened.

Nothing to be confused about, someone in the house stole your stuff and threw it away.

[Delila]

I had this happen to me a couple of times while living at home. Come home from school everything is fine go out for a few and everything disappears. My mom was always quiet about sneaking the things away never mentioned it nor did I just figured that was for the best. You are probably best just saving what you can and finding a new spot to hide you belongings. The best advice that I can give is that if you are going to hide what you are hide it well and change where you hide it often.

[Paulacder]

Could be that Mom knows more than you think. This also could be her way of telling you that she disaproves. My advise is talk to her.:2c:

[Karren H]

Aliens... happens to a lot of us... visit at night and mess with our fem things.... your just lucky you weren't in them when they came....

"Aliens abduct local transvestite... photos at 11"

hehehe

love Karren

[Tina B.]

Poltergeist, those things can play heck with a wardrobe!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If it's not mom, there can be no other explanation. Karen is just being silly, there is no such thing as Aliens.
Tina B.

[Wendy me]

get a good job move out on your own problem solved...............

[Angela E.]

:alien: :alien: :alien: But seriously, she obviously knows and doesn`t approve.She also doesn`t know how to approach you about the subject and probably just wishes it would go away.My:2c: is just do nothing right now and see how things play out over the next few weeks.Odds are,she will say nothing because she doesn`t want to deal with it.The rest, as they say, is up to you.Good luck.:hugs: Angela.:bunny: :bunny: :GE: :bunny: :bunny:

[Wenda]

The girls have it right-- she has found them, and has nuked them. She is worried, afraid, not sure what to think. She is hoping that it is 'a phase' that you will pass through. She is very likely hoping that you are not gay. (Not because parents are inherently homophobic, but because they don't want their kids to face ongoing discrimination).
If dressing is a superficial thing for you, an experiment you can take or leave, then leave it, do your mom a favour, and don't bring lingerie into her house again. Store your stuff somewhere else. Give her a break.
If you honestly feel that dressing is fundamental to you, something that is a key part of who your are, then you should be honest (without sharing unneccessary details), and approach your mom tactfully, saying that some of your stuff has gone missing. Avoid painting her into any corners. Just be honest about your experience.
One rule: Ask for advice, get support. If you share with her that you have this 'need' to express yourself in other ways, and ask her if she knows of anyone else in the family... does she know anyone who may have experimented ... etc. Then LISTEN to what she says.
At the end of the day, as a parent who was concerned about CD'ing sons, this is the best advice I can give. Assume she loves you and her most important concern is your well-being. All the best. wenda.

[Stephenie S]

Dear Terri,

The above is excellent advice. You would do well to follow it.

Lovies,
Steph

[Katelyn]

There are two things I've learned:

1) Living with your parents gives you absolutly no privacy. the only way to ensure keeping your secret safe is either keep your belonging in a storage room (too much of a hassle), a safe deposit box, or find a really trustworthy girl friend to keep your stuff at her house. Unless you're home 24/7, your parents can and usually will go through your room and belongings.

2) You have the same amount of privacy in the Military. Your superiors like to do random room inspections to find any illegal drugs or weapons. It's very hard to hide stuff in a room when this happens.

In either case, kiss your fourth ammendment goodbye... if you're a U.S. citizen that is.

My Advice: Either come clean with your mom, or if you're like me, wait until you move out. Studio apartments are usually cheapest to rent. :D

[amanda barber]

Rent a storage unit for $30-$40 a month. Your stuff obviosly isn't safe in that house. Keep a minimum of possesions there untill you can move out.

[RachelDenise]

If you are committed to the lifestyle (and it may be too soon to tell), you need to talk with your mom or find a place not in the immediate area to keep your girl things. My mom found my stash and knew about it, but never threw it away. She left me a note and told me to do that! PS I never did, better hiding spots. We still haven't ever talked about that time and it has been quite a number of years ago.

[Ugly Michele]

This post is very disterbing to me, because reminds me of when my mother found my stash when I was still in H.S. She beat me bloody, till black and blue for many weeks, broke my nose and destroyed how I felt about myself. You would be much safer to put your stuff in storage and keep only few things well hidden at your moms house. She may hope you take her hint and stop which is a sad thing. Hope all works out for you.

Michele

[tommi]

Mine found things when I was younger even caught me in her halter top one day:eek: she never said anything but once left me a note saying she was willing to talk if I was 20 years have gone by and I still haven't. Shame on me
my mom has always been understanding she has an openly gay cousin.
You know your mom better than any of us ,feel around he rwith conversation
and see if she is willing to talk it is much easier to be in the open than stuck
in the closet trust me I've been a closet queen my whole life.:hugs:
Goodluck be honest and if she doesn't want it around then be accepting of
her wishes until you can afford to move out.

[Kristen Marie]

I suppose it's better than her taking one item each day or so, so you'd never know where they are going. That would drive me crazing......now where did I leave my bra???

[shoegirl]

This post is very disterbing to me, because reminds me of when my mother found my stash when I was still in H.S. She beat me bloody, till black and blue for many weeks, broke my nose and destroyed how I felt about myself. You would be much safer to put your stuff in storage and keep only few things well hidden at your moms house. She may hope you take her hint and stop which is a sad thing. Hope all works out for you.

Michele


oh no Michele that sounds awful and not fair at all.

I really don't get where alot of people are coming from on the board with the need to "come out" about dressing to everyone they know. I have no interest in doing so because I do this for me and while I would love to meet with people like you all dressed I want to keep it seperate from the rest of my life and thats my own choice.