did you have a more excepting wife/so than ur present one?

[vicky lee]

hi girls

me and the wife are currenty separated , but i would like to say

i was talking to my first ex wife about my cding and she is completely excepting. (why do you find out these things when its to late)
I did not talk about it to her she knew as much by the little things i left by her clothes in differant places in the closet, drawers not as she left them, you know the kind of thing.
so if only i was with my first wife still, makes you wonder
So what i would like to know if any of you remarried like me and fount ur first ex more excepting than your present?

or a g.f you wish you were still with that excepted more than ur present one?
i will be interested to know your views on this

[marie354]

Nope, not a one that I've had before had been more accepting than my current SO. It took 5 years for her to fully accept it, but she is the best.
Of course, at my age, I'd like to think that I've learned enough about myself and good relationships to keep it moving forward.
My first wife was only accepting to a point... She didn't want to see it.
The 2nd... She let me dress in front of her, but was totally turned off by it.
Now even though we have decided not to marry, "Regina", a retired RN, fortunately as part of her schooling, had taken psych classes. She also worked in the emergency room and has seen quite a lot of people come in fully or partially dressed up. So I could say that she had some insites before I told her about just what I was all about.
I believe in the fact that there is someone for everyone, and I truely believe that I have found her.

~~ Sandy ~~

[Staci G]

I am with the most unaccepting woman there is. I am only divorced from my ex because she cheated on me but she was very accepting she used to like for me to do her makeup and nails she said I did it better than she could. she would always think of me when shopping by buying my panties or pantyhose maybe a dress or skirt if she saw one she liked for me. I do miss those times but it is not worth the pain of her cheating while I was gone on the road working to support the family.
So.. Do I wish I was still with her? No because of the trust factor but am I happy now with my present wife? By no means am I happy but I am not ready to hurt her because of my crossdressing. Maybe there will come a time when she will change but I dont forsee it happening.As for me changing (HA) I have been dressing for way too many years now to do anything different. Now I think the question is how long do I stick this out?? I guess its kinda like the old tootsie roll pop the world may never know...

[MJ]

Why did you not tell your second wife about your cd'ing before you married her, in fact why did you not tell her after the 3 rd date for that matter if she hated it then you would not be in this mess now ?, why cant you just meet woman dress en femme, that way there are no surprises she knows what she is getting in to ,

so would you have stayed in your first marriage if she knew ? again why not be honest and up front from the start then you would not be in this mess
i only had one so and she hated it

[Tina B.]

I went the other way, from a very unexcepting wife, to one that excepts me for who I am, and even encourages me to dress when ever I want, in fact Valentines day she came home to find me in drab, and was dissapointed because I was not dressed, and she had Valentine presents for Tina.
Tina B.

[vicky lee]

well mj
i did tell my second wife about it before we got married and she was ok about it. but now these past 6 months ive been going all the way its that what she doesnt like shes says it makes her skin craw.
and no way except that i offered to keep it out of her face.
her answer to that is i want a man im not a lesbian
you said if she knew would i have stayed in my first marrige to that ive got to say no there was more to it than that.

[kathy gg]

well mj
i did tell my second wife about it before we got married and she was ok about it. but now these past 6 months ive been going all the way its that what she doesnt like shes says it makes her skin craw.
and no way except that i offered to keep it out of her face.
her answer to that is i want a man im not a lesbian
you said if she knew would i have stayed in my first marrige to that ive got to say no there was more to it than that.

Vicky I know you posted a particluar question, but your response here sort of leaves me scartching my head....

You say in the past six months you have been going "all the way"......what exactly constitues "all the way"...hormones?.....altering yoru body? living full time?

At any rate, I think alot of women who are actually quiet acepting eventually turn unaccepting becuse they get bombarded with it on such a constant basis. I actually enjoy this side of my husband...but I dont' like ANYTHING force fed to me 24/7...not sure many women would.

As for keeping it out of her face".....I think again, most wives would find that more upsetting....sometimes what you dont' see is worse than what you do see.

Good marriage dont' happen with merely luck or by accident....they are very much a two way communiation system. I know alot of couples where the wife is not *thrilled*, but has managed with lots of support from the husband to set some boundaries which both parties can life with. Compromise on both ends and a shared desire to keep things together are key.

I think in the end a spouse needs to know that her aceptance or patience and understanding is not being taken for granted or to made feel like she is merely a mirror and audience for her husband.

I dont' want to downplay your hard time or that of others, but alot of the sad tales on these forums could be changed if some husbands took time to look at things from a different point of view.