Am I or will I be TS?

[Star]

Just wondering here about myself because all though I am closeted I have wished I was a girl since age 4 or 5. I know I like to crossdress because I have been doing it so long. If I am going to crossdress I have to tuck becasue when I dress i hate "them". I am ok with the thought of being a t- girl inside. I am just wondering if my need to tuck when I am really me ( I mean when I am Star) is an indication that I am possibly TS and how much of my male self is tied upin denial of who I really am?

[princessmichelle]

I don't have an answer, but I a lot of us are asking the same questions.

It's like a sorority.

Michelle

[Katrina]

I wondered that myself for a while (and still do). I went to a therapist that specializes in TG issues to help me sort it out. Some people have success going to therapy and some people say it does more harm than its worth.

[pocoyo]

I went to a therapist that specializes in TG issues to help me sort it out. Some people have success going to therapy and some people say it does more harm than its worth.

Oh crikey mcblimey... I'm starting therapy for my gender issues on wednesday... I hope it doesn't mess me up!

Good luck to you Star :happy: I hope that you find your answers soon and that you are happy with them.

[AmberTG]

If you go to a therapist that doesn't try to tell you what to do, but just helps you sort out your issues, you will find your answers with their help. A good therapist knows the right questions to ask to make you think, and is not judgemental about your issues. You do need to be honest with them if you expect them to help you.

[Priss]

A lot of people ask this question. Over and over again. That's ok, we all have or had this question, and have to ask it. The only person who can answer this question here on this planet however is ourself.

Like AmberTG Says...
If you go to a therapist that doesn't try to tell you what to do, but just helps you sort out your issues, you will find your answers with their help. A good therapist knows the right questions to ask to make you think, and is not judgemental about your issues. You do need to be honest with them if you expect them to help you.

For myself, by the time I went to see a therapist, I already had my answer to this question. She merely was able to assist me on the road to my goal. I had known all of my life. It took waking up one day and really listening to myself, to relize that I had the courage of my convictions and set my foot upon the path.

[Felix]

Hi Star well I agree we all ask similar questions about the reasons we do stuff. I don't go to a counsellor but I constantly question my reasons and motivations for what I do and who I am. I am very truthful with myself even if it hurts and usually I find the answers myself. I agree that in the end it is only you that knows what you feel but a good councellor will listen actively and then give you options which you then have to decide upon. I went to one once and she said you sound like you know exactly what ya wabt and where ya going. I didn't go again she was really good. Good luck hun and remember the answers lie within just be willin to listen xx felix :hugs:

[tommi]

Star, I agree with Amber and Katrina , as someone who went to therapy to
sort out my own issues and feelings. Be honest with a therapist be honest
with yourself others can't answer the question you have to and be prepared
to deal with the harshest critique of them all yourself.
Goodluck honey :hugs:
Tommi

[Lisa Maren]

Hi Star

I have been asking similar questions. For me, it's not just about hating my ... you know ... being totally in the way whenever I dress. I would love to be free to cry when I feel the urge or the need (as long as it's appropriate, meaning I guess a lady can't really do that at work these days unless someone has died or something). I would love to feel natural when I'm creeped out being alone at night in my parents' big house rather than feeling some "urge" to repress which I know is not authentic when en drab. It's just becoming more and more evident to me that I don't think like most men and I do seem to think much like many women.

I have begun seeing a therapist to figure myself out, too. This therapist told me flat out during our first session, "I don't care what gender you are." Great! I was glad to hear that. lol

Best of luck to you!

Hugs,
Lisa

[Kimberley]

I agree with Priss... (no surprise) It is just something you know. The problem is all these other questions confuse the issue and that is what the therapist is for, to help you get through those first. Then the truth is self evident.

:hugs:
Kimberley