Conflict of Thought

[Peggy55]

Here's a question I haven't seen in here before....If you have a relationship with a GG and the two of you make conventional love and you are dressed em femme what goes through your mind? You are using the plumbing you were born with so are you approaching the situation in your mind as the conquering male or are femm thoughts going through your brain?

[marie354]

My SO won't have any dressing at that time... No makeup, or bracelets, or danglie earings either.
I always do the manly thing for her and think in a manly way.

[Dana Carlton]

Responses to this questions, just might get us kicked off. When I dress, I am into the female characterization and a female mindframe. I beleive that I am truly female, and act the part to its fullest, as much as possible. When my wife and I start making love, while I am dressed en femme, it is ALWAYS a female on female experience. That's the way that we both want it. It has NEVER included or ended with conventional sex. That we save for man and woman. (How's that for keeping it clean?)

[Tina B.]

Responses to this questions, just might get us kicked off. When I dress, I am into the female characterization and a female mindframe. I beleive that I am truly female, and act the part to its fullest, as much as possible. When my wife and I start making love, while I am dressed en femme, it is ALWAYS a female on female experience. That's the way that we both want it. It has NEVER included or ended with conventional sex. That we save for man and woman. (How's that for keeping it clean?)

well done Dana, not sure I could have got that thought past the system, but I agree.
Tina B.

[MJ]

yes as long as this thread is kept clean it should be ok
as for me i have no gg to call my own :sad:
i envy you with S.O

[Robin Leigh]

If you have a relationship with a GG and the two of you make conventional love and you are dressed em femme what goes through your mind?I don't know if I can answer this, Peggy. I'm currently single (like yourself, IIRC), but I've had several relationships where I've regularly had the opportunity to make love en femme, to some degree. However, my lovemaking is rarely totally conventional. :D


You are using the plumbing you were born with so are you approaching the situation in your mind as the conquering male or are femm thoughts going through your brain?One of the paradoxes for the erotic crossdresser: how to maintain a femme mood & appearance when you're being turned on. Eventually, when the testosterone level gets high enough, masculine thoughts & feelings are almost certain to occur. That's ok. My sense of gender is mixed, I never expect to feel fully feminine, or fully masculine.

I know what you mean about "the conquering male", but I believe that it's possible to be sexually masculine without being a conqueror. You can also be a protector.

Or you can just be a human being, who happens to have male plumbing. When making love, sometimes I feel masculine, sometimes feminine, sometimes both, sometimes neither. I like being versatile. :) If my lover is OK with me being en femme, but wants me to behave in a masculine way, I can do that, even if I'm feeling totally femme inside.

:hugs:

Robin

[JoanFlores]

I agree with Robin, I am both male and female, when I am with my partner.

[tommi]

Well stated Robin, even though it has been quite some time since I was aloud
to make love enfemme it is never totally conventional.:o

[Peggy55]

Responses to this questions, just might get us kicked off. When I dress, I am into the female characterization and a female mindframe. I beleive that I am truly female, and act the part to its fullest, as much as possible. When my wife and I start making love, while I am dressed en femme, it is ALWAYS a female on female experience. That's the way that we both want it. It has NEVER included or ended with conventional sex. That we save for man and woman. (How's that for keeping it clean?)

Yes I had a hard time writing the question tastefully. Well done Dana!

[CaptLex]

(How's that for keeping it clean?)
You did great, Dana. :thumbsup: See, it is possible to discuss these things and keep it clean. :D

[Emily Ann Brown]

During such times I have a mixture of thoughts, more female than male.

Emily Ann

[Karren H]

Well luckily for me I don't have those problems... Hmmmmmm. Maybe "luckily" isn't the correct term... Sigh....

Should have been a nun....

Karren

[MsJanessa]

when I'm dressed I feel both powerful, in control and incedibly sexy, as well as feminine-----whether I'm with a man or woman(or somebody in between)

[Jena11]

Well, when I was married, and dressed with my wife including times of intimacy. I saw myself as a woman and would make love to her as a woman. After that most of the time because she wanted me to we had tradional love but I just saw myself as a woman with something on me. Not at all as a man. Jena

[Rachel Morley]

At the risk of giving away too much information, when my wife and I are intimate we are rarely wearing anything. However sometimes I am (kinda) en femme in the sense that my body is shaved and I'm wearing a chemise or nightie, makeup, perfume and earrings (I've never worn my wig or forms yet).

No matter what we are or aren't wearing, I still think of myself as me, and my behavior is not any more or less guyish than I normally am. However both of us prefer to make love in a feminine way.

[Alice B]

We have not made love while I'm dressed, but have when I have had full makeup on. I think the only thing different was that I was much more aware of the female side and feelings, thus much more gentle. I loved the feeling of kissing with lipstick on and gently kissing the varied parts of her body. She seemed to sence the change and responded ver strongly. Did I release a hidden feeling of hers?

[cindychan]

I prefer fem attire while making love. Everything just seems to fuction better.

[Dragster]

It's quite a long time since my wife and I made love with me wearing anything female, and she insisted that I blindfolded her so she didn't have to see me dressed. We both wore stockings, suspenders, satin slip and French knickers, and I put some long satin gloves on her too. I was incredibly turned on (but in a male way), especially when I asked her to caress me all over. If you've never been caressed by satin gloves on nylons or satin clothing, you've never lived, and she said she liked the feeling too. We made it last a long time to prolong the excitement, and it was obvious we both reached a very high climax (no details for this site!). I never felt a female thought throughout, which is not surprising because I don't when I dress, so it wasn't a lesbian experience for either of us, and I had to undress before I took her blindfold off.

What I can't understand is that in spite of really enjoying the experience (I could tell she enjoyed it much more than our normal sexual moments), she is so reluctant to repeat the experience, and says she is disgused by my desire to dress up in female clothes. I don't understand it, does anyone else?

Tony

[Marcie Sexton]

Must be nice, but I've never had the pleasure of going all the way en-femme...

A thought though...I would want to be totally femmed though...

[Peggy55]

Perhaps she is ashamed/embarassed etc by the pleasure she derived from the experience. Afterall isn't that what happens to some of us when dressing?


It's quite a long time since my wife and I made love with me wearing anything female, and she insisted that I blindfolded her so she didn't have to see me dressed. We both wore stockings, suspenders, satin slip and French knickers, and I put some long satin gloves on her too. I was incredibly turned on (but in a male way), especially when I asked her to caress me all over. If you've never been caressed by satin gloves on nylons or satin clothing, you've never lived, and she said she liked the feeling too. We made it last a long time to prolong the excitement, and it was obvious we both reached a very high climax (no details for this site!). I never felt a female thought throughout, which is not surprising because I don't when I dress, so it wasn't a lesbian experience for either of us, and I had to undress before I took her blindfold off.

What I can't understand is that in spite of really enjoying the experience (I could tell she enjoyed it much more than our normal sexual moments), she is so reluctant to repeat the experience, and says she is disgused by my desire to dress up in female clothes. I don't understand it, does anyone else?

Tony

[Dragster]

I didn't think of that one Peggy. I'll remember to bring it up next time we have a "talk".

Thanks,
Tony