The Pink Fog

[CandyDarling]

In a heartfelt reply to an anguished post of mine KathyGG mentioned ,"The Pink Fog" I have never heard of it brfore but it sounds ominous and real. Does this refer to compulsive behavior ??

[Tina B.]

lost in his femmine feelings, as in a fog!
Tina B.

[marie354]

Well... Let's see... When my SO decided to let me dress any time that I wanted, there was this warm feeling that come over me. I rushed into the bedroom, spent about 3 seconds thinking about what to wear and proceded to try a few things on and model them for her. I loved hearing her say things like... "That looks good on you," or "That other top went better with that skirt."

I'm probably still in that pink fog, because I love to dress every day. My SO shops with me and helps me pick things that look good together.

It's a feeling that's almost like being high on something with out any drugs involved.
That feeling that you get when you try on a new dress for the first time and you feel that it is sooo perfect.
A really fun feeling all-in-all.

I don't know how to express it really, but I hope this helps a bit.
I'm still not over the fact that she lets me dress 24/7 if I want.

[JoAnnDallas]

The Pink Fog is the mode a CDer sometimes gets into when she tells the wife or GF about being a CDer and the wife/GF is kinda OK with it. Then the CDer goes over board, buying clothing, makeup, dressing every free moment and etc. This sometimes overwhelms the SO and she will get scared that her husband is going to transistion. It kinda like the "Kid in the candy store" thing.

[Michelle 51]

Candy I'm not sure about the pink fog .Maybe trying to find their way and not being able to see ahead???.I call it the pink drug because it's like an addicton.Unlike drug addicton you can go about and live "normal life" you need to dress like a girl(pink) every so often.For some every day.Other's can go longer but few can go without.I'm not trying to scare you just being realistic. Justabit

[kathy gg]

JoAnn pretty much nailed it....

[Tasha Meredith]

So that's what it is.

[EmmaB GG]

JoAnne describes how I see it, too. Though we call it a mist (seems less threatening to us), and we use it as a code for him to stop and think in case I'm finding it a bit too intense - "Hey you, I think its getting a bit misty today, don't you!"

[Robin Leigh]

When a CDer is in the Pink Fog she is being unrealistic, and usually more than a little self-centered. It seems like everything revolves around being en femme. She forgets that not everyone feels the way she does. She may also be somewhat manic.

The Pink Fog condition often happens when someone comes out and can dress without paranoia for the first time. It can also occur when a CDer tries to repress their feelings & forces themselves not to dress. They may succeed for month, even years, then wham! they find themselves overwhelmed with thoughts of dressing up, and the more they try to resist, the more powerful these urges become. Eventually, the Pink Fog bursts out, and the result is usually not pretty...

Robin

[Daintre]

In my younger days I was certainly in the midst of the pink fog, I would buy clothing on a grand scale, take risks that I shudder at today, thankfully I am firmly in control of my dressing ans feel very good about myself.

[JoAnnDallas]

I have seen posts where the CDer can not figure out why at first her SO/GF was accepting her as a CDer then all of a sudden is against it and demands that the CDer stop. IMHO, I suspect the CDer was in the Pink Fog. the SO got so overwhelmed that it scares her and she is loosing control of her mate. So in order to control the situration, the SO rebels and forces her mate to stop. This can be counter productive. It can frighten the SO so much that she is completely turn off and CDer ends up even more deeply in the closet.