paigestg
02-28-2007, 10:32 PM
Hi Folks,
I know I don't post very much, but I was hoping that you could provide me with some advice. I'll try to keep it short and sweet, but can go into more details if interested. :-)
When I was a small child, I always felt different. I never liked to do "boy" stuff, but anytime I tried to act on my true feelings, my parents would very quickly repress it (story of most of our lives, eh?). When I was a teenager, I came out to a few friends who were very supportive. But, after being raped, I decided that maybe the South wasn't the best place to be different. Through the years though, I've slowly crawled back out of my hiding place. I'm now married and my wife has been very supportive of me. Although I'm still afraid to go out in public as Paige.
In the past few years, the urge to live my life as a female has only gotten stronger. I'm not even worried about losing friends and family (friends would be supportive, family would probably disown me). But, what I'm most worried about is my career.
Crazy as it sounds, I dedicated most of my teenage years to getting ahead. I'm now a 27 y/o software engineer - team lead, in fact - at a major technology company. I consider that a big feat, considering I dropped out of college after one semester. I work my butt off - and I'm well respected for my work ethic and technical expertise. Even though the company as a whole wouldn't care - I feel that if I started transitioning at work that I would lose the respect of my peers and my career might take a hit. Plus, I love what I do, like the people I work with, and see my career continuing to advance at the company I'm at.
So, I guess I wanted to ask, does this sound totally stupid? I mean, I guess both things are a big part of me. But I'm also wondering if I'm "misclassifying" myself. I don't know if I want SRS or not, but pretty sure I have GID (I CD at home quite frequently) - so would I still "count" as being TG? I dunno. I've accepted myself (and my feelings) for who I am, but still very much confused.
I guess I'm just looking for validation and some advice.
Thanks for listening,
Paige
I know I don't post very much, but I was hoping that you could provide me with some advice. I'll try to keep it short and sweet, but can go into more details if interested. :-)
When I was a small child, I always felt different. I never liked to do "boy" stuff, but anytime I tried to act on my true feelings, my parents would very quickly repress it (story of most of our lives, eh?). When I was a teenager, I came out to a few friends who were very supportive. But, after being raped, I decided that maybe the South wasn't the best place to be different. Through the years though, I've slowly crawled back out of my hiding place. I'm now married and my wife has been very supportive of me. Although I'm still afraid to go out in public as Paige.
In the past few years, the urge to live my life as a female has only gotten stronger. I'm not even worried about losing friends and family (friends would be supportive, family would probably disown me). But, what I'm most worried about is my career.
Crazy as it sounds, I dedicated most of my teenage years to getting ahead. I'm now a 27 y/o software engineer - team lead, in fact - at a major technology company. I consider that a big feat, considering I dropped out of college after one semester. I work my butt off - and I'm well respected for my work ethic and technical expertise. Even though the company as a whole wouldn't care - I feel that if I started transitioning at work that I would lose the respect of my peers and my career might take a hit. Plus, I love what I do, like the people I work with, and see my career continuing to advance at the company I'm at.
So, I guess I wanted to ask, does this sound totally stupid? I mean, I guess both things are a big part of me. But I'm also wondering if I'm "misclassifying" myself. I don't know if I want SRS or not, but pretty sure I have GID (I CD at home quite frequently) - so would I still "count" as being TG? I dunno. I've accepted myself (and my feelings) for who I am, but still very much confused.
I guess I'm just looking for validation and some advice.
Thanks for listening,
Paige