Underlining respect/Why is it such a taboo?

[sindey]

I work in a supermarket, and its quite clique'sh. Everybody knows every body else. Especially there personal life.
Im a "youngish" CD, who is quite paranoid too see if anybody at work knows my "secret"!
I would be quite embarresed if anybody knows what i do in private, especially, as i work in a more female-dominant environmant.
I have served quite a few CD'S at work, which i definateley know are cd's, and so has all the other males who work there.
There is some unwritten code, where nobody says anything about serving a definite CD (there is just a look)?
There is an underlining respect/understanding which i have seen, while observing male co-workers serving a CD, who confess they are typical "straight" men, who hate anyone who is an offense to there straightness!

Why is it such a taboo?
I do not give my co-workers a certain look, when they are serving someone, who looks a certain way, I treat them with the same respect, which i would expect any customer would grant me, no matter who i am, or what I look like!

[Kimberley]

Sindey,
I think that these people are unsure how to take us and so they fall back on what they do know and understand; being cisgendered. It is a reasonable response even if we wish it were not so. We would all dearly love for people to just go about their business with no reaction but that will never happen. The other side of the coin is homophobia, again rooted in ignorance.

:hugs:
Kimberley

[marie354]

Sindey,
I think that these people are unsure how to take us and so they fall back on what they do know and understand; being cisgendered. It is a reasonable response even if we wish it were not so. We would all dearly love for people to just go about their business with no reaction but that will never happen. The other side of the coin is homophobia, again rooted in ignorance.

:hugs:
Kimberley

Isn't cisgendered just a fancy word for a GG?... Born female, raised female, portrays female. Or are you more lesbian? Call me dumb, but I'm puzzled.

[Joy Carter]

I don't know the answer to this Sidney. But we are much alike. I can respect someone who can't respect them selves.

[Kimberley]

Isn't cisgendered just a fancy word for a GG?... Born female, raised female, portrays female. Or are you more lesbian? Call me dumb, but I'm puzzled.

One who is cisgendered has their sexuality and gender aligned ie. male sex and male gender or female sex and female gender. This is most of the population. So. one who is transgendered is not cisgendered.

As to sexual preference, one who is cisgendered can also be gay or lesbian or they can be straight.

[Lovely Rita]

Society can be harsh and judgmental. Some times insecurity in others brings out some bad things. Hopefully things will improve.

[Kelsy]

I work in a supermarket, and its quite clique'sh. Everybody knows every body else. Especially there personal life.
Im a "youngish" CD, who is quite paranoid too see if anybody at work knows my "secret"!
I would be quite embarresed if anybody knows what i do in private, especially, as i work in a more female-dominant environmant.
I have served quite a few CD'S at work, which i definateley know are cd's, and so has all the other males who work there.
There is some unwritten code, where nobody says anything about serving a definite CD (there is just a look)?
There is an underlining respect/understanding which i have seen, while observing male co-workers serving a CD, who confess they are typical "straight" men, who hate anyone who is an offense to there straightness!

Why is it such a taboo?



I do not give my co-workers a certain look, when they are serving someone, who looks a certain way, I treat them with the same respect, which i would expect any customer would grant me, no matter who i am, or what I look like! Now let me get this straight. Your male co-workers as a group hold to the expected male behaviour with a code, reaffirming each others maleness but you see something else going on? "There is an underlining respect/understanding which i have seen, while observing male co-workers serving a CD" What is it that you observed that brings you to that conclusion??? If that is true then there is something that is a least a little commendable in the way they treat a transgendered person. they have their own group standards to adhere to yet the don't exibit an outwardly hostle attitude toward a CD. HMMM Now, this respect you see may be just a job preservation thing? Or, the individuals have some manners and avoid making someone feel uncomfortable? As a group, they need reassurance when encountered with this and look at each other as if to say "weird - hey I'm not like that"

We all have skeletons in the closet and my experience tells me that if the thing your hiding in the closet is you then you will make darn sure you have the code down and the "look as well" Maybe some of your co-workers have a little cd in them aswell , its hard to tell.


"I do not give my co-workers a certain look, when they are serving someone, who looks a certain way, I treat them with the same respect, which i would expect any customer would grant me, no matter who i am, or what I look like!"


You have got it right!!!!:thumbsup:



Jennifer:happy:

[Country girl]

:iagree: with what Jennifer has said. It sounds to me as if perhaps your male coworkers understand and possibly are somewhat more accepting than most, even if it is to some small degree. Your actions are exactly as they should be. No one should ever be made to feel unaccepted or beneath us because of what they wear, the color of their skin, sexual preference, etc. That doesn't mean we have to agree with it, but we should respect each individual's choices. :hugs: CG gg

[susie evans]

most are insecure with who they realy are :2c:

susie

[Casey Morgan]

While I mostly agree with Jennifer, in a service-oriented job there is also the attitude of "I'm not losing my job because of that :censor: ". Just because you don't see them talking about CDs later doesn't mean they aren't. I've seen things like that happen. So you also have to consider that.

Of course, sometimes if you put up with something or someone for a particular reason long enough, it starts to take the edge off of it.