fionasboots
03-05-2007, 06:40 PM
It's been a while since I posted, or posted anything "proper". I have contributed to the odd thread but not really had much time to spent on the forum.
Anyway, just in case anyone is interested I thought I would update you all on how things are going after the bombshell I dropped on my wife last July.
Well, we are still together, which is in retrospect a miracle bearing in mind the way in which I came out about CDing and subsequently handled the aftermath - I was badly prepared and timed everything wrong.
Since then I have learned, well, I'd like to say alot, but I still think there is so much for me to discover that I'll leave it at "some important lessons".
My wife has obviously had to come to terms with much much more than me and in fairness has coped amazingly well in the circumstances. She still has times when this is all too much for her and she doubts her decision to stay with me, other days she can joke about it all.
While we have agreed that CDing stays out of the house I have been allowed to keep some of my clothes in the loft and I am taking these on my various business trips so I do get some Fiona time - which again is something that my wife is dealing with; the fact that she knows I am getting dressed up while away.
One thing that I have learned or am beginning to discover and appreciate is just how selfless wives/GGs can be. If you read the "My Husband Betty" book it think it's mentioned in there (haven't got that far into the book but did see some coverage of this).
Just as an illustration here are some things my wife has done that defy logic/explanation when you bear in mind that she is still coming to terms with this:
1) First of all she gave me some free samples of make-up - one was a very good Clinique mascara
2) She bought me a pair of knickers (M&S no less) for Valentines (on the strict understanding that they were for while I was away. She even put thought into getting the ones I'd like the feel of the most.
3) While I we were out shopping she picked up some knickers for herself and looking at me and seeing I liked them bought me a pair as well.
4) She has said that, while out shopping, she will see clothes and think they may be something that I would like. She even told me about sales on at Asda and Debenhams.
I personally think that this is something that alot of us don't fully appreciate because we can't understand it, I think it is a GG thing: a wife/partner can really be totally selfless at times and in all honesty I can't think of any instant when I have been even half that. I struggle to think of a way to show my wife how much this means to me and to give her something back in return.
Anyway, just in case anyone is interested I thought I would update you all on how things are going after the bombshell I dropped on my wife last July.
Well, we are still together, which is in retrospect a miracle bearing in mind the way in which I came out about CDing and subsequently handled the aftermath - I was badly prepared and timed everything wrong.
Since then I have learned, well, I'd like to say alot, but I still think there is so much for me to discover that I'll leave it at "some important lessons".
My wife has obviously had to come to terms with much much more than me and in fairness has coped amazingly well in the circumstances. She still has times when this is all too much for her and she doubts her decision to stay with me, other days she can joke about it all.
While we have agreed that CDing stays out of the house I have been allowed to keep some of my clothes in the loft and I am taking these on my various business trips so I do get some Fiona time - which again is something that my wife is dealing with; the fact that she knows I am getting dressed up while away.
One thing that I have learned or am beginning to discover and appreciate is just how selfless wives/GGs can be. If you read the "My Husband Betty" book it think it's mentioned in there (haven't got that far into the book but did see some coverage of this).
Just as an illustration here are some things my wife has done that defy logic/explanation when you bear in mind that she is still coming to terms with this:
1) First of all she gave me some free samples of make-up - one was a very good Clinique mascara
2) She bought me a pair of knickers (M&S no less) for Valentines (on the strict understanding that they were for while I was away. She even put thought into getting the ones I'd like the feel of the most.
3) While I we were out shopping she picked up some knickers for herself and looking at me and seeing I liked them bought me a pair as well.
4) She has said that, while out shopping, she will see clothes and think they may be something that I would like. She even told me about sales on at Asda and Debenhams.
I personally think that this is something that alot of us don't fully appreciate because we can't understand it, I think it is a GG thing: a wife/partner can really be totally selfless at times and in all honesty I can't think of any instant when I have been even half that. I struggle to think of a way to show my wife how much this means to me and to give her something back in return.