Oops! Just got caught!

[marie354]

Well it was just a matter of time I guess.

A lady from the church, a friend of ours. And a member of the Christian group study program that we attend, came by to drop something off that my SO left in her car while they were out shopping today...

Well Regina had just finished rolling my hair... I had my "new" red dress on... Well, like friends will do, she just walked in. Oops! Caught.
My SO rushed to her and I walked back into the kitchen...

I'm sure we'll have some "splainen to do..." Time to 'fess up, I guess.

[Alice B]

Oh boy and good luck!

[Holly]

Well Marie, it looks like your journey out of the closet has begun. May God give you (and your wonderful bride) the strength to endure.

[serenity66]

good luck, hope everything turns out ok

[marie354]

Well Marie, it looks like your journey out of the closet has begun. May God give you (and your wonderful bride) the strength to endure.

Oh Holly... That means sooo much coming from you.

I'm sure it will be an anticipated thing that I've always wanted to happen.
It was, after all, with me dressing almost all the time, inevitable.

[Karren H]

How about "The devil made me do it???"

Karren

[MJ]

well Sandy
it was bound to happen, i hope you and your wife handle this well i trust your friend will be open minded, to understand your needs and that god's hand will be on your side . i hope all goes well remember you have a friend and many more here for you

[SandyR]

Well you could always say "I was helping the wife size her new dress...." Yeah thats it.........

Best wishes, I am sure it will work out.


Huggs.....

SandyR

[Angie G]

I hate when that happens :hugs:
Angie

[Wenda]

I have been away, presume Regina is your SO? If she was doing your hair, that will mitigate the shock considerably. If she had walked in and just found you doing your hair, a much different story.
If Regina was sufficiently enthusiastic and positive, she may doubt what she saw, and be embarassed to ask for explanation. She may mention it to close confidants, but unless she is the local blabbermouth, I doubt she will share it with many.
Where I live, many people still haven't gotten into the habit of locking their doors when they go to work, so I can relate. I, on the other hand, have gotten into the habit of locking my door every time I enter and leave. I have had a few friends and family show up, try the door, THEN ring the bell. Gives me time to 'freshen up'. The family knows, but they are queasy about seeing me as Wenda. We can chat online, on the phone, but the reality of face to face is not appealing to them. Hope my analysis turns out to be close. All the best!w:thumbsup:

[Lovely Rita]

wow!!!! I do appreciate your matter of fact attitude. You are very grounded and very brave.
I tip my hat to you.

all the best to you Marie

[Billijo49504]

As I used to say, Love thy neighbor, but trust dead bolt locks. Well I guess you will now find out just how christian the group really is. I truly hope everything goes well for both of you...BJ

[marie354]

I'm the type of person that has... Well, how should I put it... An open door policy?... I trust people until....... If you do me wrong! You are off my list!... I really haven't done anything wrong.....

But in this case....... It's a lot different! I don't think that I'll show up at Saturday night's dinner in DRAG or anything, but I'm sure that a few questions will come up....

I have to be honest at this point and my SO can't stretch the truth anymore either.

HERE COMES SANDY!!!!!!!!!!!!

[RachelDenise]

Good luck with your 'splaining. I hope that your SO will lead the charge and you can be her back-up. I think that would be most effective.

[Suzie S.]

Oh my Sandy! :eek: Sorry to hear about that! Guess it wasn't quite the way you planned to make an entrance! I hope it all works out ok for you and your wife! Good luck with the 'splainin'! :hugs:

[Brianna Lovely]

Well it was just a matter of time I guess.

A lady from the church, a friend of ours. And a member of the Christian group study program that we attend,
I'm sure we'll have some "splainen to do..." Time to 'fess up, I guess.

Well, I guess it's time to do the "Christian" thing and tell the truth.

[jjjjohanne]

Marie,
I assume from what you are saying that there is no chance that she didn't see exactly what was going on? You're cumulative reaction sounds like it will reinforce that is was something worth hiding instead of a gag. Hopefully she won't tell the world...

Joe

[Tashee]

I pray that the love and acceptance of the group is unconditional.
May you know you are loved for who you are.

[Marcie Sexton]

I wouldn't fret to much...and would only mention it if it became an issue...

That is the reason locks were put on the doors too, I always lock the outside door when I'm dressed, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure...

[marie354]

I'll play it "by ear" tomorrow at the church dinner. It's a "paid" dinner to help with under privledged children and my SO bought tickets for both of us to attend.
I hope that it works out regardless of what's said.

[Wenda]

All the best. :thumbsup: Please keep us posted. w

[Teresa Amina]

I always wonder about people who just walk in to someones' house like that, but a lot of it depends on where you live. I grew up and lived most of my life near Dee-troit and locking up is just a habit for me. You've just become a high profile member of your community, though, and not everyone who hears of it will be pleased. Start locking up.

[JoAnnDallas]

I guess I am guilty of just walking in too. I have a key to my sister's house and many times when we go over, I just use the key to let us in. So I can understand the problem. Hopefully your wife as defused the problem a little. How thing go at the church dinner will tell how much your out. I pray that it will all work out.

[paulaN]

you've got my prayers. I hope it all works out fine. your a cd and you go to this church so that tells me that most of the church members should be ok with it. I would'nt think that you would go to a church that is not tollerant of people like us. If you know what I mean......

[NatalieH]

I'll play it "by ear" tomorrow at the church dinner. ...
I hope that it works out regardless of what's said.

I'll bet it does work out ok, in fact, I wouldn't be surprised if nothing is said at all. But then, you'd be wondering what had been said in private, right? Looking forward to hearing how it goes. Good luck.

Natalie

[AllyM]

Marie, sounds like you are in for an interesting weekend! It will be fine.

[SherriePall]

Oh, yes, unlocked doors. I lived in a small town years ago and we went to visit relatives in New Jerzee for a week. When we got back my father was chastised for locking the doors of the house. The people of the town couldn't drop off their garden goods they got for him! First and only time the house was locked in almost 12 years.

But the people did ring the door bell when they came to visit (even if unexpectedly).

Good luck, Marie.

[karynspanties]

I was caught last summer by my neighbor two doors down. My own stupidity. It was early on a saturday morning, around 7:30 am. My wife does the grocery shoping on saturday mornings so she had just left about 15 minutes before. We live in a rural subdivision. Big yards, lots of trees. Well I decided it would be a good idea to go out on the patio and look at the plants/flowers. I looked out and did not see anyone. My neighbors to the left are blocked by trees and the one to the right were on vacation. Well the guy next to the ones on the right decided to look at their garden. He likes to sneak around. I have noticed this for quite a while. Well......he quietly walked over to the garden and when I turned around.....there he was looking at me. There I am on my patio wearing pink panties and a pink full slip! SHIT!!!!! I acted like I did not see him and walked back into the house. I went into the master bathroom and peered through the blinds. There he was lurking in the tall bushes, trying to get another look. We have spoken since and he never mentioned he saw me. Actually, I think he liked what he saw. I don't know what I was thinking going out on the patio dressed like that but it won't happen again!!

[Brianna Lovely]

There I am on my patio wearing pink panties and a pink full slip!

I don't know what I was thinking going out on the patio dressed like that but it won't happen again!!

Oh Karyn, please go out in your panties and slip.

I just bought a new binocular.

[karynspanties]

Oh Brianna!!! Your making me blush.........and wet!!!!!!!!:devil:

[Wenda]

Oh Brianna!!! Your making me blush.........and wet!!!!!!!!:devil:
Careful GURLS, the thought police are always present!!!!:o

[Ammdi]

Well good luck!
(I realize I'm posting AFTER your event, but I'm supporting you anyway)

Update??

[AmberTG]

Ya, I can understand the feeling. I always lock the doors, it keeps people honest. However, my wife gave her father a key, and he has used it on several occasions to pick up something for my stepdaughter, usually late morning. One time, I came very close to being caught, and that would be really ugly. He's a fundamentalist Baptist with very strong opinions about alternate lifestyles.
Also, over the years, my now adult son has almost caught me on several occasions when he showed up out of the blue.

[Sheri 4242]

Marie: I hope all turns out okay for you. It is my feeling all will be fine. You never know what people really see -- and in what happened to you, you said your SO moved quickly towards the friend while you moved out of the room. Your SO's friend might well be wondering what she actually saw, but might not be cetain enough to say anything. (Personally, friend or not, she had no business barging in like that b/c of any number of reasons.) My wife and I have thought of what we might say in different scenarios. We actually have made a "big deal" out of playing up how I'm going to be dressed every Halloween! Everybody in our neighborhood knows I dress for Halloween. It amazes my wife and me (a.) how many men and women seem too interested -- like it is of hidden genuine interest to them; and (b.) how many older "trick or treaters" (and their parent) don't realize I'm a man unless I say something (we think this proves, in part, that so many people only process a quick vision and, in so doing, often don't "read" a CD in a "quick look" situation. As for other possible scenarios, we've decided to always play it by ear. When we are on a trip I almost always drive en femme. We have decided for this that if an explanation was ever needed, one of us might say "shouldn't have bet on Yankees" (or other team or sport). Very rarely a sales girl will tell me (when I'm en drab but shopping for female clothing) something like, well that's your color, to which one of us will respond, yep, we thought so too.

On one shopping trip I was carrying around a local store three new miniskirts and two blouses loooking for my SO to see if she liked them. I ran into two women, both of whom I know well and who live near by. There could be no doubt but that they were for someone other than my wife -- she doesn't (and can't anymore) wear miniskirts -- especially junior sizes. Well one of the women asked what I was doing. I guess I could have been blunt and told her to mind her own business. But, to keep things on an even keel and stop the gossip mongers, I said I was taking advantage of the sale the store was having to go ahead and get my Halloween outfit early (this was in August). I told them I was looking for my wife to get her opinion, but since I had run into them, what did they think of what I was considering. Never heard if they ever told anyone. If they were observant, they would have known I didn't wear any of what I bought that Halloween. Maybe they went home with the idea that, "I'll bet he dresses that way at home." If tey did, though, we never heard about it.

Keep us posted on your plight! If the "friend" truly is a "true" friend of your SO, she won't say anything -- or, if she says anything, she'll address it to your SO -- and may your SO can have a pat answer ready. (One tactic I have seen work is "deny, deny, deny." If the friend isn't absolutely positive that she saw you, your wife might say something like, my cousin wished you could have stayed long enough to meet her, but she was in a pinned up dress and had to get it off." Maybe that one specific example isn't right for you, but it is just to give you a direction for thought.

[SANDRA MICHELLE]

Well it was bound to happen, as you say you dress most of the time now so honesty is the best policy. If it comes up at all, and it probably won't, which is actually worse because there will be whispers about it for sure. Good luck and I'll pray for a great outcome.
Love/Sandra Michelle

[Raychel]

Best of luck at the dinner. I have always wondered what would happen in this situation. Maybe a little relief that the cat is out of the bag, But also the tension, wondering just what people will say.

Tha suspense is killing me. Be sure to let us know how it goes. :hugs:

[Shelly R]

I have to be honest at this point and my SO can't stretch the truth anymore either.

HERE COMES SANDY!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wish you good luck at the dinner! Hope all goes well for you. It might not be as bad as you might think.

[Rhonda Jean]

I'll be really interested to hear what happens. If it makes you feel any better, I've had a couple of very similar incidents with no really bad things happening. Both of them were 25 or so years ago. Once I answered the doorbell with my hair in curlers thinking it was a neighbor (It wasn't uncommon for my neighbors to see me in curlers at the time). Turns out it was one of my wife's friends from our home town (150 miles away) and the friend's mother. I kind of slammed the door in their face (Ooops!) and ran to the bathroom and took my hair down and then joined my wife an her friends in the living room. May have cost my wife a close friendship, as from then on we only exchanged Christmas cards, but, as far as I know, they didn't spread the word. We do, however, avoid going back to her old hometown. No class reunions for us!

Another time a friend of ours peeked through the window in our front door and saw me walking by fully enfemme (hair in curlers again, too). No doubt she saw. She waved at me! Again, I ran to our bedroom and changed before joining my wife and our friend. Her husband was a very good friend of mine. He's now a business competitor. There's never been a word spoken about it to other friends or business associates. She was a class act about it, and, presumably, so was he.

[Hali]

i waz never caught, but almost one time, guess what? Three of MY childhood friends approach me on different occations while i waz dressed in DRAG while i waz strolling in our neighbourhood in the night; not knowing am the one, and all of them persisted on knowing my address or atleast to reply them, MEN i was sweating because i couldnt speak they might figure me out, any way am still safe.

[marie354]

I thought you all would like to knoe that the dinner was fantastic. Roast beef, baked potato, peas, and garden salad. Chocolate cake for dessert.

No-one said a single word. The lady that came over that day didn't even give me a strange look while we were there.
I guess I was the only nervous one there.

I could have been modeling something that my SO got for her daughter, for sizing. She had met her before. She might have even thought I was her for all I know. Her daughter & I are about the same size, hair length & color.

Anyway... All went well. Thanks for all of your support. You all sure made me feel good and I had an extra bit of confidance.

[Raychel]

I am glad all went well for you, Times like this can be very nerve wracking. Sounds like you had a goood time though.

[SherriePall]

Glad to hear it turned out all right, but I bet you were a bundle of nerves until the dinner was over.

[Tina B.]

Glad all went so well! now lock those doors!
Tina B.

[NatalieH]

No-one said a single word...I guess I was the only nervous one there.



I'm happy to hear it went well, and hope you didn't get too worked up for nothing. Makes you wonder just what it takes to get people to _really_ notice you!

Natalie

[MsJanessa]

Hon---she's a church lady and if she saw you dressed, then all the explanations in the world probably won't change her opinion that you are going to hell---and if she didn't see you, then don't worry about it. As a matter of fact don't worry about it either way---your wife knows and accepts---its really nobody elses business and you certainly don't owe any explanation to a nosey busybody who feels they can just waltz into your house without even knocking---let alone calling in advance--

[Wenda]

Anyway... All went well. Thanks for all of your support. You all sure made me feel good and I had an extra bit of confidance.

Great to hear!! thanks for letting us know. :D w

[kay2]

No-one said a single word. The lady that came over that day didn't even give me a strange look while we were there.
I guess I was the only nervous one there.

Ya know, everyone is a lot more eccentric than the public face we put on. Some friends and acquaintances have told me pretty "shocking" things about themselves. As long as these things are not hurtful to anyone, I don't care what they are, and they haven't changed my opinions of them. People in your church probably care a lot more about how kind a person you are than they do about anything else about you. Besides - most people are probably too pre-occupied with their own secrets to pay attention to anyone else's.

[Shelly Preston]

Great to hear it all turned out all right

or maybe she is waiting until she drops in again

[marie354]

I haven't posted to this since the 11th sooo.......

Everything has calmed down a bit and my SO has asked the woman if she noticed anything... Well she said yes and the conversation ended there.
That was a week ago. Today, nothing was said or even an odd glance, so I'm feeling good.

[RobertaFermina]

Marie !

Time for growing Joys !?

My thoughts are with you, and I am hoping for good things to come to you, Regina, and your community.


:hugs: Roberta :rose:

[AllieSF]

Wow, great for you so far and good luck. I see your posts everywhere, and I never thought that this could happen to you. As we always say here, keep your head high, look them in the eye and be your "normal" self with them. God bless you.

[Colleentg]

Been there, done that!
My ex-SO had to do some 'splaining' a couple times herself. I laugh at it all now. I was so thankful she got in the middle to explain it later on.