Too Much Testosterone

[Laurie909]

Although I'm MtF, being this board is for FtM, I thought this might be a more appropriate forum to post this.....

Last night I went to a get-together for a male group (church-based.) It was supposed to be just a friendly get-together for new and prospective members. The get-together took place at a bar/resturaunt. I'd say about 20 guys showed up. The "festivities" (if you could call them that) consisted of shooting pool, drinking beer, and watching basketball of the big screen TVs. I heard a few choice 4-letter words shouted out and the conversation consisted mostly of "What do you do for a living?" (i.e. how much money do you make?) Back in the back of the room there was cigar smoking and the food consisted of nachos, pizza slices and buffalo wings. After about 20 minutes (which even that was too much for me), I left. I definitely did not fit in with this crowd.

What about you guys, do these type of activities appeal to you?

[Abraxas]

Everything apart from watching sports on telly and chatting about money appeals. Drinking beer (or whatever cheap liquor we can get our hands on), chainsmoking on the balcony, screaming along to AC/DC, destroying a 26-inch monster pizza in five seconds, and laughing it up with my friends is great. We're all University age or so, though, so no real point in comparing salaries. We're all poor, haha!
Eh, maybe it's cos I'm just a kid, I might outgrow it. *shrug*
All I know is that those are the times I feel really close to people I never see outside of parties. Yeah, we're drinking buddies and that's it. Some of these people I've never seen sober. But we chat like long-time friends, we're relaxed, and all is right with the world when we all get together. And then it all comes crashing down again when I see the pictures the next day.
Sounds like a pretty pathetic life, but you see, context is everything.

('round here in Mormonville, however, it's a bit disconcerting to hear 'church' and 'bar' in the same sentence, haha! People here think you have to show ID to get into a Starbucks.)

[John]

Smoking and talking about mony aside (I have no mony), yeah, that sorta thing appeals to me. Bear and piza are posible the gratest combination in the world, and if I can find a pub that plays hevy mettal, so much the better. I don't actually smoke, but I alwas find smoky environments comforting on some level (maybe becaue I grew up with my dad always smoking, and whenever I wanted a meaningfull conversation with him I'd folow him out into the garige when he smoked). Sports in general I'm not too bothered with, but there's definatly something to be said for being in a room of people all shouting and chering on a team: you can join in without giving a toss what the outcome is.

And if I aplord that sorta thing on when I'm this hungover, imagen what I'm like when drunk... :heehee:

[Evert]

Yeah, money talk aside, I like that sort of things. Drinking beer, talking, smoking, playing some pool... I can do that every weekend (and trust me, I do). Spending most of my time at the Irish Pub I also cheer for sports lately. Hurling and Gaelic Football is cool! :D

[Marcie Sexton]

Sounds like the sports bar scene...that went by the way side 20 years ago for me...don't drink any more...one of my previous jobs while i was in college was a bouncer, needless to say I had my fill of drunks...while I still enjoy my college sports, I perfer to enjoy them here at home...Marcie is quite the March Madness freak these days...:heehee:

[CaptLex]

What about you guys, do these type of activities appeal to you?
Oh yeah . . . my kind of evening, my kind of crowd. Just change the basketball to baseball and I'm in. The guys I hang around with don't talk too much about jobs or salaries as some are still students, but we talk about everything else under the sun and you can't beat a great night of beer, pizza and shooting pool. When's the next one? :D

[happyfish]

Actually, that doesn't really appeal to me. Clearly I'm not very manly. :P I'm not to fond of drinking, really, maybe because the first time I went out we spent the rest of the night listening to my friend vomit into a toilet. I'd rather have a night in and hit each other with rolled up newspapers. Much more civilized. xD

[Felix]

Hi Laurie and welcome :hugs:
As for me I like the idea of shooting pool having a laugh not smoking, never would like having a few beers and some pizza, dunno if I would wanna discuss my finances though I'm old fashioned and don't think it's anybody else business xx Felix :hugs:

[Laurie909]

Thanks for your comments. Just a quick follow-up. Most of the guys at this get-together were in their 30s (maybe a few in their 40s), so they were long past their college days. Though I did spot one guy wearing a t-shirt and flip-flops that looked kind of young (though he could shoot a mean game of pool....or at least THOUGHT he could.)

You're right though about college days. When I was in my late teens and early 20s I did some wild things. I went to a PARTY school. In fact if I told you some of the stuff that went on you'd shoot back with "Stop lyin'!"

As for "church" and "bar" in the same sentence, well maybe the "church" didn't know what kind of get-together this was gonna be, like I said it was also a resturaunt, though I didn't see any of this group having a meal per se.

[John]

Back in the back of the room there was cigar smoking and the food consisted of nachos, pizza slices and buffalo wings.


Wow. You have flying buffalos in Tennessee?

[bi_weird]

Yeah some of that stuff works...some doesn't. But this seems like an appropriate place to post some advice for you guys who actually pass. Shouting "Hey babe" while drunk at the random girl across the street from you and then harassing her when she doesn't respond will NEVER get you tail. At least not from a girl you want.
Mistaking a guy and a girl for two girls...and then two guys...is also not a good way to pick up girls.
I was visiting a grad school this weekend and they took us to a bar. This guy Shane and I (it was new people so I was total girl mode the whole time - ugh) wandered town 'cause we didn't like the bar, and this loser drunk guys kept trying to hit on me. From across the street. Yuck. SOMEONE explain why guys do that?
So yes, guys, feel free to be guys. Just not that trashy. Or I'll come beat you up *looks menacing* *laughs and falls asleep 'cause she slept two hours last night*

[CaptLex]

this loser drunk guys kept trying to hit on me. From across the street. Yuck. SOMEONE explain why guys do that?
I always wondered about that too. What kind of bad advice did they get from some other clueless guy? I've always ignored them, but I wonder if someone actually went up to them, would they be flattered or high tail it and run. Sounds like a coward's approach to me. :rolleyes:

[John]

this loser drunk guys kept trying to hit on me. From across the street. Yuck. SOMEONE explain why guys do that?


Because they're drunk.

When drunk, the phrase 'it seamed like a good idear at the time' is the hight of logic.

[bi_weird]

Yeah guys are just stupid sometimes. Ugh. I'm currently trying to not hate men. There was all the morons at the bar that night (another guy in our taxi was giving Shane advice as to where to pick up girls in the area...in the most derogatory terms), and then last night one of my housemates sorta broke down about how she's pretty sure part of the reason she didn't make it as a physics major was that her profs were sexist.
I feel bad, 'cause there are so many great guys in my life, but the creeps stand out so much more.
*laughs* Of course, that being said, I'm in total guy mode today, and contemplating not shaving until I start wearing shorts.

[Abraxas]

Which reminds me of this bit of Izzard's Unrepeatable...

'You know, ‘cause there’s no reason, is there? Women wear whatever they want now, they have total clothing allowance, which is groovy; and so women wear what they want, and so do I! Yeah, that’s what it is; it’s just a choice thing, yeah. But you do get a certain amount of stick that goes with it, you know, certain people in the street give me a hard time – they’re d*ck-headed men, usually, and they hang out in groups of five, I think it’s because they have a fifth of a personality each, so they form a group of five… (audience claps) I appreciate your applause, but I don’t do this for applause… No, I do it for cash; it’s much better.

Anyway, they do, they hang out at Leicester Square, actually, in groups of five. They’re just there, you know, just waiting to shout at people. Must be a sad f*cking life, they say, “Oh, five o’clock! Better go to shout at people.” (mocks shouting) They do, they shout at people. (mimes d*ckhead man) “Oh, a bloke in a dress! Bloke in a dress!” (cackling) “Bloke in a dress!” (resumes cackling) “I told him! Yeah… And he agreed, he is a bloke in a dress. Didn’t make very much sense to tell him…” And they shout at women as well, I don’t know why they shout at women. “Oy, darling! Oy, darling! (cackles) Oy, darling! (cackles again) I told her too! Yes…” I think there’s an idea of trying to chat up women, that’s what it is. “Oy, darling, you and me! You and me! You and me…” And if one woman ever did say, “Okay, let’s go now!” I think that would totally freak him out. (freaked) “She said yes! She said yes! That’s not the deal, she’s not supposed to say yes. I don’t know what to do! Have you got any instructions?”

‘Cause you can’t go out with someone like that, ‘cause you say, “What do you want to eat?” and they go (growls) “Big ones.”

And actually there’s a code, when they shout- if people shout at you, there’s actually a code. When they’re shouting at you, “Oy, darling! Oy, darling!” means “I’m a w*nker! I’m a w*nker-! I am a w*nker! We all are, aren’t we?”

They do this on building sites as well. I’m sure there must be some builders on a sixth floor scaffolding, putting bricks on top of bricks, and doing the carpentry and the electrics and stuff, but there are lots of builders up there on the sixth floor, who just seem to be leaning over the edge, (mimes reading) “Hey! F*cking ‘ell! The cat sat on the mat! Eat cheese banana… I can’t read that one. F*ck off!” And construction companies must go mad. “I’m sorry about your building, we got on the sixth floor, everyone was just shouting off the balconies! They say they’re calling out the plasterers to prayer…”'

[jsoto81]

I think it all depends on the person. I love hanging out with my friends, but it's usually just in small groups. And I personally am not one for hanging out in bars, since I don't drink it's kind of pointless for me to go.

[ZenFrost]

Not particularly. I'm more into hanging out with the guys and playing violent 1st person shooter video games until 3:00 AM. Sports, smoking, and pool aren't really my thing.